Hiā¦ Iām in a pretty bad place right nowā¦
Soā¦ basically I liked this guy and I confessed to himā¦ It went pretty wellā¦The next day he told me he liked me backā¦ I could barely believe it and I started to imagine what it would be like if we started datingā¦ Butā¦ a few days later I found out thatā¦ He liked someone else tooā¦ and that girl like him backā¦ I was upsetā¦ But then after a few months there was quarantineā¦ So i didnāt get to see himā¦ Me and my friends did do video calls a few times but not very often since everyone was pretty busyā¦ After a few months into quarantine I told my closest friend that I felt like my feelings for himā¦ weāre fading awayā¦ So one dayā¦ I decided to tell himā¦ Because otherwise I felt like I was lying to himā¦ So I told him and he said he thinks āweāre too young to date and stuffā I was likeā¦ Weāre not even dating- what are you like three?? (but i only said it inside my head) Tbhā¦ I didnāt feel sad or anythingā¦ and now in present time if we go back to October in 2020 I found out I was biā¦ Well Iām still not sure about it but yeahā¦ So I think I like this girl but the things is I feel like since I was never able to really get over my last āloverā because I didnāt get to meet new peopleā¦ but I feel like because of that this girl has not really been able to enter my heart completelyā¦ and when my friends ask me whoās my crush I canāt even say anything because this girl is actually one my best friends. So I donāt really have any to help me find out if I actually like her or notā¦
Thereās just this constant pain in my heart when I think about my āex-loverā
If anybody knows what Iām feeling please tell meā¦ I need help figuring it out since I canāt ask my other close friend since I donāt wanna tell her I might have a crush on this girl since Iām not sure about it yet.
Hey. Itās completely alright. I want you to know that if youāre bi or not, whichever way is very normal.
Now in my opinion, one can figure it out only by trying it out. You can tell if you like sushi only after youāve tried it yet right? Obviously given that youāre old enough to try it out. I just wanna let you know that the confusion is vv normal. So itās okay, give it some time Iām sure youāll figure it out.
As for your ex, I know itās tough but you have to let it go. You have to let him go, and you have to let the pain go, you have to let the memories go. Itās for the best
Thanks you so much for the comforting words! I really appreciate it!
And I tried to let the memories goā¦ for example If someone even mentions him I ignoreā¦ If I remember him in a situation I think āwhateverā I try everythingā¦ but still when I think of him thereās this pain in my heartā¦ Do you know another way I could let go?
Dont try to ignore it, if you do that then youll never let it go. Somethings I have done to get over my ex was to just get off of social media for a while and took a break from my friends. Just focused on myself and my happiness. I also use to think of the future with him in it so it was hard thinking of it without out him in it, however it did help me get over him. Its not gonna happen over night. Everything takes time. I say just try your best to focus on yourself and your happiness and usually everything just falls into place.
Thank you so much! Will definitely do so!
Time is the healer love! You can only keep on trying, hoping itāll stop paining one day. Because youāre just beginning your life. You have so much ahead of you. So many things youāre yet to try, so many memories yet to create. Donāt let this pain stop you from living your life to the fullest
^ thatās all I think and tell myself which helps me stay on track.
Thanks so much! This is so sweet! <33