I am a mess I really don't know what to do my relationship has issues we lack understanding and he's very upset with me idk how to make it up i can't really understand what interests me and what should I do in my career ahead it's just a bag full of issues at one time I love him I wanna keep him he loves me too but even he's having issues with me he's having issues at home his house is at stake and i am of no help i just don't understand how to go about...

Huh I'll say talk about it everything what you think and listen everything what he think 
I think in relationship there are always bad times but that make your bond even more better than before 😉 
And yes if you r wrong then accept it and if he is wrong make him correct


Stress

I sometimes feel like my boyfriend does need me as much as i need him , i knw he loves me but still there's this thing always crosses my mind , did he loved his ex more than me , he did crazy things for her but i have never seen that crazy side of his with me....when i overthink about all this it hurtsss me so much 

3am Thoughts

So I have been crushing on this guy for almost 3 years now ,2 years ago I heard he got a girlfriend far much younger than him we lost contact with each other mainly because I was hurt by this and he never knew I had a crush on him....
Last year he broke up with his girlfriend and he had a series of depression ,self hurt and suicidal thoughts I was more like a shoulder to cry on for about 8 months (not a rebound)  we got closer to each other and our bond  got stronger recently I went through a hearbreak and a series of anxiety and depression and when I told him about it over text he said we should go out to take my mind off of things we planned to get lunch and just talk (and its been highly requested by him many times) So the day finally came and I got stood up...
He hasnt returned any of myt exts or calls
He made matters worse

Crush

Confused! 
Hey fellas! 
I am in a relationship with a much older guy. We've had an on & off relationship in the past year, there were too many misunderstanding, miscommunication, not knowing each other's behavior in depth and this led us apart and also I ended up cheating on him and regretted it immediately. But deep down I knew I loved him to the core. After 6 months he approached me and said we deserve a chance. I confronted about  cheating on him and he also accepted his faults and agreed about our unfortunate circumstances. And eventually we started dating on a serious note but because our caste, religion and literally everything this different my parents will definitely not allow us to be together in the future. There is no issue from his side. This thought kills me as we are damn serious about our relationship and eventually if we are going to be separated then why continue now and hurt yourself later to such an extend that you might end up not loving or marrying anybody else and lately he's been acting different. 

Boyfriend

I feel very lonely since a month and I don’t know how to get out of this cycle. It all started from that night when I got so much drunk that I don’t remember most of the part but what I remember is the most horrible part. I had just moved to Pune 5 months back for an internship. The guy who ruined my life also joined as an intern 3 months back. 

As I was the only girl from mechanical branch so I hardly got friends at office, so when this guy (let’s name him Ajay) joined I found atleast some company and I really got along with his friends too. We were really close, having lunch together, used to give advice regarding my long-distance relationship problems and what not. Though Ajay and I were in the same department, we all used to meet often. Also, I had shifted to a flat recently and had started cooking, these friends really wanted to have a taste of my cooking so without even a second thought I invited them for a party. 

Since they were coming on Saturday night, I thought of making it a bit more fun by including drinks too. As my flatmates were also going to join, I thought it was safe enough plus I already trusted these guys. I had three flatmates and two of them had got their boyfriends along with them and one of them was the one who actually took care of me that night. Well I never even smoked before so that night I thought of trying it and I did. Now just with one cigarette I felt a bit dizzy but I thought I will get sober soon. My boyfriend was really not liking this whole idea of me calling them for drinks at the first place but I fought with him over this telling him he doesn’t trust me so my mobile was taken away from me at the initial stage so that I don’t do something stupid. We started our party on a happy note. Everything was working out fine until I took one neat shot and I realised that I needed some food or else it’s going to be a huge problem. But unfortunately no one was in any mood to  cook   anything. So, I continued taking a few more shots and I got really high. I remember dancing with everyone. 

