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@autumnwinds

How does one make new friends in their 30s??

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Shivay @shivay2595

By talking. Have little conversations with people. Try and see who matches your vibes and then slowly slowly create a bond

@autumnwinds

This question arises after doing almost everything possible

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Shivay @shivay2595

I can understand. But we have to try. It’s that phase of our lives where we have seen real faces of the people whom we once trusted more than ourselves. So everyone is a little bit on a cautious side and it’s natural. No one wants to get hurt at this stage of life. So try slowly. Give them space and just talk. Baatein karo. Trust me baatein karne se easy kuch nahi hota

@autumnwinds

Agreed

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anuj @anujvohra

Efforts and meeting people in real…also meeting school and college friends helps…

@autumnwinds

Efforts usually tend to be one sided

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anuj @anujvohra

Put efforts without much thinking that it is one sided or both side…if you connect genuinely it works.

@autumnwinds

Trust me, have been doing that all my life. You trust people, let them in, think they are really good friends, and they end up leaving, then you start all over again. That’s just been the cycle. It’s frustrating, to a point where you don’t have the energy to do all of this over and over again just to get hurt.
Losing friends hurts more than even a relationship ending.

@xylys

Simple don’t try it at the 1st place. Just be yourself and accept the fact that the pace of life is different for every Gen-Pact age categorised species. Every age group has it’s own conditions and if you’d try to fit in something that you ain’t actually then trust me it ain’t gonna come out with any goodwill.

@autumnwinds

That’s how it has been for a while, but it does get lonely you know.

@xylys

Trust me I’ve witnessed loneliness pretty closely that you can’t even imagine. But that doesn’t mean the outside world is all hunky-dory. We all need a shoulder to lean on no matter what and I wouldn’t denie onto that fact ever at all. But the fact doesn’t change a bit at all and we all need to be realistic to realize nobody can bring back the rundown time.

@autumnwinds

Well, no one here is sitting crying in a corner like ‘ohh I’ve no friends I’m lonely’, but it won’t be nice to have a few friends to talk to, go out with for a change instead of doing things all by yourself.

@xylys

True that is and you’ve got every right to do so as well. But the million dollar question is are you willing to put ya trust & faith into someone known and called as friend to lead that imagination thoughtfulness moments for real huh.

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Addy @spartan_adictus

The advantage of having a friend in your 30’s is you know what kind of people you need. So that pool is already small. Watch their vibes and decide if you want to approach. Give some time. Coz it will take some effort for the trust to build. Love❤️

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Anonymous

When you find out, let me know? 😅 I am also on that boat lol

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