Hi. Hope all of you are doing amazing. Need some advice.
1. Is it okay for my boyfriend to go out without telling me where/with whom/ when? I always knew where he was, what he was doing, but now I do not know most of the times.
2. Communication is very less, despite me telling repeatedly how I feel, there is no improvement
3. I am getting affected a lot since a month now and I am unable to do any chores or eat anything. But the fact that I know he loves me, cares for me is stopping me from making an extreme decision.
I do need a lot of advices. Pl pl pl pl pl help me with this
Thank you in advance

one thing that helped me  was knowing who like asking I if its a friend or family  but as I found out it was more than that  any way do this at your own risk because as I found out she drifted far from me by saying  I don't know  so let me say it one more time do this at your on risk 

Long Distance Relationship

I miss him. He makes me feels better when I'm around him. I thought that we had something special. I guess I was wrong. He choose her. I am not good enough for him. When we're together it makes me feel fulfilled. Like there's nothing else in this world. Now he knows that i still love him. When I looks at him it feels real. I want him to feel the same. But that will never happen. He was a part of my small world. I don't want him in any other way. When I looks into his eyes there is nothing. I am more sure abt I miss him. But he don't even miss me. He wants her. I was the only one in his relationship with me, he never was. He don't want me anymore The day I stopped doing Efforts, that relationship also ended....🥀

Breakup

okay...so this feeling sucks....of having my abandonment and gaslighting by parents, bf and friends being triggered by a gentleman i just got physically intimate with and developed feelings for. 

1. Men are such creeps. Especially those divorced middle aged charming men..first they will flirt with you so much, enamour you and then after you get physically intimate and you develop a fondness for them, they stop giving bhav and treat you as invisible.

2. Then the lies they tell to get you. First they will tell they are safe nice good hearted guys, and they're oh-so-interested in you,..and then you see them fondling and getting close to other women just after a day.

WTF.

And 3-4 days earlier when this guy was trying woo me and get close to me, then he was all sweet, smiling and involving me...caring also.

and now, despite me having fever, looking sick, he is not even showing basic courtesy when we bump iinto each other(like living in the same premises)..likei am so off.

And now not only he treats me like invisble but also is so so pissed off for no reason.
ok i hope i come to terms with this...and make peace. and love myself enough. Anyways, he is travelling out of town for 10 days tomorrow onwards, so perhaps out of sight;out of mind ho jayega mere liye.

I'm woo-ed and developed this big crush on him too(which is normal)..and now it's like wtf. 
i wasn't prepared for this...so yeah
i hope i make and get peace. 
Then i will not have to be so anxious about seeing him and his snootyness n suddenly changed behaviour in 2 days, 


thanks..this feels lighter after sharing

Crush

I was in a relationship with a guy for 4yrs and now he his sending me pictures of another girls and asking me to choose the girl so he can marry her it's absolutely heart breaking I sacrificed so much for him now he is blaming me for everything and searching to marry another girl I don't know what should I do in this situation I tried to get away from him blocking him but it does not help 

Anxiety

So, recently I figured out that there was no way that the person that I’m in love with has no chance of being interested in me. This looks complicated, but it is simple, especially for me. He is not interested. And then, I thought about ways to manipulate people around him, just to make him think a little more clearly. He already had a girlfriend, but as I stalked one of his friends with him, I learned that he uses her as a showoff prop. That may seem weird, and it kind of is. He wasn’t in love with her in the first place. So there might be a chance for me, right? Nope. This may be a never ending cycle. He has a lot of girls drooling all over him, when he decides to break up with one, he can quickly find another. All those good looking, cute, rich girls... I couldn’t be one of them. But I could pretend that I was one of them. Just like every other girl did. But then I thought, if he isn’t going to love me actually, wouldn’t all that effort go to waste? Considering that I’m quite ugly, and not rich enough to look *cute* with expensive stuff, and even if I was, still wouldn’t be as attractive, I accepted my fate. I am ugly. There is nothing else to do, other than not giving a shit about love. Really, I mean it. If you are lucky, guys are going to love you and if not, shame on you. This world is not fair, and it is neither my or his fault. So, at the end, I came to the conclusion that love itself isn’t meant for me. And somehow, it has nothing to do with a spesific person. Now, I know it. The next step is to actually acknowledge it and stop hoping that he will love me back one day. How can I make that proccess easier?

Love

So I broke up w my bf 3 months ago. I had my reasons, I know it was right at that moment. For the first one month, I didn’t feel a thing. But then, there’s this uneasiness. Whenever I see him or hear his name I’m having a mini Panic attack, my appetite is completely dead, I don’t even want to get up from my bed. He seems like he moved on. I don’t know whether it’s the guilt or hurt that he didn’t even try to reach out to me once or maybe a feeling of unworthyness that he gave up on me so quickly. It’s not like I broke up for silly reasons, I tried and tried to tell him that it feels like a one man show (me putting all the efforts) he made my biggest fear ever in a relationship come true (guy putting all the effort in the beginning and then taking the girl granted ). Despite letting him know this several times, he didn’t change and instead said “I’m kinda pressuring him” that was my last straw. But why do I get to be the depressed kid after the breakup even after doing everything I could. I need solution to get over this feeling and feel like I’ve done something wrong.

i am now listening to the favorite song of a special guy for his girlfriend. :)) He came to my life after he broke up with his girlfriend. We talked and made a good connection. But he told me several times before that he can't go back to her because he will not be able to follow his heart. So i believed in him. Then days after, his girlfriend want him back, so he told me that they will be together again. I let him go back to her, because who I am to stop him? I was not surprised but disappointed, because I really like him. Then, days after he told me that he broke up with his girlfriend again because he is not happy anymore and he chooses me. That moment, I told myself that it will be my fault if O get hurt again. Then because I like him, I accepted him again. But then when things are not that happy anymore, he said that we should stop the relationship. And what can I do, but to accept it. Now he's with his ex girlfriend again. I am not surprised again, and not disappoined too. Cause I know that I'll get hurt, but accepted him anyway. It's just too "emptying" sometimes, to be treated that way. :(( But he is happy now, so I must as well. 

Relationships

So I've been taking to this guy for a year.i call him Al for now. For 7mths we were telling each other saying i love and talked about a family and kids. He didn't make things official becuase I had just broken up with my ex of 9yrs.... then Al's ex came back to his job. She confessed she missed him and that she wish things could be different. He mentioned that they even kissed. But it didn't feel the same and wants me. That were not in a relationship so it doesn't count. Now Al says that she is his best friend. When he wants his "me time" for himself they hangout. I get all upset and then he gets up set becuase I'm hounding him.... should I just stay away from him. He use to be more attentive to me and included me in everything. He said he still wants me but I can't believe him becuase I feel so betrayed. Again he states that we're not dating so it was okay.....

#11..........Months passed, I focused on my studies and got admission into one of the top colleges of India for my master's degree. I was extreamly happy and excited to start this new life. I shifted to a new city, away from my family and close friends. Life was initially tough but I always wanted to live alone and be independent so I knew it was just part of the process. Classes, projects, assignments and exams consumed my entire time. I barely got time to talk to my friends or family. Almost forgot about Mr. A in middle of this hustle bustle. When one fine day after 5 months out of nowhere I got a follow request from him. I didn't care much, just accept and followed him back. Though we followed each other but we never talked. He used you watch every story that I posted but never reacted to it and do did I see him post stuff but never liked it. By then I felt little happy as I didn't feel bad about it anymore neither thought obsessively about him. My days were going busy and I was always occupied with my work..........(to be continued)




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