Yeah, the answer most likely depends on how old you are!

Hey..I m 24. And he is 30. I have met him once. He looked descent. But still m not sure.

Frankly even I m not sure. I mean I couldn’t ask him his age directly. So asked him his professional experience. So he stated 7+. But certainly I took buffer of 2 years just in any case.



Most importantly I don't know why but he sends text normally. Not through watsapp and stuff. And I asked him for his social media account, to which he said he doesn't use it much. And topic was closed. This things made me think a bit more.

Ig i don't mind age just the thing is what matters is how he is.. otherwise it's ok to meet but he safe 👍

If you feel safe and want to give try to this .. age doesn't matter 

In the western world, sharing information such as the reason for not getting married or a number of relationships is common. We here usually not share such info. Don't overthink here, you two have very different mindsets. Just go have dinner. Don't even think about a relationship here, it should be the ending steps of the ladder. The first step would be having a friendship. And what if he just wants to have fun with you?
Don't think of giving him a chance or stuff. Just go and enjoy the lunch.

Confusion

Sometimes I miss him...like alot...I can't msg him and he never did...we've shared so much with eachother...I miss the lil silly thoughts of mine that I used to share with him...and also he never judge me for stanning certain groups...for listening to kpop...I miss how he always noticed every lil things...life isn't certain...one day you sleep and another day when you woke up it turned your world upside down...day by day I'm getting numb...I don't feel anything for anyone...not because of him but because I don't have the energy to open up again and then shattered into pieces...I'm lonely and I'm okay with that but sometimes I miss him

3am Thoughts

There is something which is bothering me alot. The things I thought will never leave my side. It's not abt there words but there actions. Something that is making me awake whole night. My personal life is fucked up & don't ask abt my professional life cz I also don't know. I don't know why I haven't moved on from him yet but yea I still care for him, his little things makes me think all time abt him I wanna escape from my emotions but that's also not helping. I wanna shout aloud, cry feel all the pain and let it go but clearly that's also not happening. At this point I don't know what's hurts me more situation around me or the things that I can't control or feel my own emotions. I wanted a really simple life.....nothing is in my control....I already lost so many ppl which were my priority😶

Depression

I just wanted to get some point of view.
Especially those who have been in the same boat. My partner has been there done that with love once before and when we met he had kinda gave up on all that. Me on the other hand never wanted or looked for it because of the choice I've seen my parents make so I never loved anyone and gave my all to anyone until I met him. We started as friends and it kinda just kicked off it was great but I feel as if when we get in hard times he just treats me like the other "bitches" he's been with so I'm basically like all of them at the time of our troubles and it's almost like he doesn't really care how or what is happening don't get me wrong he does care but where I haven't been before when it comes to relationships I want him to understand where I come from when I'm upset. Also I've had a trashy upbringing & that comes with issues you develop and I try not to let this affect me but as we know that's easier said than done so at the start of the relationship we both expressed these issues we had and we simply made an understanding of each other. But now 3yrs in I feel as if that all went in one ear & out the other. And I hurt when he does things that I've explained to him that hurt me but it's now at the point where we are both strangers in that way, I've become a complete different person & so has he. Idk what to do. I feel so fucking alone but asking as he makes me smile I forget that Shit. I love him I do but I don't want to get hurt or have to explain why in hurting anymore. I feel as if I have no life left in me or any feeling at all, I'd rather just drink it all away or  something until I drop but I have 2 little ones so I ain't gone do that to them but fuck me it hard

Relationships

I've been in a 4 year relationship with my boyfriend (ex now)...in 2016 ......now I'm 18 but it's been really hard for me to forget or move on .... hoping I'll feel better after sharing here...

When I was 14 I met him he was 18.....I have no idea what his intentions were at the time.....I fell in love with him really hard.....this was my first relationship.....we started talking through social media...my parents didn't allow me to have boyfriends or friends that were boys...so we couldn't meet....one day my parents went to another state...so he suggested that he came to my house and I was home alone....that was the first time we met....at first everything was going okay....then he suddenly started getting really close...I was really uncomfortable but I didn't want to hurt his feelings...he tried to kiss me...I tried to get away but he blocked me ....he still kissed...I told him I wasn't ready ...coz this was my first time....he didn't really care and then tried to put his hand under my shirt I stopped him and he let go....I didn't say anything after that and then he left.....he texted me as if everything was normal....I thought I could trust him and hoped he wouldn't do it again....I was wrong ...everytime I met him he tried to kiss me...and touching me even when I tried to push him away..but I still couldn't leave him bcoz it hurt me alot...he knew that ...he cheated on me and then his friend told me...I believed the lies he told me bcoz I didn't want to believe that he would actually cheat on me...I used to be really dumb...ik that.. looking back now.....I stayed with him...I tried to let him kiss me or touch or whatever...but I couldn't...he would get angry and say that I didn't really love him...he would flirt with so many girls of my age only...now that I think about it ..y was he only talking to 14 years olds ..the girl he cheated on me with was my age too....

