Hi. Hope all of you are doing amazing. Need some advice.
1. Is it okay for my boyfriend to go out without telling me where/with whom/ when? I always knew where he was, what he was doing, but now I do not know most of the times.
2. Communication is very less, despite me telling repeatedly how I feel, there is no improvement
3. I am getting affected a lot since a month now and I am unable to do any chores or eat anything. But the fact that I know he loves me, cares for me is stopping me from making an extreme decision.
I do need a lot of advices. Pl pl pl pl pl help me with this
Thank you in advance

one thing that helped me  was knowing who like asking I if its a friend or family  but as I found out it was more than that  any way do this at your own risk because as I found out she drifted far from me by saying  I don't know  so let me say it one more time do this at your on risk 

Long Distance Relationship

I was dating him since 1 year, gradually I realised that he's not the person I want. I'm ambitious & wanted him to support & guide me but as he's not ambitious he just wanted to talk all day round, I used to talk and manage my studies later but gradually I started unloving him because of his nature. As we had come a long way in our relationship all we had to talk was sext type stuffs and nothing good & he was not interested in sharing daily life chores he did with me. I tried to telling him that I'm not liking all this by giving him some hints but he never understood and after some days I left replying him and since then it has been a month, I have not talked to him. I was not willing to and also I was very busy with my collage. I wanted to balance him & my collage together but he didn't support.He tried calling & messaging for a week &  then he left trying too. After a month, now, his female best friend is calling me but I'm not answering her. I'm very confused, I don't know whether I should talk to her or not, should I tell her what I feel or not.I haven't talked to my bf since so many days, it's obvious that he must be angry so in this situation will he understand what I want from  from  from him 
What should I actually do?

Confusion

I had a really bad past where I was cheated by my ex. He was flirting with numerous other girls & told many lies. After I knew everything I broke up with him..was in shock & depression. And took me almost 2 years to make myself stable.

Once everything was fine I met another guy. After a few months of being friends he proposed me..but as I still had that past fear I rejected. But he gave in more efforts and at last I fell for him. Almost a year passed by and everything was good. 

But now whenever I see him staying online late night or his Truecaller's last seen till 1-2am I feel he's cheating on me like my ex. Whenever I confronted it he just denies all. His reassurance is just not enough. 
I do trust him but seeing such things brings back my past fear and I'm just not ready to face something like that. 
Idk if I'm ruining my present with past fear or everything's fine. 


Boyfriend

i ve been with my bf for 3 years in a long distance relationship 
he used to be my bff and when he confessed i thought i d give him a chance yet through out these three years i still don't know if i love him or just strongly attached to him and i feel like shit because i don't love him the way he loves me he s so in love with me and to him i m everything but idk i m just not so happy lately and i hate myself ugh i don't wanna hurt him by breaking up then get back to him because i m still not sure of my feelings i just wanna die that ll def make things easier i hate confrontation and i don't wanna lose him as a friend i ve been finding myself  not as open with him as i used to be 


Relationships

I feel like texting him again
Anyway he doesn't reply sometimes he does that makes me happy but when he don't it makes my day worst i can't call him because he blocked me from everywhere so I started texting him for which he replies or sometimes call 
I don't know what to do
These things are affecting my sleep my health and making me emotionally down 

my ex does the most but i’m not gonna lie he cracks me up because why do you need to do all that 😂😂 

Other

Hes been in vegas for 1 day hasn't texted me back.

3am Thoughts

So I've been taking to this guy for a year.i call him Al for now. For 7mths we were telling each other saying i love and talked about a family and kids. He didn't make things official becuase I had just broken up with my ex of 9yrs.... then Al's ex came back to his job. She confessed she missed him and that she wish things could be different. He mentioned that they even kissed. But it didn't feel the same and wants me. That were not in a relationship so it doesn't count. Now Al says that she is his best friend. When he wants his "me time" for himself they hangout. I get all upset and then he gets up set becuase I'm hounding him.... should I just stay away from him. He use to be more attentive to me and included me in everything. He said he still wants me but I can't believe him becuase I feel so betrayed. Again he states that we're not dating so it was okay.....

Anxiety

So I met a guy last year on New Years. I believe that day he was physically attracted towards me and wanted to kiss.  But he didn't make a move because he knew the kind of relationships I look for and also didn't want our friendship to be affected.
When he drunk spoke to me this , I was very clear on not wanting to have a relationship at that point of time. Nevertheless , we continued to talk . There was a lot of efforts from him side initially and the least from my side. We used to talk for hours in the night.  Everything went on well for a month . Things started changing from his side after a month probably because he thought i am his type.I started getting attached to him and wanted him to spend more of his time with me. Possessiveness and everything came into picture ! The good part was , I was never open to him about the possessiveness and all. It was all happening internally .
 
Nowadays , I feel like people are more into casual relationship which is completely fine and not really judging anyone here ! I believe that's what we all need to keep reminding myself. When things started changing between us , I remember constantly blaming myself for it , saying I am not good enough , trying my best to go wayy beyond to keep him all happy ! Now I realised that I was not at fault at all. It was his feelings that faded away because we were never meant for each. 
But Sadly,  a part of me still wishes to get those old times back ! Honestly now its an on and off friendship. I am very sure he is completely over me . Call it ego or whatever. but ig now its time for me to get over him too. Whats the point of loving a person when you know he doesnt like you back. But like.  People say right , Everything happens for a good reason . I am glad this happened because some day It had to end . And I am not blaming anyone in my story because I did get to learn and realise a lot of things being with him . ❤️







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