Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

She said she needed a break. So I said fine. How long does this break usually lasts is what I’m asking

Break from socials, or break from you?

From me

Ou… do you know her in real life or online

Real life

First of all im sorry for you (to hear that you have such situation)
Are you in like relationship?

Yeap

So it’s fine if they come back after 3 weeks

Totally fine …but if u r anxious or smthg, just ask her how her break went…what did she do?? Did she missed you or not??
Just communicate with her…all things will be back to their pieces

Idk when she’s gonna text back or if she will at all…just went no contact in one sec it feels weird. Had a dream where I was having conversation with her like we wud have daily. And just I was upset with her abt something and she just said she wanted break all i could say was okay. Felt like she didn’t care about me

Maybe she’s waiting for you to text her or smthg??

What shud I text?? I was upset about something I expressed that and she didn’t even cared to ask what made me upset n when I refused to let go of my hurt she just said she wants break. Idk felt like she just ran away just bcz I expressed her my state n for expecting the bare minimum

Tbh the way u r describing the situation, it feels like she’s a lil bit manipulative (?)
Ofc as u both are in relationship, it’s natural to be 50-50 but why does it feels ki she has sorted her priorities by announcing break and here you are stuck in kinda dillemma…
Was the break thing coming or was it spontaneous???

Yea I feel that too, when I said I was angry she just took it lightly when I brought it again she just started telling me how she’s been aloof and her problems this n that…but still I refused to accept it as an excuse and said I’m still upset, all i feel is that if she has time for random talks and to send random posts she can sure as hell ask what made me upset that’s all I wanted but she came with the break thing. It was spontaneous. Idk what to do. I feel weird. And don’t know what to do

Ohh…i see you point here!
Do u wanna connect or should we just continue the further thing here?

Continue it here please

Np at all :)
So i was thinking ki is this first time she ignored your situation?

Yes. Otherwise she’s very caring. But the habit of bringing her problems when we are getting into some argument is usual which I don’t like. But then also she never just cut me off

I think that’s her own personality then…
She does care about you but when it comes to her own decisions, she might be too aggressive about that (maybe)
So you should communicate with her dude…tell her that you miss the main bond between you and her…ask her ‘are we drifting apart or is it just a phase that we both can overcome’…if she has the answers for both these questions, then you can know where you both are at…

Idk she just gave up on me. And i feel so hurt and abandoned. Felt like why I held on to the hurt. And she’s wrong for making me feel this for making me feel like i did wrong for expressing myself. And i really feel it’s her responsibility to reach out. She didn’t even asked what made me upset. Just left me hanging. Nothing at all. I don’t think it wud be right for my mental health to reach out to her. And as the days pass by feels like maybe she found someone or maybe she think I’m not the one so she just let me down gently saying she needs a break

I understand what you are talking about…but dude people come and go in our lives…their memories and the moments do stay with us!
But i do suggest that you should talk to her once because you have the right to end things (if they are really this bad).
This will help you to accept the facts and there will be no regret about this whole thing.
Maybe your future has big plans for you or smthg…but as for now …do reach out to her because you have the right to get a clear answer for all this situation. Don’t overthink much

I just don’t feel like reaching out. My stance is that if she doesn’t reach out I’ll know she’s moved on. Cz uk even if u took a break u can atleast text a hi how are you doing??? Like she just went away bro. No concern about the thing which I expressed upset me and also about the break!! It’s so heartless uk! Just take a break like i have no heart it won’t affect me. And just ghosted. Well i guess no message is also a message

Well…you do have a point here!
But don’t u think that you are jumping on conclusions about her current situation?
Maybe I dunno much about you and her but I don’t want u to regret about this communication thing later!
Yk na the end decision will be yours, that’s why I am tellin u…you don’t have to communicate to her right away…just let urself cool down and then sort things out!
Maybe break was her way of treating/abandoning the relationship but if you are gonna do the same thing then what will be the difference??
This is a fragile matter which needs care and clearness…

Yea you make sense. I agree. But it’s way out of my maturity level. And practically why wud you wanna sort things out with someone who wants to do nothing with you? Who doesnt care why u are hurt and in turn hurts u more with this break thing and then literally ghosts you. Idk why wud anyone want to initiate a communication with someone like this. And what’s there to sort. I really feel this is totally her responsibility now. Cz the last time we talked i told her I’m upset on her and she replied with she wants break. And tho I understand her problems and situations and gave her the break I don’t think it’s my responsibility to reach out now.

It’s really is a hard decision that you have to make dude…
If u wanna end things, that’s totally fine, don’t let the gray area of overthinking confuse you!
I just hope whatever situation (other than ur relationship) u are in rn gets sorted soon!❤️✨

Hey thank so much💯 having this conversation with you really helped a lot. Getting this off my chest was what I needed. I love her and i understand her problems and that’s why maybe I’m waiting cz initiating anything now will most probably lead to breakup. So I hope she reaches out to me soon and even if she doesn’t she was never mine to keep. Hope she gets her life sorted. Thank you still. It was great talking to you

Same here dude…it really was nice talking to u! :)
If u ever wanna talk abt anything just lemme know here only, will surely respond✨

Thanks alot!! Take care

U too dude :)

Just life career

Yea I’m kinda feeling the same. Maybe she just brokeup with me. I think I’m gonna start my move on process

Talk to her once dude. Bina clarity ke agla step mat lo. But at the same time, be prepared cause she might suggest break up as well .

Yea and somewhere I’m not ready to face that reality I might just let it keep hanging on while I get busy with my life and if she reaches out I’ll take decision as to how I feel about her at that moment. Rn it’s all confusion and hurt. Till then I’ll just consider her to be busy and I’ll also get busy. Cz if I reach out and she breaks up I’ll lose control over me, I’ll fly off the handle. I won’t be able to take it uk. It’s just been one day of break and i had our usual convos in my dream. So I feel it’s better I get busy and get equipped if break up is what’s coming.

Dude its your first day of break . Aise bolo na. Chill. 3-4 din ruko , she will text back.

I don’t wanna keep any hopes.

Is this your first relationship ?

Nope, second

And how did your first relationship end? Asking coz i feel relevant here

Not any specific reason. Just a lot of fights on random things which later turned very much toxic. So had to let go. But the same thing I guess. She also expected to just let go of what is bothering me at the end of the day and move on and i did it for the longest time to keep us happy but eventually understood that’s not how it works so this time being careful.

I can understand your reasons. Past relationship experience ki wajah se hota hai (although im single forever ). But i also know ki each person is different. I feel you should have some more hope in this new relationship. Wish you the best for it

Let’s see how this one turns out. I don’t have much hopes. But really don’t wanna lose myself this time at the cost of saving the relationship.