Hi I am 35 years old divorcee with a son. I met him on an online dating site he is 30 years old. We had started everything with the best of the trust and feelings for each other. He would come and spend lot of time by driving six hours to meet me. He is very caring and loving. I never did hide anything from him from the very first moment. And then one day suddenly he told me that he is married and his wife is expecting. Infact it’s her last month to deliver. I was shocked. I was so shocked that I fell sick for days. I didn’t talk to him. He was trying every means to convince me. And he came to meet me. And tried everything to convince me that he loves me and he can’t leave me. He also said that he can’t leave his wife. I can never imagine to ask him to leave his wife. And again things went on normally between us. He would always try to balance between both of us. I love him. But now I want to leave these complications. It’s lot of pain. Had I known he is married I would have never met him ever. Never. I feel so stuck. Please help. 🙏
anuj @anujvohra
Yes its best you leave him. It will hurt…but will be good for you and him . its always best of things start off in a right way. Take care
Thanks.
anuj @anujvohra
How invested are you in the relationship?
We both are invested, to be honest
anuj @anujvohra
Okay
Just leave him because after sometime he will leave you
Hmm.
Yes
Wanna talk?
I’m feeling bad for his wife, and for his baby who hasn’t got birth yet. … He cheated on them when they needed them the most. I don’t understand how can a person loves two persons at the same time. A person can look so genuine but when the mask falls down from his face, we feel victimized. Be mindful and take ur decision dear. Take care.
I feel very strange. I don’t know how to get out of this. He cares for her a lot too. But somehow things are getting bad I guess. Finally except him, everyone is unhappy. His wife can sense too. He is absent minded whenever he is with her. When he is with me, he is with me only. He will hardly talk over phone with her. She is a normal house wife who is homebound in a suburb of Rajasthan. But he lovesnthe life here with me. He loves my son a lot too. I am so bloody stuck. When did I do something so wrong that each time so much of pain is there
I understand ur feelings. First of all… try to maintain ur mental peace. U and ur son’s wellbeing should be ur first priority. U should try meditation and yoga to keep urself calm in this situation. This tym is must be very hard for u…but u will definitely get out of this. Trust me. U just need to accept first that, what that person was doing on online dating site when he was already married and even at that tym when he was going to be a father. Dear… When he will be a father, his behaviour towards u will definitely be changed. He will spend more time with his son and his family. This will break u more. A mature person doesn’t start a new relationship before ending the last one. He isn’t mature one. One day he will leave one of u two, most probably he will leave u. U can think at that tym how much u will regret. Dear… I know u r in feelings with that person, and u deserve to be loved and cared for, but that person is not the right one. In future, people can blame u, more than they will blame that person. U should get out of this… try to maintain distance with that person. And most importantly, give urself time and try to keep urself calm. As u have to take care of ur son too. Tc.
I have told him today, tomorrow his wife’s ceaserean is due. I said I don’t want anything further. He said u both have to accept each other. Leave it one me how I maintain the balance. I disconnected the call and he is still buzzing me even when the child will come tomorrow. I asked him tomorrow the baby is coming, how are u feeling? He said I was waiting for this day for long. And now, as if I am numb. But rest assured main ek accha baap Banunga dono ke liye ( for my child too) I told him don’t think about my son, as his biological father is quite attentive of his needs and my son will never accept anyone else than his father as his father. Every time he will insist to talk to my son and I avoid that. He told me today that if u want everything well tomorrow just talk to me. Or else I ll come to Delhi tomorrow instead of being in the hospital. I m not ok with this. My husband and I had dispute but during my pregnancy during parenting he is just of his son.
Hey… How r u now??
I am good. Thank you
Good to hear that.🙂
Thanks. I have left all unnecessary things
