Hi all! I am having hard times accepting compliments. Sometimes the people who had said those nice words, take it back and say harsh words. I think it is because people assume that I am a ‘mentally normal and healthy’ person at first, because I act like one. But when I become close with them, I start to open up about my bad sides, and people are like ‘oh, so this is your true nature, I did not sign up to be friends with someone like you.’ I felt like I betrayed them. Now, I do not want to get involved with people. It has been quite a time since I am isolating myself. This stage of thinking made me doubt about my worth and question am I actually a good person? What if I am a toxic person? If so, how to heal my self? I can not afford therapy. So is there any advices, tips, recommendations you can give me? Thanks!
Anony @enough1565
You aren’t toxic. But you’ve been treated toxicly, I myself am going through it. I guess you can never just accept
The compliment but you have to start believing, don’t depend yourself on it, but start thinking about the compliment and how YOU feel about it. Hope that helped
Thank you for your comment! I feel good about some compliments, then my mind automatically thinks that they are not true ): I guess I also have some trust issues. Now it feels like I am a living problem :)
Sansthita @sansthita
You are traumatized. It’s your trauma that makes you behave this way. And it’s not your fault. PS: I have reported a toxic comment under your post. You don’t need to engage with that person
Thank you for your comment! I guess it is indeed a trauma. I grow up in a toxic household. Maybe it is doing its thing.
Sansthita @sansthita
Yeah. It’s not your fault. But do try to take therapy once you have the resources with you. It will make you feel better
I am still 18, so I guess going to therapy have to wait a little. But thank you!
Sansthita @sansthita
Welxie
