How do I stop myself from being always available for the opposite personβ¦
I sometimes feels ki mai hamesa available rhti hu why that is not with the opposite personβ¦ when i need them they arenβtβ¦
Bahut bura lagta hai yeβ¦ i want to stop myself from being always there n stop expecting them to be there mere liye as wellβ¦
Indeed but you gotta change a lil for people who take you for granted because not everybody deserves a good heart.
Ye bahut baar lagta hai that i shouldnβt think of changing myself, but na har chize ka ek point hota haiβ¦ itβs like har baar mai hi kyu samjhu that i need them n there timeβ¦
Vo chize samne wala bhi toh samaj sakta hai na ki mujhe bhi unki jarurat haiβ¦
And thank you for saying this that i m good towards ppl aajkal toh ye bhi sunne nai milta hai π₯²
Indulge yourself in something you like. It can as simple as playing mobile games or reading or watching series.
Bilkul maan nai lag rha kisi chiz maiβ¦ dikkat wahi aarhi haiβ¦ aur toh aur i m constantly thinking or you can say overthinking n being available for the pplβ¦
Lekin jb mai baat karna chahti toh itβs like occupiedβ¦ bdme baat karte haiβ¦
Naahh not reallyβ¦ kyuki itβs for everything and everyoneβ¦
Kabhi kabhi toh khud ko lagta hai mujhe aajkal that mai kitna hi jayda available hu logo ke liye n mere liye kyu nai koi itnaβ¦
Pta nai mai over expect kar rhi logo se ya i need to understand ki har baat sunne n samjhne ke liye log har baar sath nai hoteβ¦
I might have to calm down myself mentally bahut jayda aisi feeling aati hai
Learn to say no, and not to feel guilty when you say no, have some boundries in any relationship, your niceness and being there for other people should not make you exhausted and spoil your mental peace, prioritize yourselfβ¦if you want to say no to a situation, say it politelyβ¦if they are people who care for you they will understand, if they dont then no need to worry about people like thatβ¦
Itβs like i m mentally exhausted n emotionally weakβ¦ i want ppl around me( my own ppl)β¦
Lekin shyd kisi ko samaj nai aarha wat i need n coming to saying no is something always a problem for meβ¦ koshish karti hu fir bhiβ¦ but bahut baar aise hota ki i put ppl sub chiz ke aagaeβ¦ kahi na kahi ye galat bhi hai har chiz maiβ¦ mujhe ye chiz samjh nai aarhi that why I m not able to focus on myself jaise i use to beβ¦
I m not able to figure out whats wrong with meβ¦ wherein i am not interested in doing anythingβ¦ the things I use to enjy i kinda stopped it for some reasonβ¦
Your looking for validation from the people around you and you are scared that they might not like you if you say no, stop that, know your selfworth, even if you loose some people it will be the people who do not care for you, because someone who really understands you wont leave if you say no to something, and i really believe you dont need many many people around you always, having that one or two people who really understand you is just enoughβ¦
I m scared of loosing ppl alot⦠thts bothering all my other things⦠somewhere bahut hi jayda vo bhi
Just ignore and be yourself for 21 days and it will become a habit and like wise you will expect less from others and you wonβt get hurt or used, even though something like that happens you wonβt be giving a damn about it.
How do get that startβ¦ my determination towards things are least or like itβs in negativeβ¦
Sochti bahut kuch hu to come out of it lekin ho nai parhaβ¦ basics se start karna hoga lagta hai waps mujheβ¦
Yeah just go with your pace. But be positive about it and start living for yourself for just once and you will cope up.
Hopefully I do come out n get back myself the way I wasβ¦
I m hating this version of mine like anythingβ¦
You will get over it.