I am a girl from a middle class family. Always struggling financially so much Rs 5 was a luxury for me. For my father’s sake and money’s sake I decided to do CA. When I was preparing for intermediate I started having mental and physical issued. I got severe migraine and eplipsy. It took me a while to clear CPT as well. But I never gave up. But later after 4th attempt I decided to quit and pursue MBA because it was taking time and I had to atlest earn for my own medicine I was fed up being burden on my father. I had a younger brother also. Later my mother got sick and it was time for me to earn so I started teaching which I never wanted to do. After three years my passed away. From the day I left CA my father disowned me. He hates me. All my life I have only seen my father being loving to me only when he wants something to me. Otherwise I am just a servant to him and my brother. He is punishing me by keeping me in kitchen showing me this is my place now because I left his dream.
You are in a worst situation
The thing is what is done is done
Ask yourself what do you want to do now cause as you told your father doesn’t care so go for anything you want be something and then see you father’s behaviour I know things are very hard for you right now but please don’t give up your dreams you still have time to do it there will be more worse challenges than this but it is what it is trust if you truly love what you doing those challenges will be the most beneficial opportunities for you
More strength to you girl stay strong
My father takes a shame on me being a teacher. All my life he has compared me to other girls who r tall beautiful, intelligent I am just a 5 feet fat girl. I am a zero to them whom no one wants to marry I am sick as well. Nothing in my life has ever worked out for me. Every time I raise my voice I m abused and beaten
If you are in such A situation it’s now okay get some help get to someone these is not how It should be you have all the rights
I hv tried. He hates me and other people believe me. They think my mother spoilt me n died. They say you only belonged to your mother. Now that she is gone your everything is gone.
Make it fuckin clear to them do they want you in their life or not and do you want them ?
Someday you have to take A big step cause if you continue you these nothing is goona change you’ll be depressed and none of your dreams will be full filled
No one believes me
Why do you want shitty people to believe you ?
Even after doing it they stop talking and eating. They victimize themselves. It’s been a day since my father hasn’t eaten anything why because I raised voice yesterday. More I speak more it gets out of control. It is not like I can leave them. He behaves like a teenager leaving food n all. Even gossiping about me to his family as if I am not his own family
I don’t care about them but my father
Is he mentally stable ?
Ya GE is. He is simply blind in my case. It was my cousins bday today who always torches me and talks bad about me to my father. Still today my father went to Celebrate Her B-Day. Took me also with him forcefully. All my life he has never celebrated my B-Day. All my life I hv never received B-Day gifts or any other kind of gift ever. Even no new clothes or things on Diwali also. This Diwali also I have got nothing. My broth got 6 new dresses
Why don’t you ask him and tell all about this cry in front him and just ask that WHY
He ignores my cries. He leaves the house or changes the room immediately. He hates to talk and change himself. He simply uses me show off. Every time I cry they make me the bad guy. My eyes are swollen right now due to crying bt they don’t even look at me
See I know you love your father but presently these is who he is you have tried everything for him you had done everything you can I’m not saying start hating him but stoping caring all the things related to him I know he’s your stop you can’t suddenly stop but just lower it to a extent.
I try this. But he leaves eating then I hv to pamper him like baby. All my life he has only hit me never pamper me
See as per what you are saying you really should arrange A small checkup for him
Middle class families don’t go to counciling. I know all three of us need counseling but they won’t go even if I go
See you specially should go for counciling I’m not telling to take your father to counciling I’m telling cause of his childish thing you should just show him to a doctor
I now it won’t change anything. Its me who he to change. I just want someone to be there for me to ask me if I m OK. Asking me only would erase all my pain. Care would be enough to make to stronger
If would be able to help you I’m gald feel free to talk anytime
Thanks
You are A strong girl more strength to you keep going and feel free to connect too
Thanku
hey, please stay strong. you went through a lot and it’s okay to be broken. It takes a lot of courage to share and you did that. proud of you.
now that you know the situation, you have to make a plan for yourself. Please manage some time and research for opportunities. start believing again and work hard. its tough but not impossible. work for yourself. and take care of your health. we are here, anytime.
I don’t even remember the last time I laughed or was truly happy without faking it. I have no reason to live. My existence doesn’t matter to any one. All my life In every aspect I m always cheated and hurt. Even if I die this moment I won’t regret it
no, you are important dear. please stay calm and start believing. and trust me, there are people who deserve you. give some time. and you gonna meet them. till then remove the negativity from your plate. and make yourself a priority. broken is beautiful, and so you are, your mind is. when in need please reach out for help. there’s nothing wrong with that. We love you, read that again!
Thank you I know that. But but now I feel like enough with this why am I living this way
