Hi peeps,
Returning here after an year or so. Felt like talking.
31+ | Female | Single
In a situation where career seems undecided, marriage or rather companionship seems like a distant dream and nothing seems to be working out. Trying to talk to a few sensible guys but they just don’t keep up with the communication.
I see a pattern. Guy sends request, I accept, we start talking but koi efforts hee nai hai. I mean message karengy and ghanton baad reply ayega. Conversation agey leke jana hee mushkil ho jata hai. Is it because today, all of us are spoilt by choice? Ki iss platform pe nai mila koi to chalo abhi aur apps pe dekhte hai— koi aur mil jaega. This is the reason we are not trying to communicate/ put efforts?
Share your thoughts please.
👩🔬 @ansible
Maybe they don’t get the reply they want. Either you are expecting more or the guys are expecting more.
I would love to connect and talk hmu if you wanna
I am replying in the most civil manner. Friendly toh friendly, serious to serious, kya karna hai aur? Just so fed up yaar.
Pehle bolte hai han interest hai, want to take things further but the effort— its zero! Mein samne se karun tabh bhi unka effort is zero. Kya ho gya hai! Sab sad hai kya?
👩🔬 @ansible
I did put efforts for someone but it didn’t work out yaar ab Kya hi kare it’s all fate
Efforts ke baad bhi acknowledment nai hai. Results toh door kee baat hai
Joker 😈😈😈 @joker279
Well don’t lose hope. U never know whom you will meet in next min… and yeah sometimes do happen that replying is not regular but once the connection is established, they will.
Remember if the guy doesn’t reply regularly then you should just do same . Never give anyone such importance which they don’t deserve… your time is also important.
Hoping is what I am doing since a long time but kitna. Why can’t people bhi simple. Itni mehnat kyun hai. I am just feeling very sad and stupid at the moment.
Joker 😈😈😈 @joker279
Well miracle do happen … i have experience it in just few days . Would tell you my story if you want to get motivate … connect to me if you want . I have lost hope too but it was proved wrong by someone
Happy for you. Best wishes :)
Please share.
Connect me I can’t share here. As I don’t want to make uncomfortable someone
Hey would you like to talk? I really want to know what’s going on your mind, your insights might help me too. Please let me know if you’d like to connect☺️
We are talking. Ask away.
Nevermind it was something I cannot ask out in public. And it is not what you’re thinking, trust me. It is something related to me, my secrets that I don’t want everyone to know. But thank you for replying. All I can say is take your time before taking a big step like a marriage, I know you might be thinking it’ll be too late for you but marrying the right guy is much more important than what others might thinking or what if you pass the age to get married. You don’t need to be married to be in a commitment, you can be committed to a person while datingg and can marry when the time is right. I hope you’re getting what I’m trying to say. I know guys are disappointment but there are good guys out there and all I say is don’t judge a guy by his age or something and if you feel that he’s the right one for you giving a try wouldn’t hurt, it might make you happy instead😄
Also you cannot just expect people to approach you always sometimes you have to take the lead and approach someone. The concept for relationship has taken a 360 turn. Before we wake up, we might see a breakup happening on text that was patched up while we were about to sleep. So its quite messed up and you wouldn’t want to let yourself into something like that, so just take your time
Let’s connect over DM.
Yeah, let’s connect. But kese, not sure.
You sure?
Should I share my id?
Divya @divya_niki
Hey when are you planning to get married? Isn’t it scary too?!
It is scary yaar. Its very scary knowing that I have been looking since a long time now and nothing. Aur bare minimum ni ho ra hai, extraordinary toh kya hee hoga.
And planning to get married is not an issue, issue is there is no companionship. Can’t see it even.
Its affecting me now. FOMO hai aur bura bhi lagne laga hai abb. Lagta hai khudh mein hee kami hai. Aur darr lagta hai yei haal raha to kya hee kese hoga agey. Its just sad.
Divya @divya_niki
Would U like to discuss over DM?
Its fine here
Let’s talk ! Without late replies 👋
Mitr to abhi ap kya kr rahi ho koi job
Well the issue is that we lack of the intend that’s why coz nowadays people have got this habit that we have options so if one is not going good then switch, so instead of staying with one and building more interest, they just go other options.
Because here everyone loves to play games like don’t reply quickly It will make you desperate. Fuck off to everyone and plz keep the things simple, if I like you I will reply as soon as I can, this doesn’t mean desperate, this simply means I like you and want to know you more. But no, these days people like to make things complicated
