I AM 21 YEAR OLD MARRIED WOMAN. I HAVE BEEN LIVING WITH MY HUSBAND FOR FOUR MONTHS AND BEEN MARRIED FOR A YEAR NOW. HE HAD INITIALLY TOLD ME THAT HE WASNT A VIRGIN AND HAD TRIED ALCOHOL, DRUGS AND SMOKING. I WAS OKAY WITH IT BUT NOW I FEEL LIKE I HAD DESERVED MUCH MORE THAN THAT. HE COMES BACK FROM OFFICE AND IS ALWAYS ON THE PHONE AND MOSTLY ON INSTAGRAM. HE GETS INTIMATE WITH ME AND ONCE IT GETS OVER HE CONTINOUS SCROLLING. I DONT FEEL THE PASSION OR INTIMACY HERE. HE KEEPS TEXTING GIRLS MOST OF THE TIME. HE MEETS STRANGERS ONLINE AND MOSTLY GIRLS GET CLOSE. WHEN I TOLD HIM HE WAS LIKE WHATS WRONG WITH IT JUST SOCILIAZING RIGHT. I FEEL BETRAYED. I AM SOMEONE WHO GENUINLY WANTS TO WORK AND LOVE MY HUSBAND BUT HE IS GIVING ME REASONS TO LEAVE. I KEEP STALKING HIS SOCIAL MEDIA ALWAYS. IM DRAINED OUT. IDK WHAT TO DO
Don’t worry, I will always listen to you. Regarding your husband, I hope he realize what he did is totally wrong. Socializing is an important, too but he must also know that excessive socializing with opposite gender especially if his preference is the opposite gender, he should know the limit. It seems that you have confronted him. If things become worse, you should ask your parents help. If u’r afraid of the elders words, ask for some advices from ur friends. Believe in me, they will try to help as best as they can. That’s all maybe for now i guess. I’m not an expert or anything. I hope this advices can help you.
I know it is not simple to do but you will be better if you leave him. Maybe
it’s hard because you still have love left for him but because he is clearly flirting and seeing others it means that he has no respect for you. What you tolerate is what you get so if you continue to accept this kind of person in your life, you will be the only one to suffer in the end. I read a quote saying “Find what you love and let it kill you” I agree with that but only if it is worth dying for. Remember that marriage is being committed with your partner and that dumbass man doesn’t want to be faithful so yeah, he lied to you at the altar. Let go
We hear you and we’re here for you. It sounds like you feel very alone. There are a lot of people who also deal with this. There is nothing to be ashamed of, it affects a lot of us.
Infidelity is a problem across geographical borders, within marriages and unmarried partnerships, across various ages, genders, religious, racial and socioeconomic groups. The wreckage of an affair can leave lifelong effects on the betrayed partner, children, extended family, and even the person who has been unfaithful in the relationship.
No two people will experience stress in the same way and one’s social/emotional resources can work to buffer or protect against the negative effects of stress. You could maybe start forming protective factors that can include support from friends/family, from a therapeutic relationship and from participating in healthy activities to help you manage the ordeal you are undergoing at the moment.
An individual’s beliefs play a large role in how one responds to stress and forming those protective factors could go a long way.