hey, so firstly I am 14 ik I am a minor, young teens do have problems people need to get that!! I am facing some issues but everyone here is like, ’ you’re a minor’and then they’re treating my issues as its not my right age to have any problems like these. I really NEED a person who can hear me without judging and give me some advice because I am really sad and hopeless these days.
Go on here’s a listener
okay so, I’m in a relationship my bf is 22 so there’s a huge gap, its been 7 months since we’re dating , everything is fine until he starts to ask for nudes which I am not at all comfortable in sharing, I have this really big anxiety for my body, even if he says ki ‘thoda sa hi dikha de’… he says that its his right , he has a right on me and some expectations too, but i’ve told him 100 times about this… I am the one who always apologizes first, understands everything acts mature but is it wrong for me to expect him to understand just 1 single short coming of mine? I am so stressed and I am working on my anxiety but he makes me feel that there’s nothing wrong that he is expecting because I am his girl , hearing all this makes me so so guilty + I have tried to walk away from him but I am not able to :(
Hey, I’ll catch u tomorrow morning, its actually really late… thank you <3
Dude … Dont send ur nudes to ur bf… Read again just don’t. Coz trust ur gut feeling girl if u don’t feel comfortable ur gut is protecting u. And if he says yeh uska right hai… He is wrong tbh… Its ur fucking body. If u say no that means no. If he really loves u he will understand reason behind ur no… Dont fall for his words that easily .
Hey ig someone else replied to you ot wasn’t me.
So you’re 14 and your bf is 22 look there’s a big age gap but tbh he is using I’m not judging you on any basis but have a look by other Presepetive in more coming 4 or 5 years he would be getting married and that time you gonna be minor so do u think he will marry you… The age in you are is just attraction I too have been gone through this but he asking for nudes is really not cool and if you don’t giving the concent then it’s a big nooo… I would just say you take a wise decision or else it will be get you in trouble and don’t fall for anyone’s words
You’re right yaar, but ukw he says ki if I’ll send once my fear or anxiety will go and it’ll all be normal, he said ki he’s just asking for my benefit so that I can face my fears :/
That’s right but he says that he’s gonna marry me and wait for me like I don’t believe his words tbh but he makes promises and says that I’m his first love he’s gonna keep me and whatever whatever-- all of this is actually give me alot of stress as I really don’t wanna send but his tone gets changed after I say no directly or indirectly , I just wanna stay with him because he’s my only friend, I dont have anyone else in my life except him :(
Tbh he is manipulating u dear… From my dating expirience… Relationship is not something like this…Imagine if u did what he said? Wont that make u more overwhelmed? U ll think constantly… Or will definitely have many regrets… So better just block that guy and move on. A random stranger but giving u a advice worth to follow…and ik m sure once u ll block him… These types of guys will keep u calling or msg saying sorry… But just block him from every sight… Save urself and as u r just 14 u have lot of life… Many people will come and go… And surely there will come a man who wont put u in this position. U get it?;)
Look bro you’re a minor rn not even 15 and you really think he will wait till you turn 21 there’s no chance… He will be saying some sweet words and tell him that he can’t force you to do this without your concet Or else just tell if you keep forcing me to get my fear away it’s totally wrong this fear like literally I wish I could slap that guy so hard… Just tell him stop forcing me Or else I’ll file a case and look what he does… Tbh he is just getting his time done with you and you’re in a age where we fall for words
yes, I do get it… but uk I’ve been trying my level best to walk away but we have soo many good memories like soo many which I can never forget, he makes me feel loved and special too… its just 1 thing in our relation which isn’t working, he’s my best friend he’s so funny he makes me laugh , I am actually so obsessed with him but just because of this thing because of my anxiety or sharing pics , I just feel he doesn’t behave maturely and doesn’t understand, yaar the way he says na ki you’re mine and its been 7 months so its my right at that time I feel like maybe I am at fault?
And if you don’t have any frnds then you did you met him a guy who is 21…y
we just met on the internet , haven’t met in real life till now
Bro just 7 months tell him you’re a minor not 15 even just get your guts together and say it to him tbh idk how your bond is but i really suggest you to get away from him or else it will create mess in your life… And yeah as he said to remove your fear you send him those only once… And then again he asking you and if not send what are the chances that he won’t destroy your life? See you had this thought bcoz you yourself don’t trust him that’s why you asked us so it’s a suggestion throw him away from your life
Bro you should leave him ASAP no one on the internet is trustworthy fo you guys ever had Video call?
Bro no one is real on internet have you ever fAced time with him? You haven’t even met him and how is he asking for it
yea , I have faced time like 4-5 times, I dunno how our bond became so deep
we’ve had a video call 4-5 times
I’m telling you leave him ASAP and do you really trust someone whom you met 7 months ago on internet bot met once in real till now to send that person your pics?
I understand you very much. But u need to make urself priority rn. Breakups are hard but it is equally imp for our own personal growth. U ll cry for days, weeks or perhaps months… But what will happen next? One day u ll just stop thinking about him… His memories wont hit u and make u cry. Time heals everything dear… Bestie we all get it that he is immature immediately when u said about his actions. And loneliness will too hit u. But ofc u wont be lonely forever… U ll get good friends from school and definitely when u join clg further. If u have siblings thats good too spend time with them a more. Make a journal and write every thoughts u ll come accross… But cutting him off is the very first thing u should do first.
you’re absolutely right yaar, but the problem is when he behaves so nicely and talks properly , I feel like he’s the best human being on Earth and no one else can be better than him and I’ve tried so many times to go away but then I remember the promises I made that I won’t leave him no matter what n all’ so I would be the one who would be called the ‘dhokhebaaz’ + I share every minute details of my life with him , even an hour feels so long without talking, from the day one till now , My affection hasn’t changed at all in all these months, u understand :(
Bro just ask your inner self that do you trust him to share your pics if your ans is yes go on its your decision we did our thing now you do your thing… Just take care of yourself!
He knows well how to control u… I get it all and did u noticed the other one replying u also saying the same… Means definitely he is wrong somewhere right… Do urself a favor and rn immediately block him first and then reply me bestie😤
It’s not about trust its about my anxiety , I cannot share my pics with anyone
Bro do you know why you get this anxiety you yourself know it… And now go and tell him this block him if he really love you he won’t ask again and again
Agreed bro. We tried our best and if u still feel any doubt try one experiment and ask same qs on this app… This time we wont ans… And u ll definitely know what we were trying to save u from…
You guys are right, I’ll block him , I’m so sorry for behaving like that
No need to sorry… So happy for you bestieee… Whenever u need to talk we are here <3
thank you so much :(
Anytime
That is so frustrating! Im a minor too, its not fair for someone to belittle other people just because of age… Im sorry, anything you need to talk about, there are listeners too. :)
Hey, I’ll catch u tomorrow morning, its actually really late… thank you <3
You don’t want people highlighting the obvious. Which i am gonna say you already know you’re a minor. But there are just some things you want to do that gets little bit difficult with being a minor. Its alright you can share.
Hey, Im kinda in the same situation its so crazy I know you posted this anonymous but I’d like to talk to you bc I haven’t seen anyone with the same experience as me
sure
we can connect tho
I think I did it 👀
I didn’t get any text tho
