Hi I am a female and I am 28 years old.
When I am single I crave for that special someone. I crave to be pampered and be called by cute names. I crave at night to have simple talks at least. but the moment I start dating, three days into it and I get overwhelmed.
When I am single my focus is on me 24*7. I try to develop myself in every aspect of my life. I try to do the best for me and grow. When I am dating I do the same but I feel that I am present here but my mind is with him. In the back of my mind it’s always his thoughts. I always keep thinking how I want to be with him so badly.
When I am single I feel like a free bird. I don’t have to reply anyone. I don’t have to check the texts continuously. But while dating there is an unsaid pressure of checking the texts. And there is this longing too that make me want to check if he messaged.
After midnight it’s really hard to share my time with anyone. I feel it’s my ‘me’ time. My brain don’t work to have conversations at that point of time.
How can I be in a relationship, this way?
I am not able to get into relationship. I get gaga when I am dating. Either I feel that I am giving too much time to him which I should give instead to me or I feel that I am getting too little time from him. So I can’t go past dating.
Exactly. I don’t want to make mistake by choosing the wrong person. So I analyse a lot.
Let’s find a balance that respects your ‘me’ time while still allowing us to connect.
But how? I don’t know how to do that. Either I am wanting the whole time just for me or I would be wanting instant replies from. Whenever I am dating someone. I am in mess. Will I ever be able to manage a relationship.
When you want or crave for relationship, it means you are ready to share yourself with someone, which includes your pain, joy etc everything. Relationship requires dedication, commitment, understanding, respect. And it should be mutual. So there is little bit adjustment from both sides, you can’t expect or rule over someone because you are not buying or running a territory, you are running a relationship
And sometimes even when a guy / girl gives lot then the opposite person don’t value the time qki they take it for granted
I can understand your post , I feel it
