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Rahul @lonely_lucky

How to forgive someone who cheated you multiple times?

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Anonymous

You have to leave that person

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Rahul @lonely_lucky

What if he / she is your life partner?

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Anonymous

Life partner means you are married?

Rahul @lonely_lucky

Yes

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Anonymous

If you are married then talk to her she is the only person who can solve this or give her divorce

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@sdfgh

DON’T!

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candy @little

You shouldn’t forgive them

Rahul @lonely_lucky

There is no option left for me… I can’t give her divorce and keep my kids future in dark… But I’m unable to digest the fact that she has done to me.
Clueless about the situation on how to handle this trauma.

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Anonymous

Yeah that’s absolutely true like you can’t even get divorced now for your children’s sake … so try to speak with her and get to know the reason behind why is she cheating!! Make her understand that you both must and should pave a brighter way of future for your children!! She might understand I guess …

Anonymous

The best thing would do is first ask y she had the need to cheat multiple times ? You need to know that. Second you ask yourself are you ready to forgive someone like that? If yes, you are truly great. Third, even if you forgive and she repeats it in the future… then what… think of ur future now. Think of yourself, your pain… your life. (Not married… but just trying to help)

Rahul @lonely_lucky

I keep in asking her from the first time she has cheated me… But you know the simple statement she gives is it was an accident…I too didn’t realise until the mistake happened. Second time when she cheated … She has given me the same answer like i thought of stopping it but it is out of my hands now…im trying to change olz give me some time to comeout of this… I have given her couple of weeks which she agreed but again third time she got cought and she was clueless about it and started crying and requesting to forgive her i have given her chances and time she asked for. But in return she hurted me more. Now she has completely stopped interacting with him but I don’t know whether to trust her at this point or not. May be im doing wrong thing to forgive her so easily again inviting her to do more mistakes.

Not able to take any decision.

Im only concerned about my kids…they should not suffer between us. Don’t know how to take it and respond accordingly

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Rahul @lonely_lucky

I have 2 kids … They are 12 and 9

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@vaishnavii

NO NEED TO FORGIVE THE PERSON NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE

Rahul @lonely_lucky

Yes even I thought for the first sight that i shoukd not forgive her and give her divorce so that she can live as per her wish. But i love her very much and important thing is at this point my focus is more on kids.

My thoughts are like let her live as per her wishes… if I’m not happy in life atleast my kids will be happy. At this point they require her more than me.

@vaishnavii

If your wife keeps cheating on you even then your kids will be affected no matter how much you try to ease out things and this kind of atmosphere will be bad influence for you kids they just require a good atmosphere.

Rahul @lonely_lucky

Yeah that’s true but how make realise about this situation. They lover her a lot

@vaishnavii

How old are your kids??

Rahul @lonely_lucky

Elder one is 12 and younger one is 9

@vaishnavii

both are pretty young you talk to your wife about kids like what will happen to them what about their future.

Rahul @lonely_lucky

That’s the thing haunting me every time. Now I stopped thinking about my self and my married life which is gone now and jo hope left to stay happy again with her. A patch in life is always a patch even though you cover it with anything.

This thoughts making me to go into depression and scared to share my feelings with my friends and family as they start judging her and treat her as a bad women for which she may take any drastic step to end her life. Her parents left her when she married me and there is jo support for her from outside … Im the only person supports her and stood by her all these years. After doing all this things also she has cheated me for no reason

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Preeti @preetieee

There’s no place for forgiveness after cheating u should just move on!

Rahul @lonely_lucky

4 yes back she had a major surgery to her knee and she was completely on to bed for 8 months at that time I had taken permission from office and took care of her and doesn’t make her felt alone… At the time when her parents ignored her I was there with her everytime. She also has rheumatoid arthritis… I know how much I worried about her health and there are days which I have spent my entire salary and went to debts for her but I didn’t even let her know all this things… It’s my responsibility I felt and she should not feel burden because of my financial crisis.

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