It was going fine, though I got tipsy and had started losing balance but I kept going on and the last thing I remember is I fell over the sofa and then its morning and I was sleeping on my bed but not alone, I could sense there was some huge beard against my face and slowly I realise Ajay sleeping next to me. I tried pushing him away but this tall, dark, strong guy pulled me inside his chest. Though I was getting sober but didn’t get my strength back so I lay there and turned towards another side. I would admit I was really going through a tough time, trying to adopt a corporate life. Office life was nothing compared to what I had imagined. Every day was a struggle to get up and fight with the world to prove myself and everyone that I can survive there. On top of it, I don’t believe in long distance but I was really trying hard to maintain it and I seriously had no clue what Ajay would do with me in the next few minutes because somehow I just knew he was never into me. He used to always be very distant from me but that day, I suddenly felt his hand on top of my breast first and I really remember clearly, he first tried feeling them over my clothes and slowly he slid his hands inside my shirt. He squeezed them first and suddenly he went inside my bra too and had his time there. The problem is I kept feeling all of it and I never stopped him because I was shocked that if it’s a dream. He didn’t stop after all of this also, he lifted up my shirt and threw my hands over another side to get a few view of my bare body. He then tried to separate my legs but here I resisted because I understood that this is going way beyond what I expected. And I just pretended that I was sleeping because I was just too scared to even react. Within some time his friends came and called him and they left. It has been over a month but this keeps haunting me. I confronted Ajay about all of it but he just kept insisting that he doesn’t even remember doing any of it. Though his friends are the first ones who accepted that he is just saving himself and lying to me. But I don't know what to do and how to be normal. I have to work with him every day and look at him as if nothing has happened. I asked him to be away from me but I just knew it’s not going to help as it was going to get affect our work and since we both were interns, I was scared to take an extreme step. Along with all this, I am already having a very deep need to always try to get attention because i am just very insecure about myself and my body. I just never stopped him because I wanted to get assurance that people still love me the way i am. I just come from a very broken family where my parents are just separated for more than a decade now and i donno with whom to talk to about all of my feelings. To be honest I don't feel like living anymore. I'm just very tired of not being able to speak out my heart to anyone and i really can't find a happy place for myself. I really need someone to just hug and sleep forever.


Lonely

I want to share things and want your opinion 

I was in a relationship with a guy whose nation and religion are different. We met online.  I never thought in my life anything could work and I can ever have a serious relationship..just with the thought that he is great human being I went along with the feelings. When relationship survived more than a year we used to about meeting or if anything is possible in the future..he said I need to convert if something to happen...

Meanwhile I was in college where I met a guy who even after me telling him that I m committed still pursued as I was in new city and never knowing what boundaries are...he kept trying for friendship....but I used to be the group as we were only north indians...

Slowly my bf doesn't used to take it seriously that I can't convert and it was coming to my realization this will all come to an end...and told him about the guy that he is after me.
 I knew that he is not a guy that would be good for me...he used to say u should explore..blah blah..but I being a people pleaser couldn't do much..
Amidst all this I start having anxiety attacks...
I was scared that I would lose my love as there is no possibility of togethernness in this lifetime...and the other guy why is just not stopping 

One day I had dream of kissing the other guy on the cheek I woke up and felt..ki this dream means I  like him..i should not be with my bf..this is not good..how can of dream of other men...i said to break up as one day we have to part ways..i forced myelf

And felt as other girls move one come in relationship I can do the same...i broke up....but I still asked the guy to give me time...but he was like either end the friendship or relationship..i couldn't understand and felt alone that the group of friends I have will also won't be there again I have to ignore someone in the class...
He mesnwhile said to come with him to oyo.one fried of mine and her bf ..( from our group ) also used to go there ...i denied him that i dont want to ...he said we would discuss practical, watch movie ..spend time this way we will get to know esch other better ...lets go..ji agreed ..but still i felt i sm not doing right ...
And that night he without consent tried to come closer ..i was there numb like a dead body ....i somehow stopped him ..then he stopped ...that awkward silence snd i was hell scared ...


I felt we had moment so now it should be a relationship ....but suddenly after feeling alright ..of being in denial....my insecurities from relationship came ..that this guy would cheat his is not real ..somthing happened and i said i dont want to continue 
Lock down happend..my anxiety worsen ..had suicidal thought ...sought therapy ...

