hi, 
im in a very difficult situation and Ive texted mental health influencers but havent gottem any advice, they are confused too. 

I have a friend who likes me deeply and because i didnt want to break his heart i didnt tell him whem i started dating someone but later he checked my phone and found out. after which he has had anxiety and threatened to kill himself. it was all fine in the middle but it has started again and became of that he keeps blaming me and he is constantly needy so much so that he now feels like a burden and gives me anxiety as well and I want to leave but maybe i shouldn’t because this is all technically happening because i didnt trll him im dating and broke his trust? 

I really hope you guys can help me out

Well it's not your job to tell everything to your friend especially about your personal life. I will advise you to talk to some adults that are part of that boy's life. Tell him to make a clear statement to him I am not into you . 

Anxiety

when he watch ur story to 2-4 minutes and  not get a message back 

I was talking to this guy on a chat site and we were arguing about this guy who I was talking to he has a girlfriend . he said he just wants 2 girls if he really cared about you he would be with you only I said and if he really cared about her he would only be with one girl didn't turn out that way did it? he said he doesn't care about either of you he just double the Pu$y I said I don't care what you say to me and  he cared about her he wouldn't be talking to me so. he said he just want's 2 girls if he really cared about you he would be with only you. I said he knows he's got me actually don't be jealous he said if he was he wouldn't have another girl so. he wanted to help me make this guy jealous the guy that has a girlfriend so we chatted on hangouts after all the arguing were chatting for a bit but then he didn't respond even though he was active. I said admit you want me that's why your'e doing all this that's when he responded he said yeah I do eventually I get what I want. I had an intuition that the reason he was helping me make someone else jealous because he just wanted  sex. he was like one day all get what I want we were talking about my ex and how he was toxic clearly he wanted to be with me but I refused  then we became friends but then we realized we can't stay friends we like each other then I told him we should just be friends he never replied to me since.


Confusion

I haven't spoke to a frnd since few days , few mins back was thinking abt him 😂n now When I checked phone.. he pinged me.
I like such coincidence

Friends

I was hoping this website could help me...

I had a boyfriend a year ago, we lasted only 5 months because we were scared to be found. I have strict parents at that time so I thought of keeping a low profile but he said he wanted to end it, so we broke up. Right now we've been talking again and we're fine, we already said our apologies and became grateful to have each other before. But now he's been sending me mixed signals, in an app he asked to match our avatars. We really looked like a couple, he even treated me like I was hi gf. He's planning to go on my 18th bday, and i heard he would wait for me. Should I trust him again and give another chance?


Long Distance Relationship

hey it's me this story is about to be long so hold on to your seats yup there's drama. anyways I was dating this guy named Blaine then I was flirting with other guys and the first time I did  it was because I was feeling lonely he wasn't on the chat site for four days. then I eventually told him the truth when he got back on the chat site  he said something about not feeling guilty then he told me he cheated on me too and I said guess were  both fuck up's don't talk to me. the next day he tried talking to me what if I told you I still have feelings for you I said why he said because I love you before we had broken up he wasn't ready to say I love you. the second time I was flirting with other guys again and I texted him a whole message and broke up with him because he was gonna do it  anyways. the first time when we were dating I asked for a photo he said I don't know babe. the third time we got back together he was only taking about sex and was being disrespectful and rude he kept going eve though I to,d him no and other things while we were talking.

Boyfriend

This guy at work was a good friend of mine. We had hit it off nicely as friends but then he started obsessing over me. He had feelings for me but I was in a relationship so I had to say no. He kept saying I'm amazing and the best person he has met. Fact: I'm not. He just amplified the image he had in his mind. A year later I had broken up and I was single so he asked me out and we started dating. 
I didn't like some habits of him like basic hygiene or the way he treated waiters but I kept going calling him out to work on those things. I think I wasn't even attracted I was a bit depressed (bruises of past relationships) so I was scared to be alone and tried to make it work.
Within a month I got drained. I spoke to him  about his commitment plans and he started talking about how his family won't agree. He dropped hints about splitting up. 
This guy literally begged me to be with him and now when I said yes he doesn't see a future with me can you believe this? 
Anyway I told him how its a good idea. And that I thought we weren't compatible. I felt guilty for saying yes as I wasn't really into him or happy at all and that's just unfair to both of us. 
He expected me to say something funny all the time and keep him entertained. I don't mean to be rude but he had little ideas for fun. I got tired because he used to suck up all my happiness and energy. His obsession got to the point of me blocking him. I tried my best to explain him both peacefully and sternly that we don't belong together. He wasn't just ready to accept. He suddenly felt he can work it out and convince his family. 
Guys tell me if I am wrong. I think the only reason I rushed into a relationship with him was because I was scared to be alone. We are very opposite people and I realised that I can't be with him. We two weren't meant for each other. He just wouldn't understand. It added so much stress. So I had to block him. He used to make it so dull at work that everyone would look at me if he's upset. So I had to unblock him feeling sorry for him, he begged me to at least let him be my friend. I personally think that you shouldn't be in touch with someone you're trying to move on from. That's toxic and torture. But he begged me so I stayed friends with him (Otherwise he would start crying in public and stuff and make me look like a bitch in the office) . And once I started being normal to him since he user to cry all the time. He started hitting on me again. When he flirts with me I get so disgusted I feel like punching him in the throat. He believed I will go back to him and we'd end up together. This block unblock went on for 3-4 times everytime he crossed the line. I felt sorry for him as he doesn't even have good friends. Worrying he might indulge into self harm. We were at a party one day after work and we all were a bit drunk. He tried to force himself on me and I pushed him away. I lost all the sympathy and completely cut him off. Such a jerk. No means no. 
This time I haven't unblocked him. Luckily I have switched company so I don't have to see him. He seemed toxic to me because he said things like "I care for you and would want you to be happy" at the same time won't let me live my life peacefully. He said he wants to be an important part of my life just the way my best friend was and is scared that if I drift apart he won't be holding an important position. Sounded more like "I want to control you". I got some job offers in a different country but he didn't let me switch manipulating me into thinking its a bad idea. I had always given him the benefit of the doubt hence it took me a while to know his true intentions. After I cut my ties with him, stress reduced a lot. I sleep peacefully. I am following my passion and doing great at my work. I don't want to unblock this person ever. What are your thoughts?

One Sided Love

What am I doing any wrong here? I became friend with this guy through venting, even he helped me once, we used to talk sometimes mostly when I was venting then idk how he got attached to me and likes talking to me. Like who gets attachment with a depressed person? Ik he is smart but why?
And when I said I don't want to talk to anyone(I keep taking breaks from people), he understands but also said I want to talk to you daily, atleast for 5-10 min. Like bruh I don't understand what's this. 
And his way of talking got me attached to him too but ofc now I can't tell this to him, and I told him I don't even feel like there is any friendship between us. Then we didn't talk. He is nice,tried to help me but didn't understand. Now missme lol when I vent 

I don't think being friends with ur ex is necessary 

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