Zippy @zippy
Hey, Iām new to this whole thingā¦ My online sort of best friend is practically in love with meā¦ I really wanted us to stay friends ā¦and this shit is scarring meā¦I have no idea whatsover heās planning to meet me on my birthday and we live in two different citiesā¦this is really scary for me because oflate Iāve been filled with negative thoughts ā¦everything was going good until this happened ā¦ I seriously have no idea what to do
šāš¼ @furyinside_404
You can try and be open about your concern and share it with him. If you havenāt communicated then he may not understand your perspective. In his head he may want to make you feel special and if thatās not the case then best to have a friendly conversation (if you have that equation).
Zippy @zippy
I donāt think heāll understand but Iāll surely try also thanks for reaching out :)
Trisha @3vs
Hey itās kā¦ donāt do things u donāt want to doā¦ if u like him give him a chance or just say whatās Ur in mind ā¦ as u mentioned online frnd , just make sure he doesnāt force u in anything n be extra careful
Muskan @idkyaaar
Itās not okay for you because it wasnāt your part of plan but falling in love with you was also not part of his plan , been there I know how scary it can get but girl first communicate tell and be clear with what you want . Next , hear him outtt respect his pov and both come to something that works
Umm, experienced the same thing. Iām not here to scare you but just want to share my experience. It got bad. Because I didnāt feel the same for him. But I really wanted for us to stay friends but he wouldnāt stop flirting and hoping that we get together one day. I knew that it was gonna end up even worse if I kept delaying it so I had to leave him. I believe heās better off without me. I couldnāt lead him on, in a way. As per you, you should create a line and tell him sooner that you donāt feel the same.
Zippy @zippy
This is exactly whatās happening ā¦but again I really want us to be friends
Yes. I wanted the same. I gave him another shot. But he couldnāt just help his feelings. I donāt blame him for it either.
Since this is pretty fresh for you, maybe heāll understand and try to not cross that line. I think you should talk to him as soon as possible.
Zippy @zippy
Donāt you think talking will just worsen the whole scene ā¦isnāt it better to just slowly avoid?
Donāt you think that he might be in an illusion that you feel the same for him? And it might keep leading him on. And just amplify his feelings over time.
Maybe Iām wrong. Maybe avoiding it might work. But someday, itāll pop up. And youāll have to make a choice. I chose to make that choice in the early stage because I didnāt want him to be devastated by leaving him later.
Zippy @zippy
Maybe youāre right ā¦communication is the key ā¦but Iām superr scared to confront ā¦it feels like Iām the one at fault
Youāre not! Donāt blame yourself. You canāt help who you fall for. He didnāt choose to fall for you. It just happened. And itās okay to feel scared. It just means that he does mean a lot to you and youāre scared to lose him.
See, you could choose to avoid everything and let it be. Maybe heās not in love and itās just attraction and his feelings will die down.
Zippy @zippy
Thanks for reaching out ā¦ Iām still clueless but really thanks a lot !!!
Anytime! Donāt feel pressurized to do what strangers have to say. You know your friend and you know your relationship better. Iām sure youāll only make the right decision.
Zippy @zippy
This really helped now ā¦ Thanks budā¦good wishes to you :)
Maybe he is in love maybe not, but not saying anything to him can never be a solutionā¦it would rather keep giving you panic attacks until the day. Open up to him and see how he responds, if he is acknowledges and understands ur situation well and good, if not then tell someone whom you trust and believe who can help you out, support and stand by you.
