Hi,
Posting after long.
How have you been? What is keepin you up this late?
Let’s talk :)
I’ll start-
I am very scared that everyone is getting married but me. I am 29/F and though there is not much pressure from family but should I be worried?
I have been through a bad relationship and it is very difficult for me to talk with someone new now. At first I though it is just a phase but it has been 2 years and I am moving away even from the thought of a relationship. It scares me.
Friends say baat to karni padegi kisi naye se but mann nai karta. What to do?
😢
Someone @doesnot_matter
Answer this question first, do you want kids? If yes then get married as soon as possible. If no then would you be able to find a man with same thaught process?
I don’t think it is a matter of having kids?
How does one get married ASAP? Kisi se bhi shaadi nai kar sakte na. Adjustment nai karni.
One should marry out of love and because of need.
True
Also, this is the scary part na? Finding a man with though process that aligns with yours. We all deserve a person who accepts us as it is.
Definitely
Someone @doesnot_matter
This is the answer for should I be worried part, most of the people want to get married to have kids and females are biologically constrained to bear a child upto a certain age.
I will not lie that this doesn’t bother me. It does. But that’s the thing. I don’t have any control over this.
For me I want my person to love me and not just marry me because age ho gai thi. That is again, adjustment.
Someone @doesnot_matter
Exactly and in order to do that you have to go out, meet some people, go on a date, put some effort into it. either way she should start trying.
Someone @doesnot_matter
That’s all the more reason for you to start dating again ASAP.
Yup! Exactly
Hmm.
But I am very insecure and probably this is the reason I am not comfortable in meeting anybody.
I have gained weight, decent job and I fear rejection. How I am supposed to get past my own head? It is annoying. I am constantly worried that the other person will reject me due to my weight or personality or whatever. Nobody like a person with such low self confidence.
Also, ye date kahan karte hai?
Online? Apps pe? Kitne he reliable hote hongy?
Again scary. Everyone puts their behaviour on these apps but haan shayad baat karke judge kar sakte ho ki kesa insaan hai wo.
Tbh even I am also kinda same like I am also an Insecure guy and low on confidence. I think we both need to definitely start working on our insecurity and confidence issues. 😐
Haan Online dating ka thoda scary toh lagta hai but also I have seen some stories on humansofbombay page where people have met Online and are happy.
Someone @doesnot_matter
Work on yourself. There is no substitute for hardwork. Control you diet, do some exercises or dancing, Loose some weight, it will give you confidence. But start dating right now, you might be more attractive than you think. and physical appearance might a factor of personality but it is not everything for guys. And if someone likes you only because of your appearance, what happens when he meets someone better looking than you??
Agreed!
You are right. There is no substitute for hardwork.
Thanks for reminding me that.
All the Best Madam! ✌
(And to me too hoping I’ll start working on myself too 😬)
You will ✌🏻
You’ll have to try to move on.
It was a bad breakup but slowly you’ll have to try. Your friends are correct.
Try doing meditations , yoga etc they do help for your mental health.
Hope what I said is somewhat helpful.
Take Care.
Trying but thanks.
You too take care.
Also I didn’t mean ki get married (just clarifying) but I think you know ki you deserve to have someone who’ll love you no matter what and I think that a bad breakup should not be the reason you are not moving on with life.
Also It’s good there is no family pressure for marriage. Love such families tbh 😁
Thank you for your kind words, epecially for my family.
I know. I’ll try to get out of my shell :)
