Hi. So I am dating this guy, who is very sensitive and respectful towards me. It’s not been long, less than a month. So today he invited me to his place. I went. It’s a nice clean environment he has made a long with wfh facilities. He is professionally in a higher position in an MNC. He greeted me well and we had good intimacy too. But soon I found that and he too confessed he has OCD. He was obsessively cleaning his space. And would object, wait don’t use it like that. Don’t pull this thing so hard etc etc. I felt uncomfortable after some time. He was mostly busy with lot of calls on his workstation. And he has very good physique as he is under gym training. He suddenly told me that his trainer has asked him not to have sex as it ruins the body mass.🙄then he would come from his call suddenly and would start gently holding my hand and kissing on it. And would be smelling my dupatta lying on a chair repeatedly and would express how good it smells. In between he would get restless too and he asked me to massage his forehead and he suddenly fell asleep before he told me that he seeks companionship from me. And the last time he came into contact with a woman physically was 7 months back with his ex. We both are above 30 and professionally quite well placed. He suddenly woke up from his sleep as he had a meeting at 5 pm online. He told me shit, why didn’t u wake me up whereas I also fell asleep and then he got into his work station and told me get dressed up. I was like quiet and I left after 15 mnts and saw me off from the door after hugging me and kissing on my cheeks. And said we ll meet soon and take drive around the city. I really started his gentle demeanor but his weird habits have left me confused.
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Stability. Love n trust
But he has always been very respectful towards me.
He told me he doesn’t have any friend and only thing dear to him is his family.
What should I do? Cut off or keep it casual?
I won’t be. What do u think, how is he treating it?
What does your instinct say?
I m clueless. I need very genuine and balanced suggestions.
You are confused by staying with him for few hours and his behaviour is making you feel weird. Makes me think like how will you be with him for long…
Also if you wanna give a chance then spend some more time maybe you can more clarity on it
I really like him, but it’s much lesser than love.
Maybe it’s just attraction?
May be. But I got really tired seeing him cleaning the kitchen baar baar and trying to correct me thrice. I really wanted to get out of that place. And he is a loner. He is not a womaniser that can tell. I have seen his behaviour. Sleeping at 10 pm waking up at 6. Then only discipline rules his life.
Did it make you feel pity for him seeing what he was doing or irritating?
Also will you be able disciplined like him if he wants to be like him?
I m very clean and disciplined. But I m not obsessed like him. This guy will starve but ll never eat outside!!! I got food for him and he was very thankful. But as if he was getting anxious to be alone in his Space. Very confusing
Just try to ask him, whether he likes company or not. How did it make him feel when you bought food for him. Just ask these things to him and you might get the clarity. You may meet him and spend some more time and you will get to know more about his behaviour.
He himself said he is very thankful that I got him home cooked food. And that he knows me since long and he never allows anyone to his personal space except his family and me. Not even his friends. Because they ll litter the house🙄
He says he wants to cook with me some dish and all.
Try it na… Pata chal jayega will you be able to be with him or not. Cooking is a big task right so kaise kya karna hai it will be long process unless it’s a Maggie or something like which can be made instantly.
😅 before that he eatsbthe food that I usually carry and either will be on call or will cling to me.
He has never said that he loves me. But asked me several times, how did u feel? Do u like me and all…then ll do cute little things too. I told him yeh OCD ke karan chair khich liya tumne mein gid jaati. He would like no I didn’t do it. Come on
Kuch bhi ho but you will get to know him more na… that’s what you want to clear your confusion…
Agar you wanna be with him spending time with him and getting to know him will help you get more clarity… Nahi toh bas keep it causal!!!
Dekho yeh tumhare liye haani karak hai… uss chair ko khichne ki wajah se kahi tum gir jati toh fir backache ko invitation dena padta
Ok. I get it. Spending time with him comes from his schedule. He indirectly told me that he can have physical intimacy once in a week as per gym trainer. I said ok become a robot then. He was quiet. I said u better come out of this house as he never goes out. And we got on drive date. He said I ll come to meet u.
Aur sir phut jaata toh? That’s what I told him. When I was coming back he was repeatedly messaging me. Have u reached and all. I did not respond much
Most guys don’t go out unless they are with friends or with partners. Even I don’t go out unless there’s someone I have to meet or to go out with. It’s just like a safe space for us to stay at home.
Just ask him to make some time out of his schedule for you.
Haa bas ek bada wala bump aata… he would have taken care of you… 😁 tum dono ko aur time milta fir…
😅 Aisa time nhi chahiye. If he comes up for a loving and stable relationship, thik hai, Varna I don’t know. Aadat thodi lagi hai waise, kher jyada bhi nhi. I have learnt to keep things a little simple, of late
Yeah… Let him take a step towards you… nahi toh make it causal…
U should take more time to know ur partner
Right. Only if he comes out of his den. I can’t keep on visiting him everytime
And I don’t know what I mean to him when he says he seeks companionship and then says it’s too early to say anything 🙄
Hey if you’re still please dm. We will discuss and sort out this