Then one day i receive text from my ex bf ( from different nation) that he feels i need a dog ...that i was feeling exactly like that ..i was totally alone in my darkness ...i couldnt understsnd how could he know ..

We talked discussed knew that this would end but we love each other ...

But before coming any closed i shared whatever happend beween me and that guy

He felt bad hurt but still accepted me ..we then continued for a year or so...
And we parted ways mutually ...that region and differences sil always be there ..respectfully we accepted ....snd that he nos wants to get married to somebody ...he feels he should get married as he is 24 then i felt i cant wait to see him getting married to somebody so we parted ways ....


I want to know was it cheating him any way ....that happned ..or ..it was just that i was naive and with all the baggage of emotions i made wrong choices which i dealt in therapy ..??



I'm feeling anxious today. Its been 11 months since my dad passed away. I'm okay. I was dating a person who started relationship with the line my mom told me to have an arranged marriage even I want to have one. He made me choose myself and my happiness but he never valued me and took me for granted. I spoke about it and then when decided to stop dating. I feel sad about . I liked him. My friend says he was just there for sex. I don't know. I just want to feel good ,wanted and share things ,all my highs and lows.  He was my first sex so it had that angle of being special but maybe I was just another girl for him. According to him it's not a breakup because it was just dating nothing more involved for me ,even though I didn't love him per say but have my emotions involved. 


I have all these feelings of losing and lost coming together. I'm scared about my mum and uncle who are my only family. 

Anxiety

HELP!!
Well, I met this guy 4 years back when he was even shy to sit beside a girl closely but I always had this ability to make people comfortable around me and slowly as days passed even he started to open up with his issues and started sharing almost everything (Note: It was always me who used to text him and many times he used to not reply to my texts even if he was online, but I still didn't leave him). I knew I liked his personality by then because he was not like other guys who always expect girls to do flirty talks or wear some fancy stuffs to attract attention and the best thing was he was a big time introvert which is one of my criteria to date someone because I feel if a guy is an introvert he would give all his time only to me, only did I know later that people change. Today, I have been dating that guy for past 2 and half years but in these years he has become more busy, has become more workaholic and the worst part he loves to give time to his new friends too. Where am I in all this I don't know. Yes he do say good morning goodnight love u n all but I don't feel connected anymore. It's not like he is ignoring me but I feel my part of time is being shared with these new friends. Yesterday he asked me to tell all our classmates date of birth and when I asked the reason he told me that even after leaving the college he wants to maintain all these friendships for the future. Maybe I should be happy with this new person he has grown into but I am not able to accept it. I was introvert and maybe for 2 years in the middle I tried to be extrovert but later I understood I am not an all time party person or all time enjoying with friends and gossiping n talking person so after some time I came back to my original introvert form but now my boyfriend has been in that extrovert scenario for almost 3 years I guess. There is not a single day when he talks about his new friends. There is no talking about us anymore I feel and am scared, when our relationship will become long distance one, I don't think he will have time to talk to me everyday. He keeps asking why don't I say something about my day, but I always feel there is nothing new in my everyday life. I live my life alone with my own company so what am I supposed to say at all. Please help me out what should I do or think or say. I feel the whole relationship to be a formality now. I don't want to feel like that. Please help me guys..

Relationships

(Just posting it again because I want suggestions)

So today I am going to tell you my story I like a guy and I don’t whether he like me back but we are pretty good friends. Just giving a backdrop he has so many mood swings sometimes he will literally act like he is your boyfriend and sometimes he will act like he even don’t know you.

But today something different happen, means he is getting even closer to me in terms of friendship and keep checking on me but today when we are in school bus so I was standing in the bus and was studying something. He was behind me and I didn’t realized that he pat on my neck and then asked me to come with him when I agreed he literally grabbed my waist and it was like heart blow out I was really nervous and didn’t knew how to react but when he left my waist it was like a whole big explosion in my head, heart which I can’t even explain through words.

I don’t know was it just a friend gesture or was it something. I even don’t want to know or plan it I just want to live in the moment.

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