Deepika @ananymocosmo
Hi, I’m 19,male…
i think i identify myself a female sometimes and as male other times…
I feel so soothing and calming feeling whenever I believe
“I’m actually a girl inside mentally, and sometime i can physically too”
And later, i even feel strange sometimes about believing that and can’t understand why i want to be a woman…
i came here to share my feelings , i did…anyone want to talk and help me regarding this?..
Thank u
Simran @st1199
Hii!
What you feel is what you have in the inside and you like having both sides in you. Identify your gender (if you have the feeling of both Male and Female as your part of reality and how you live with it), because it’s important that you know yourself and make it a part of you for lifetime.
You should sit and think is it just for fun, means you like to be a woman and feel in that manner or actually want to live a life as a women too. When you get the answer to this question, you will have a clear picture in your mind.
I hope it helped and gave a clear picture! :)
Deepika @ananymocosmo
hi, thanks for ur reply…I opened the site to talk to someone and saw ur reply now…
about what u said …is it just for fun or I actually want to live like a woman…
I think …to be clear…I don’t want to live actually as a woman…but it does not feel like a just for fun thing…but deep down I think it is just for a fun thing to feel good about something…but I can’t feel this truth sometimes.
i wanna be frank…i like long hair…i like to have a beautiful braid, bun etc…i mean I’m so obsessed with long female hairstyles…
i look up to a lot of braid pictures…videos…and just stare at the screen so long time imagining that I’m the person whom I’m seeing…
And that’s just it…long hair in the sense…like legit girl’s hair…
this whole is one part of myself…
and again the other part of myself comes and wonder why i feel this way…
so…that’s me …truth be told i think i can’t even say to anyone about this except people like u online…
looking forward for ur reply
thanks again!
Deepika @ananymocosmo
i get it if u say that long hair doesn’t mean feminine …
but , that’s the major part …i mean major reason of all this…
being a woman is not really my desire until this long hair thing triggers inside me…which is often times
Simran @st1199
Males too keep long hair and make ponytails. You can do that too if you love having long hair and making braids.
Try out these by having long hair and maybe explore the whole side.
Deepika @ananymocosmo
yeah…i’m still in confusion to decide anything now…for guy like amidst a place and culture i’m in …this thing is very rare and big thing to decide…even long hair for a guy is abnormal…
but , this confusion i’m in feels good though, like fun.
i’ll just be in this state where i ocassionaly get obsessed with braid desire…for a while…
let whole thing figure out later when i’m ready to…
thanks for sharing ur opinion …means a lot …
Simran @st1199
You will figure it out with time.
Just don’t be scared of what others will think because then you may not even try to explore the whole thing inside you.
Ana Banach @johnthejohn
Dear ananymocosmo,
About last year, my friends and I realized that if you’re living, you know everything about you. Therefor, if you’re a female, you know everything about females.
If that was complicated, I’ll say it like this:
Girly is what a girl makes it. I am girly because I’m a girl. I’m not a tomboy because my name is not Tom and I’m not a boy. I am a girl. So I am girly.
You are what you make yourself.
If you can’t decide between boy or girl, you can always identify as something else and instead of his/ he or hers/she, you can be them/they.
Or you can make up your own gender. I was marble (my own gender) for a while, but I gave up.
Best of luck!
Deepika @ananymocosmo
i like ur view on one’s identity…
i feel same too…these labels we put on/ we think that we put on are just pointless…
any label grows out of whoever we are…we need not be some label for sake of being in that label…haha(too many "label"s).
i wish i had some friends in my circle with this kind of openness…
Ana Banach @johnthejohn
Labels, labels, labels! Most people think they’re just ways to tell us apart. But really, all they do is misname people. If people wanted to talk to me and they didn’t know my name when I was nine, they would say, “Hey, red shirt!” Or, “Hey, brown hair!”
But since then, I dyed my hair indigo. And I don’t wear too much color. So now it’s more like, “Hey, blue hair!” Or, “Hey gray shirt!”
My labels are changing often. I don’t like it. But there’s a way to try and stop it.
I got fed up one day this year in class. Labels were just too much. I taped paper all over my body at recess. Then, nobody knew anything about me except that I was in the grade I was in and tall. I did get in trouble, but I don’t give a crap.
Nobody needs friends. If you don’t have them, that probably means that you’re more important than them. The label ‘friendless’ has been used on multiple people. This year has been especially hard for everyone. But hey, what goes around comes around. We’ll get our revenge on labelers.
(Labels used in my post:
Important
Especially hard
Labelers
Think that it’s a way to tell us apart
People
Misnamers (I suppose)
Don’t like labels)
I didn’t count the labels that I did as examples.
But you see, even as I was explaining it, so maany labels!!
Deepika @ananymocosmo
yeah…true…it’s a lot that we all were fed up on but we can’t see this unless we clearly think about it and be an observer of ourself…
Thanks for sharing…
i think it’s high time i should ignore all of this prejudice and labels and slowly grow up in the way that frees myself everyday gradually.
Ana Banach @johnthejohn
yes, you should.
