Hi! I’m 22 year old Indian girl. I have spent most part of my life in a joint family. I’ve an elder brother also. Everything was fine initially with some arguments in the family and between my parents which is complete normal. But from past one decade things have changed upside down. Not a single day went without heated arguments between my parents for not so obvious reasons. During this time my brother also went out for his higher studies so , being a 12 year old, I was alone watching my world breaking into pieces. My mother always took all her frustration out on me. She would beat me often for for trivial things such as watching T. V. and for not eating properly. This continued till I enter the college. I was happy there when I came back during holidays the same routine continued. But this lockdown has taken things to another level. She now blames me for everything, badmouth me for talking to my father’s side of family to whom I’m extremely attached, for not being obedient, for being too ambitious and what not. I know she loves me and I love her too but she kills me with her words and due to this I’m drifting away from her. I couldn’t gather the courage to discuss this with anyone because we all glorify motherhood and no one believes the other side of the story. This is hampering my studies, my relationship with my father and brother and my mental health.
Hey hi, I know Yaar ye Sab Kuch bahot mushkil hey tumhare liye…but believe me tumhare mom ke iss behaviour ke piche bhi Kuch reasons rahnge re…muje lagata mere parents muje samjate Nahi…me unse Kuch share Nahi Kar sakata but apparently Apne me generation gap hey…muje lagata hey tumhare mom ke pass koi frnds Nahi hey jinse apni baate share Kar paaye or apni feelings bataye…muje lagata unko thodsa socialize hone ki jarurat hey…jese unke frnds badhenge tumhare par frustration nikalana Kam Hoga…for eg apn bhi jab relation me hote apna frustration sabse karibi log means gf/ bf pe nikalte wese hi tumhare mom Ka Hoga…bas unko Naye frnds mil jaynge baate Karne ke liye to frustration Kam Hoga…mom tumhe Apne close samjati hey Uske liye frustration tumh pe nikalata…bas unko thoda socialize hone me unki help Kar denaa …Sab Kuch thik ho jayega
Hi ! She has friends and she is extremely close to her mother. She shares everything with her closest friend. My nani also believes whatever she tells her about me. She also thinks that I’m not a good daughter and that I don’t understand her. And I know the reasons for her behaviour and even tried to tell her but she’s like you don’t teach me anything and you know nothing.
In this case you just need to talk with her about this…just sit with her and talk about problems…only discussion between you too can solve your problem
It’s not easy but I’m trying my best. And thanks for your time… 🌸
Just say it out whatever is bothering you. Tell your mom about her actions which you don’t like. Sometimes I believe parents don’t understand that their certain words really affect their child’s mental health. They may not be really targeted to hurt us but they eventually do. Just telling and mentioning about them to your mom may help her too to introspect certain things she already said and eventually change her behaviour
The solution is simple… She needs a vacation or tour…anyone will frustrate while working all day 24x365 days…just keep yourself on her position…if you work as continuously till long time you will also get frustrate
…she needs a break…your dad won’t go with her any vacation for long time…she’s also human not a robot she also wants to explore the world…except kitchen and &working all day in house…suggest your dad to take her on any place as hill station or something else… Her problem is only frustration bcoz of being in house for a long time that’s it
