i always have fights with my family and the environment gets ugly
Let go and let god.
Dysfunctionality in families is more common than we think. And frivolous yet powerful matters like finances can really trigger our inherent beliefs about money, which often spirals down and gets personally transmuted through verbal jabs and attacks. If this is a temporary thing, then it will get better as your finances get better. But if this verbal projection of stinging words is a normal thing, and i am taking my own familial scenario as an example, then this is a form of verbal abuse and it doesnt take a lot of deciphering to figure out if it is or isnt. If it is, please try and become financially independent if you are capable, and refrain form engaging in family drama.
just let the things go