how do I defer real friends from imposters? genuinely, been mentally and emotionally tired for a few weeks...

yea, time did reveal true ones but the sad part is true ones weren't the ones that 'claimed' to stay


And focus on yourself more.real ones will be with u

tbh, the realest one I have ever met is me , lol, so I don't think I should be bothered by any other thing

Friends

Individuals may view meaningful conversations differently. Some find them dull, others consider them as a type of showboating, and yet others recognise their importance but struggle to avoid them. However, you will eventually meet someone who values and understands the importance of meaningful interactions, and they will become the appropriate buddy for you. Alternatively, having no expectations and no friends might be a valid and rewarding road to take.

Why do I feel like I'm the only one constantly trying to prove that I'm their friend. Engaging in conversation with them , making effort in friendship.
While they only call me when they need help , but when I want to talk there's no one to talk to . I don't even share my feelings with anyone anymore , because no one cares even when I share. 

ADHD

Is it okay to feel detached from your friends? I mean they carry-on stuffs without giving any focus on my downs but they want to be part of the "good" things happening in my life. I surely am feeling sad and trying to cope up with this. 

Can anyone just talk to me I’m losing friends iam not able  to understand why is that iknow losing friends is a part of life but what’s wrong with me everyone around me have better bonds then me why is that

3am Thoughts

what's your take on  friends? Like I've had this issue or whatever since many years now. I don't know what happened. I had a couple of really good friends in school, thought they'd be around forever types, thought that friendship was genuine. But girls and their drama and they all drifted apart. I have like very selected real close ones. But to be honest, it always bothers me why? I am not really part of the trendy or the happening groups, nor those who went to fancy schools/uni. It's just so mentally stressful, sometimes just to really wonder if I'm missing out on all the amazing stuff. I really don't know, what it is, the people in my class or just in general, I no longer connect with anyone in that deeper sense. It's not like I go around hating people. But I feel nobody really likes me, and like never really felt that forever feeling staying. I really don't know if all this makes sense. I don't even really like my birthday tbh. 
I feel really alone when I see all the posts by people celebrating so many years of friendship. It's just idk.It's not like I Don't like being by myself, I absolutely love it! I love myself and I love spending time with my thoughts and talking to myself. I've actually started loving myself more and more when I finally started to value my presence in others lives and figured out my priorities. I felt free. I had this gang in highschool, we were extremely close almost family like. And then by the end of 10th grade somehow I was cornered and just left out. I always try to overcome all this, but it's just not happening. Professionally I'm good in getting stuff done and networking and working in a team and all that. But when it comes to the personal aspect, I feel nobody is really there for me as much as I am for them. It can be small things like replying to my texts or something like that. I don't know what went wrong. Lol. I still remember in 5th grade I had this book to keep track of my friends and their birthdays and favourite colours, and I would rank them and all. Stuff like that, come back often. Was it because I wasn't allowed to "hangout" or spend as much with them? Was it because I never was cool because I never really had a proper boyfriend to chat on Facebook but just lame crushes? Was it because I didn't know people who went to posh schools? This particular girl, X  was one of my closest friends, I completely broke when we drifted apart. I don't think I have gotten closure . And it's just so dramatic, that there was Y who didn't like me that much and now they post 14 years of friendship on their stories. I really don't know. . I feel because of them, I lost trust or belief in friendship altogether. Now it's just materialistic and idk vv thought provoking as to how much this should and is affecting me. 
I did make wonderful brilliant friends later on, and those friendships are truly ❤️, I'm blessed. But somewhere I feel the truest sense of innocent friendship died with them. And that's stayed all this while. I did try reaching out, but when there's no effort from the other side, it's just a dull game of self respect woes. Ashte. Now given the pandemic and lockdown, we've literally spent a whole of 4 five months on campus in these 18(almost) months of so called "undergrad". This constant feeling of "I'm missing out on so many people, stuff, / I've already missed out on making real friends/future partners (professionally) just that community gang feeling. " It's just mentally taxing. But I'm making the most of whatever resources I have and trying to go beyond, " can you send me the assignment please"😂 I'm manifesting thissss and everything else. I'm trying and trying to really regain my confidence and just regain my belief in all the things I so innocently believed in back in my gap year. As they say, when you've hit rock bottom the only way is up, just that. 

Mental Health

I've been feeling kinda suck lately, I've been overthink about myself in a friend group. So I had a friend group that has 20 member on it and we've been playing games, chatting and more but days by day I feel like I'm making the uncomfortable, and annoyed them. Since they act weird recently. Ugh idk why but that's making me losing motivation to do things that I usually do. They were my only group friend that I had and I don't want to make myself get kicked out 😭also i have crush on 1 of the member, our relationship are good kinda close not rlly. And there a bich that acting sad and depressed and only be nice to my crush like excuse me 😃😃and 6 of the member think that she deserves better bla bla bla but I feel like, my place were moved yknow like THAT SUPPOSED TO BE ME. ugh life so unfair i hate my life

Jealous

Help I am an introvert, then my friends is planning to have a christmas party and they want me to be their but I am an introvert and I always want to stay home and just watch movies by myself and spend the time by myself because that's make me feel good, but I don't know how to tell that to my friends that I don't wanna go with them, help what do I have to say?😓

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