Next year he broke up with me...he didn't even bother to tell me he told his cousin to telme .....I fucking broke...the last time we had met b4 the break up he tried to put his hand down there then he realised I wouldn't allow him so he stopped....I was hurt and so lost...I went crazy...how could he .....

When I turned 15 he wished me happy birthday...I was getting better..and then he had to msg me ....I went back to him ...I forgave him ....and again he hurts me....the first day we meet after the break up....I fall asleep next to him...woke up with his hand in my pants ...I push him away but he holds me then and then tried to...after all that...he says he's sorry...I forgive him again...I didn't wanna lose him again...but it continued everytime we met .....I forgave him everytime...he started controlling me...told me what to do...what to wear...who to talk to...who to stop talking to...took control of all my social media..and told me he would leave me if I don't listen...so many times I had to beg him to stay when I didn't obey....

On our 2nd year anniversary....he pushed it too far and mad me jerk him off and tried to have sex with me...I didn't want to....he had already planned all of it and even had condoms ready ...he didn't even give me a choice....I told him enough but he didn't stop ..then my sister banged my door so he stopped ...she unknowingly saved me sort of....but I was dumb enough not to leave then and there....next time he did it..he didn't even care ...I pushed ..I told him to wait...I would try to get away but no use....I just wanted to spend time with him...but he only wanted that...this continued for till feb 2020....when I tried to explain to him what I was feeling he just ignored ...I told him that the only reason I had sex with him was because of him and not because I wanted and that I wanted him to stop now bcoz I couldn't take it anymore he was like "so?" So??...that was all....he didn't even stop..and it was too hard for me to leave him ...I started cutting ...and when he found out he left me standing there...he was mean to me...when he came back he held my hands so hard it hurt.....after that he became slightly violent ...and started hitting me not a lot....just a few slaps here and there....I saw how other ppl were treated in their relationships...I tried to tell him how I wanted to be treated ....and when I told him I would leave...he told me he would change...he would be good for one day and then start again....he would force me to send nudes and when I didn't the next time we met he would forcefully take my pics and videos and say that if I had just sent then this wouldn't be necessary....I left him telling that I wanted a break bcoz of my exams ....and then I realised I was much more at peace without him....

To this day he still begs me to go back... sometimes when I feel weak ..I wanna go back bcoz of the love I thought we had....but I realised only I really loved him ...he was using me....it was his intentions from the beginning..who I had fallen in love with wasn't there anymore that was just pretend....his true colors were revealed later.... ironically he was the only person I felt safe with....or comfort ...but scared too....now I'm in another state....he found out where I am...I still get scared that he may show up

Harassment

Just wanted to get people's say as to what I did was right or not. There was this guy I recently started talking to. We both actually have a common friend that's how we connected. I secretly liked him and just wanted to see if things would go anywhere. We just had normal talks, even planned to meet this weekend. I got to know from our common friend that he was actually talking to another girl over tinder a lot and that they were talking on video call n stuff daily. I saw a two timing guy, even though we didn't exactly go towards the path of any kind of commitments, he always used to say how excited he was for "the day" to meet me. I didn't say anything just deleted all the texts and unfollowed him. My thoughts here were I don't want to get associated with a toxic guy like him and I can't allow myself to be someone's number 2.

The things is i have been dating my bf from last 4 years and i dont have any single frn my family dosen't care about me a lot ..and whenever i needed someone  i used to talk to my bf i was dealing with depression i think i m still dealing with it ..my bf n i fight a lot nad whenever we fight he say stupid things and never apologize he nevee take initiative to sort things out and whenever i complain and say i m hurt u hurted me n u don't care whether i m talking to u pr not my presence absence dosen't matter to u all he say is that i don't wanna say anything  i keep messaging him calling him telll him i will go n never come back n all he say is i don't wanna say anything and don't msg me..i am hurt i have no one to talk to cry i am just numb..

Breakup

all thesse nights i was up worrying abt him and he was in love wit a girl who dont even like him. he wasted a whole relationship on some bs. he had me crying worried and feeling drained. i liked him so much and i did so much to make him happy and i get this in return? he a whole bitch who cant keep a relationship bc hes scared. he needs to grow up

Boyfriend

I'm feeling confused. pretty much good but there is this guy who's my classmate I've been texting with almost every day. when I first saw him he was this quiet kid who took 2 months to talk to people. but then once we started texting and then he revealed why he was that way at the beginning and all. now I'm hella confused about what I feel about him.

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