Hi
To start with my parents separated 6 years ago. After that I was in a boarding school for couple of years. Idk where my dad is but my mom lives with her parents and her brother’s family. She is happy with them. I wanted to live with her and them but due to my job I live in a different city not so far from them. Now I’m living with a guy, we both met through dating app but we ain’t into relationship or dating, we introduce each others as flatmates. Everything is good but I miss having a family, where I see a happy family having a dinner together in restaurant I feel sad, I just told my tears back. Upon this my mom and her sides family don’t care much about me, they hardly call me once a week or so, my mom calls me once in a day. Her brother has a small girl child, everyone is always behind her, I do love her, she’s cute. But I do feel jealous about her, she is always there with everyone, and me I’m nowhere. My grandparents somethings even my mom does discrimination between me and her. They feel like I don’t need anybody I can survive on my own, I do pretend I can, but deep down I want a family. I can’t go and stay with them, it’s to hectic for my job then. The guy I live with is really very nice, we together but not together type of scene, our family knows we live together, his family is really good, careing and all. His parents come to our place every weekend to have dinner or to meet him. They do even love me. Sometimes I even get jealous of him, his parents always being their for him. I meet my mom last time in December and 6 years ago dad. I used to have a perfect happy family, but all of sudden it got shattered into pieces. I have a great friend circle lot many good friends, people in my life who are always their in my hard time to support me, but the family thing it just got vanished. I miss that thing the most lotss and lotss more. But I have accepted the fact that I can’t have one!
I know it’s hard
But u can visit ur mom on weekend or call ur mom at ur place for a week
If ur mom like it
I used to visit them last Sunday of every month. But now this pandemic, lockdown it’s quite difficult nowadays. Idk y but she doesn’t like staying at my place. She’s also a working woman she never gets time from her office work, she only has holiday on sunday, so she mostly stays home, means she is correct also, she also does need rest. And frankly saying I don’t even like staying at my grandparents house for more hours, I feel like a guest or outsider there. Maybe that’s because I have never lived with them.
Bro lockdown is hard for everyone
And ur mom is working so it’s hard for her to give u time
Sometimes we r not comfortable at some places
But u can ask ur mom a for a trip after pandemic
So both of u can spend some time together
If she likes
Ik I can understand all this. I did plan Goa for New Year for everyone me, mom, grandparents, my mom’s brother, his wife, his daughter, but they made me cancel all the bookings. My mom’s brother own’s a resort, so New Year Party is their in all resort, so wasn’t able to come, so they made me cancel it. In March I made a plan for Manali that time my mom and my mom’s brother’s wife (my mami) they didn’t got holiday from office. Whenever I plan something they never ever have time for me. But when my cousin have holidays from her school they always go, they don’t even ask me or tell me. If I call them and ask so the pics on social media they’re like we thought you must have work and all. I always feel unwanted for them.
I can understand how r u feeling
After seeing that ur mom ignore u sometimes
But it’s a life
Everything happened in life is good for u
If u need anyone to talk u can talk with me
But don’t take tension someday ur mom call ur for trip soon
It’s like everyone feels my parents separated because of me but that’s not the actual reason. My mom also knows I’m not the reason. It really does hurts me. They don’t even avoid me this way but even publicly, they never take me to some family function or weddings and all.
The guy I live with has a super extreme big family, they do consider me in their family. His mom considers me as her daughter, loves me alot. They invite or take me to their family trips or function. This shit hurts more. My own family doesn’t do for me what they do!!😔
I think ur mom is not like to take u somewhere after they get separated from ur dad
It’s better u start enjoying ur life with thinking that ur mom give u time
I know it’s hard for u
But u don’t have any other option or u can talk with ur mom and ask why u doing this with me
I do enjoy my life a lot. I have a 6 digit income, partying every friday, everything is just perfect, except a family life. Maybe it’ll always be like this, I don’t even expect anything from them. Thank you so much for your concerns.
I am sorry for whatever you are going through. I know I cannot understand the feeling, however, you are not alone in this. It’s great that you are sharing and accepting your feelings. Things may not seem okay but I promise it will be better ahead. I am grateful that you have good friends by your side.
Yeah I too wish that. Thanks for concerning
