Hey wanted some opinions and positive judgements about this, I had a relationship with a guy I approached first and wanted to tell him how I feel and therefore we started talking and after sometime he started controlling me as soon as we confessed each other, he started judging me about why I wear rings on my hands or why I post pictures on my private acc, why do I watch East Asian dramas or listen to western music, he hated these things about me and told me to stop doing all this, he didnt like me being social and told me to stop talking to a lot of people especially boys, I couldn’t even say hi to any other guy, I used to walk with my head down while in a place where males were, he was very insecure of me even following 1-2 of my childhood guy friends and asked me to tell him every single detail about how what I talk with them if they ever approach me, he used to hate girls doing there makeup and wearing “too-short” clothes but used to like such kinds of posts of influencers which made me so confused of what does he exactly want, he also told me to stop liking any post or reel that contains a guy in it, and I was so frustrated because I used to get very stress at each and every step I took and was always afraid that what if he left me?, he used to believe his friends more than me who used to talk bad about me, and also I was at my lowest when he started criticising me for something tragic that happened to me in the past which made me emotionally very vulnerable and in top of that he tried to make me feel as I was always at the fault, believe me I was truly loyal to him and never did anything against him and truly loved him and after this he tried to broke my friendship with my best friend who was his cousin and told her false things about me, after all this I decided to break apart from him which was a really tough decision because I still love him and I really miss him, now it has been almost a month for our breakup, he promised me he will change and try to come back in my life after a year or so, should I let him? Should I ask my best friend about how is he doing? I know i shouldn’t go back to him as he made me go really down in life and at this point I have no social circle and I am all alone, still just asking some of your suggestions. Thank you :)
Don’t go back to him! Talk to people here and also find new friends if you can
I am preparing for an exam and currently not looking to make friends because even my best friend I just talked about hurted me a lot too, and I just don’t want to get attached to anyone for sometime , I truly loved my best friend but after all this everything seems to change so much.
Refrain yourself from doing anything that would get you know anything about him. If you don’t wanna make friends then write down things here.
Plus also my ex cried the day I asked him to break up and also he cried one month before that telling me he truly loves me so was that all a lie or is he just not mature enough to understand my situations?
How old are you both if you don’t mind
Sure I will keep that in mind .
Well almost 19 both of us
I know not mature enough but atleast mature enough to understand what’s right and wrong
I cannot say whether he’s mature enough to understand things but it can also be like he might manipulating you to get back… better stop thinking about him and start thinking about what’s important
True… he should be able to differentiate and like he’s a genz kid … I didn’t expect him to be this conservative
Well yes there are many other important things and I will try to focus on myself more now, thank you for helping out :)
John @johnwatson
sorry to barge in… I feel it’s not about being conservative considering how he likes photos of other girls. It’s just that he is very much insecure. Being insecure person is the worst honestly, this is the reason why he is trying to control her and keep her in his palms.
But I am glad OP broke up and you said the right thing to not go back to him. He’s just manipulative and probably will do the same thing in future. Initially sweet and then again back to basics.
Ap unke pas wapas nhi jaiyega wo nhi badlega
Seems like he have past trauma
