collosus @dess
Hi, @banisinghvasir thank you for sharing your experiences and how you’re coping with life challenges. I can actually relate to everything that you shared because right now I am dealing with lots of difficulties. My days are becoming worse than worst, it has always been like this for months. But I can’t tell anyone even my closest friends and family. I’m just so lost and discouraged. I can’t even understand myself. Sometimes I just want to vanish because I feel stuck and I just want to give up. I was failing in my academics, in being a daughter and I haven’t been communicating with my friends for a week. I don’t know if my family has a hunch about what I’m going through since I always act tough and bubbly in front of them. But I’m tired of acting invincible in front of them. Sometimes I just wish that there is someone who is willing to hear and understand me, someone who’ll not judge me. As of now, I am trying to sort things out and I’m trying to help myself feel better. Is still feel lost and I still don’t know what to do or where to start but then someone said that I should hang on and I should do things that will make me feel happy. Actually, the community here and random person’s messages and genuine concern made me feel lighter.
Bani Singh @banisinghvasir
Dear @dess,
First of all, thank you for sharing everything with me and making me worthy of knowing your story.
Life has its ups and downs, and I know how hard it can be to ask for help. But as hard as it might be, it is worse to not ask for help when you know you need it.
Maybe I didn’t mention it in my email, but I used to be like this. The way you are. Taking on all of my life’s problems, accumulating them, never discussing them with another person because I used to think it would inconvenience them or that they would judge me or that they wouldn’t understand. And boy, was I wrong! I found the greatest companionship and confidence in my parents. Because I know I trust them fully to keep my best interests at heart. With my friends, I’m pretty selective about what I share and with whom I share. But my point is, everybody needs help and support. It doesn’t make us weak or incapable of handling our life’s problems. It just gives us another perspective and helps us get out of our own head.
Choose one person that you trust, it doesn’t have to be a family member, it could be anyone you know to have your best interests at heart. Just 1.
And talk to them, doesn’t have to necessarily be about your problems, just talk, but talk genuinely, not with the facade. Talk as you feel, let the thoughts out of your system, release them. And then just watch the magic, as the same problem starts seeming smaller and smaller and smaller.
If you still feel like this isn’t the route for you, do not hesitate to take a professional’s opinion. Try talking to a therapist.
Just keep your outlets open, you’ve done great just by letting it out here, on this thread.
Try taking one thing at a time, one step at a time. Don’t try to solve everything all at once. Just 1.
And I’m always here, and the Now&Me Community is always here if you’d like to talk more ❤️
