How do i accept the fact that my Partner befriended someone we met from a game who is also from a diff country and i was uncomfy with the guy and then they became close to the point that they are calling, knows what eachother looks like, video calling (rarely based from my partner), idk probably always chatting through discord and who knows if even on FB since she made her friend list private tho i kinda doubt that because she did mention she added one of the female ingame friend that she also had on FB so she might just want it to be anonymous for me but when i asked if she added him she said she did not add the guy (i hope she’s not white lying), but they are just Friends well i trust my partner but the guy we now hate eachother because stuffs like confrontations happened, we got into an argument so i kinda feel hard to accept it even more… how do i lose this jealous feeling that this foreigner friend of hers makes her Happier or something idk :(
because i feel like my Girl is just being too friendly and i fear that the guy might be having a secret crush on her cuz of my Anxiety and Paranoia, My Partner was honest about how close they’ve become but she respects His info so much that she doesn’t want me to know what he looks like or how old he is… but that’s making my self worry or be uncomfy even more…
Note: My Partner and I had a prob and we are in a somewhat a Cool-Off state and we are pretty much labeled ay Ex-es atm but she does plan to go back when the whole COVID thing is over, The guy knows about this too but he sometimes act a bit too much of a white knight, I do not plan on talking to the guy anymore and that’s what my Ex suggested too since the guy and I well we both hate each other so yeah… also i do believe her when it comes to not cheating n stuff she did say a few times he is not her type and he lives miles away from our country but still my Anxiety and im too Paranoid really… i just couldn’t get it out of my head it’s like i want to know what they are talking about in private, how the guy looks like and stuff that My Partner hides due to her respect of privacy.
Idk if i’ll try to ask her again about being friends on FB but i am scared that she might get mad about it, i was planning to call her and play a mind game pretending somehow magically know something but first she has to tell me the truth if they are friends on FB before i tell her what i know (which is nothing really but i have to think of something that sounds important or related to what i was asking so i don’t blow my cover in case she does keep on saying that they aren’t friends on FB.) so yeah by the time someone replies on my post i may or may not have done this already.
Hi thereee, feeling jealous is normal but only till the level it does not affect you mentally or emotionally and only till the time your partner doesn’t feel attacked. I know it can be hard to see that your partner is making new friends and I used to get upset about this too and used to feel that I should be the only one my bf talks to. But that was wrong on my part. Every person needs people in their lives for different things. Maybe that friend of hers understands a side of your partner which no one else does. I know it’s tough but this is where the role of trust in a relationship comes in. I wouldn’t tell you to have blind faith BUT just ask yourself that do you trust her? because if you don’t then you need to work out that with her and build that bond of trust.
And please don’t play any mind games, it’ll only complicate things. It would be better to directly talk to her about what you feel.
Thank you, i am trying my best to accept their friendship so far i think i am slowly getting over it ^^
Okay, that’s good! I’m glad you’re taking the step to understand their friendship :)
