Swagatika @thelofigirl
I am 16 years old. I live in Germany for 3 years. I got diagnosed with depression last year in November. I think I am getting better and I am hating myself a little less every day. But I feel like I am just pretending this. I am pretending for my family. My family doesn’t understand such things. when my school suspected that I had attempted suicide, they send me to get professional help. I am in a hospital for a week. My family was shocked because they had no idea. They were okay with me in the starting but it seems like they just wanna believe that I am fine now. no, I am not. I don’t fit in this perfect world where everyone has got their lives figured out, has got a perfect qualification, perfect job perfect everything. and here I am not being able to figure out what I wanna do in life. I also face problems with learning German. What am even doing here? Maybe it’s a sign to just die but my mom is gonna be devastated. She has already faced so many problems in her life I can’t do this to her but if I live I am just gonna disappoint her. I also don’t get good marks. My parents provide me so much and what do I give them in return? Nothing. everyone around me knows what they are doing. I am sick of this shit please give me some advice.
Adarsh @adarsh4
Buddy…u r only 16…u dont need to look tooo forward into the future…thers plenty of time to figure out wht u r doing…just try to live in the present for now…u will b just fine…just dont overthink and overcomplicate things…be strong😇
Swagatika @thelofigirl
I am very homesick. I haven’t been to India for 3 years. I cant be strong. Germany is suffocating me. I feel alive in India. ik Aborad is supposed to be a good thing…idk
Adarsh @adarsh4
Oh okkay…just take one thing at a time dear….see im 26 now…n the way i see it…if i can go bak 10 years to ur age…i wud have done a lot of things differently…yes but also im grateful of so many things which happened out of my plans…See God is a much better script writer than most of us humans…n u wud b amazed at the things the future has in store for u…things u wudnt evn have thot abt in ur dreams…so wht i wud say is…take a deep breath n just live in the present…yes u wud b homesick but germany cant b as bad as u think…try to enjoy the things there too…just dont think too much abt these things…n may u have a wonderful future ahead💛💚
Swagatika @thelofigirl
you are right I should just focus on the present.
Adarsh @adarsh4
Greatt…u will find ur peace dear….🤍 Talk to me or anyone for tht matter if u hv any issues with tht…Good day😇
Swagatika @thelofigirl
Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope the best for you<3
Adarsh @adarsh4
Nice talking to u…its been a pleasure🤗
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
Hi, I am actually 20 years old and tbh i just figured out what I wanna do in my life, my works in a Psychiatric institute and I haven’t told her about anything, I have learning disability, but that’s not gonna stop me from persuing what i want, i am actually doing a Bsc degree rn and i have been struggling for one three years and am stuck in the first year, at the start i thought i was not capable of studying but then I understood i had no interest in it, you are great at English ,just give yourself time and death is never the problem solver, trust me that’s the worst decision, this world is not perfect we’ll understand that coz of our age but not them coz their generation is different and ours is different, give yourself time and il be honest with you, I have been going for councelling and therapy since 5th grade with the help of my sister, and my mom knows very little, you are worth more than what you can think, just be positive, am pretty sure you yourself know what you like and what you’ll be successful in, love yourself, there’s alot more to face, never let go of urself, be the best version of urself and never stop smiling and thank you for reading this comment all the way till here, i really hope you have a very very beautiful life after now, everything gonna be alright love❤️
Swagatika @thelofigirl
You have no clue how much your comment means to me. I have tears in my eyes. I lost all my friends cause I was too much so I stopped talking to anyone. I am so glad that I found this platform. I cant thank you enough for taking time for me.
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
Listen, you don’t have to thank me, depression is just a pain in the dash dash dash😂 take it easy, no matter what you are the love of your own life, you can talk to me anytime, am completely new to this app i have no idea how to add you, so if you know how to, please do go ahead and add me, anytime you need anything please do text me, il be there for you
Swagatika @thelofigirl
It says that i need to spend more time in this app in order to add you. I have no clue how it works…
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
Then we could talk here until it says we can connect
Swagatika @thelofigirl
yess thank you so much :))))
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
So how did you’re day go? Did you eat well?
Swagatika @thelofigirl
It was bad. I didnt study at all case i was with a friend for a sleepover. And i havent eaten anything. I suspect i am getting my eating disorder back. yes everything is fucked up haha. How are you?
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
Listening to what you said just made me feel bad, i wanna be honest with you, make this an habit, ik i sound like a geek or a parent but it’s for your good, no matter what you are going through never skip food, atleast have a snack, and drink water and also takh to someone, everything gonna be alright
Swagatika @thelofigirl
i will do that. How was your day?
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
Mine went kinda lame, was stuck at home all day, my grandma’s sick so had to rush back to the village two days back and my pups has come along with us, so i gotta take care of her
Swagatika @thelofigirl
im so sorry…i hope your grandma is doing well
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
She’s going great, she met her daughter (my mother after a while she was very happy and she’s doing great now)
Swagatika @thelofigirl
Im so glad.
If it helps , let me tell you im 23 and still have no idea what i actually wanna do. Also i suck at lot of things. Anybody telling you they got their whole life together perfectly is lying or just delusional. There are challenges everyday and you fail everyday.
You are just 16. You dont have to look so far ahead in future. Dont be afraid of life and what comes to you. I will tell you few simple things if you want to improve
1. Write a journal /diary about how you feel. Everyday. It can be a word, a line or one paragraph. Just take that 5 minutes for yourself at the end of the day.
2. Remember , if you wanna do something, do it. Even if you do poor, its okay.
Also try to stay away from toxic SM cause it will tryna convince yoi that ppl have got their shit together . Especially ig as SM
(Haben sie einen guten tag / gute nacht)
Swagatika @thelofigirl
It does help. I will try that thank you so much. Aap bohot ache ho.
Andrew Jude W @andrewjude
What he says is so true you don’t have to worry, you got a bright future ahead, just wait and grasp it
