Hi! Iām 22 year old Indian girl. I have spent most part of my life in a joint family. Iāve an elder brother also. Everything was fine initially with some arguments in the family and between my parents which is complete normal. But from past one decade things have changed upside down. Not a single day went without heated arguments between my parents for not so obvious reasons. During this time my brother also went out for his higher studies so , being a 12 year old, I was alone watching my world breaking into pieces. My mother always took all her frustration out on me. She would beat me often for for trivial things such as watching T. V. and for not eating properly. This continued till I enter the college. I was happy there when I came back during holidays the same routine continued. But this lockdown has taken things to another level. She now blames me for everything, badmouth me for talking to my fatherās side of family to whom Iām extremely attached, for not being obedient, for being too ambitious and what not. I know she loves me and I love her too but she kills me with her words and due to this Iām drifting away from her. I couldnāt gather the courage to discuss this with anyone because we all glorify motherhood and no one believes the other side of the story. This is hampering my studies, my relationship with my father and brother and my mental health.
Hey hi, I know Yaar ye Sab Kuch bahot mushkil hey tumhare liyeā¦but believe me tumhare mom ke iss behaviour ke piche bhi Kuch reasons rahnge reā¦muje lagata mere parents muje samjate Nahiā¦me unse Kuch share Nahi Kar sakata but apparently Apne me generation gap heyā¦muje lagata hey tumhare mom ke pass koi frnds Nahi hey jinse apni baate share Kar paaye or apni feelings batayeā¦muje lagata unko thodsa socialize hone ki jarurat heyā¦jese unke frnds badhenge tumhare par frustration nikalana Kam Hogaā¦for eg apn bhi jab relation me hote apna frustration sabse karibi log means gf/ bf pe nikalte wese hi tumhare mom Ka Hogaā¦bas unko Naye frnds mil jaynge baate Karne ke liye to frustration Kam Hogaā¦mom tumhe Apne close samjati hey Uske liye frustration tumh pe nikalataā¦bas unko thoda socialize hone me unki help Kar denaa ā¦Sab Kuch thik ho jayega
Hi ! She has friends and she is extremely close to her mother. She shares everything with her closest friend. My nani also believes whatever she tells her about me. She also thinks that Iām not a good daughter and that I donāt understand her. And I know the reasons for her behaviour and even tried to tell her but sheās like you donāt teach me anything and you know nothing.
In this case you just need to talk with her about thisā¦just sit with her and talk about problemsā¦only discussion between you too can solve your problem
Itās not easy but Iām trying my best. And thanks for your timeā¦ šø
Just say it out whatever is bothering you. Tell your mom about her actions which you donāt like. Sometimes I believe parents donāt understand that their certain words really affect their childās mental health. They may not be really targeted to hurt us but they eventually do. Just telling and mentioning about them to your mom may help her too to introspect certain things she already said and eventually change her behaviour
The solution is simpleā¦ She needs a vacation or tourā¦anyone will frustrate while working all day 24x365 daysā¦just keep yourself on her positionā¦if you work as continuously till long time you will also get frustrate
ā¦she needs a breakā¦your dad wonāt go with her any vacation for long timeā¦sheās also human not a robot she also wants to explore the worldā¦except kitchen and &working all day in houseā¦suggest your dad to take her on any place as hill station or something elseā¦ Her problem is only frustration bcoz of being in house for a long time thatās it
