How to stop feeling in pain?
I feel betrayed and fooled. So painful to understand that a person who I though I was taking care of for so many years actually doesn’t give a crap about me.
Not that the person hates me or likes me, or feels absolutely anything to me. I can’t even understand how is that possible to fake feelings for that long. And why would anyone do it. Why there are people who can do such things just to take advantage. Has anyone gone through the same? How can I start feeling OK after it? It’s so damn painful to accept :(
I don’t think that you can stop the pain, it’s ok to feel sad or betrayed, but try to do things that makes you happy or try meditation to reduce the pain, in youtube you can find them.
Don’t blame yourself breakups are hard, and I wish you could feel better soon💖
You must be in deep pain and cycle of thinking where it all went wrong and why didn’t you see this earlier. It’ll help if you can tell what exactly happened.
That’s the problem. Because nothing happened. This person just started giving me reasons not to talk to me. Or when we were talking he would not look at me and would be texting others or doing something on his laptop. He kept saying nice things to me and finish every text message with precisely 2 kissing emojies. And it started feeling fake to me. Several months ago he was acting different, I did believe he truly had feelings for me. And suddenly out of nowhere he changed. And I told him that I noticed that. He shouted at me, said “you think it’s better we stop talking at all”, hanged up and since that moment we don’t talk. And I don’t know what to think. Everything just makes me realize that he really is not that interested about having me in his life. I just don’t understand anything. And I realize that every time I was supporting him, I used to always take his side (even had to forget about my own feelings just to understand him, to support him and care about that person).
For the first time I want to think about myself. And what I find so far is that he doesn’t give a crap. I just don’t understand how, we have been together for many years… I feel like I have been in love with a person who I imagined, not with who he really is. It I don’t understand anything… I don’t know anything anymore. And it just hurts
This is just painful. There can be many possibilities but most of them requires atleast heart to heart conversations. Either living together or separation should be talked openly. People for some reason now think they have options and instead of going through the talking phase of separation, think its better to act passive and disinterested. There are times when one person has to pull through and anyone suggesting to just focus on yourself and never change yourself has never been in a true relationship. A bit of sacrifice and efforts are never in vain with the right person.
I would suggest to have an upfront chat regarding what that person wants from you or whether he’ll be happy more if you’re not in his future. These questions themselves will give any serious person and reality check and energy to pull their act together.
What you’re feeling is relatable and not something unimaginable at all. But sometimes we have to go through phases even when we don’t want. That’s how bonds are tested!! Keep sharing, you don’t have to go through all the pain alone.
