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How to figure out if I’m not straight? Anyone have any advice? Idk it’s all too confusing when your whole life since birth you’re told you’re a girl and you are ‘supposed’ to be attracted to only a male but now I kinda feel attracted to females too. Idk what to do about that or how to sort it out or know for sure? My friends don’t know about this although I’ve had said this many times in front of them but ofc with humor so they think I was joking only. I’m scared to talk to anyone about this if I’m bisexual or not. I’m just looking for someone who might be willing to spare some time and help me figure this out

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Anonymous

Firstly, let me tell you it’s okay to be bi - sexual. And I am sure if you think you are one, and when you come out, your friends will definitely support you :) .
How old are you though? Maybe you should just give yourself some time to figure out what exactly you are.

Anonymous

I’ll be turning 21 this month. And this has been going for a few years now and honestly it gets exhausting sometimes. It’s like two people in my brain are fighting if I’m bi or not. Idk how to know for sure

Anonymous

Okay let me be very honest with you. Unless you actually get into a relationship, I don’t think you will be able to know .

Anonymous

I understand but once I talked to a girl on bumble and she denied going out with someone who is still figuring it out coz apparently they’ve been through it already and they didn’t want to get involved in that much of a emotionally draining process which I totally understand. They are not obligated to help me figure out or something but that rejection crushed me.

Anonymous

I’m from Delhi

Anonymous

Yeah! I’ve been in couple of relationships before

Anonymous

Not exactly good

Anonymous

It was complicated

Anonymous

Yeah it was good with one

Anonymous

No it was before that too…it’s like it’s here for few years now. But idk for sure

Anonymous

Nope…I tried but got rejected so don’t exactly have the confidence to ask someone again. Also Idk any other bi personally

Anonymous

Yeah

Anonymous

Idk…I’m just looking for sone clarification and how to figure this thing out

Anonymous

Yeah Thankyou

Anonymous

Rejections are all a part of life. Don’t get dejected by rejections.

Anonymous

And also, there are bi sexual people here as well. Maybe you should talk to them as well.

daisyblah

My budd. Don’t just rush things. Just take it slow. Explore yourself. Explore the world. And even if you are bi. We will be here to support us no matter what. Don’t worry budd. I have been there too. Just let it be. Let your own mind decide what it wants. If you restrain yourself then it would build more and more confusion. My girlfriend is also bi. If you wanna talk. I’ll be here

n

The dilemma is real, all of us go through that phase and eventually figure ourselves out over the years through experiences and learning about ourselves, our likes, dislikes… etc
Unfortunately you will have to experience things first hand to be able to tell… date people and enjoy the journey