Zippy @zippy
Hey, Iβm new to this whole thingβ¦ My online sort of best friend is practically in love with meβ¦ I really wanted us to stay friends β¦and this shit is scarring meβ¦I have no idea whatsover heβs planning to meet me on my birthday and we live in two different citiesβ¦this is really scary for me because oflate Iβve been filled with negative thoughts β¦everything was going good until this happened β¦ I seriously have no idea what to do
πβπΌ @furyinside_404
You can try and be open about your concern and share it with him. If you havenβt communicated then he may not understand your perspective. In his head he may want to make you feel special and if thatβs not the case then best to have a friendly conversation (if you have that equation).
Zippy @zippy
I donβt think heβll understand but Iβll surely try also thanks for reaching out :)
Trisha @3vs
Hey itβs kβ¦ donβt do things u donβt want to doβ¦ if u like him give him a chance or just say whatβs Ur in mind β¦ as u mentioned online frnd , just make sure he doesnβt force u in anything n be extra careful
Muskan @idkyaaar
Itβs not okay for you because it wasnβt your part of plan but falling in love with you was also not part of his plan , been there I know how scary it can get but girl first communicate tell and be clear with what you want . Next , hear him outtt respect his pov and both come to something that works
Umm, experienced the same thing. Iβm not here to scare you but just want to share my experience. It got bad. Because I didnβt feel the same for him. But I really wanted for us to stay friends but he wouldnβt stop flirting and hoping that we get together one day. I knew that it was gonna end up even worse if I kept delaying it so I had to leave him. I believe heβs better off without me. I couldnβt lead him on, in a way. As per you, you should create a line and tell him sooner that you donβt feel the same.
Zippy @zippy
This is exactly whatβs happening β¦but again I really want us to be friends
Yes. I wanted the same. I gave him another shot. But he couldnβt just help his feelings. I donβt blame him for it either.
Since this is pretty fresh for you, maybe heβll understand and try to not cross that line. I think you should talk to him as soon as possible.
Zippy @zippy
Donβt you think talking will just worsen the whole scene β¦isnβt it better to just slowly avoid?
Donβt you think that he might be in an illusion that you feel the same for him? And it might keep leading him on. And just amplify his feelings over time.
Maybe Iβm wrong. Maybe avoiding it might work. But someday, itβll pop up. And youβll have to make a choice. I chose to make that choice in the early stage because I didnβt want him to be devastated by leaving him later.
Zippy @zippy
Maybe youβre right β¦communication is the key β¦but Iβm superr scared to confront β¦it feels like Iβm the one at fault
Youβre not! Donβt blame yourself. You canβt help who you fall for. He didnβt choose to fall for you. It just happened. And itβs okay to feel scared. It just means that he does mean a lot to you and youβre scared to lose him.
See, you could choose to avoid everything and let it be. Maybe heβs not in love and itβs just attraction and his feelings will die down.
Zippy @zippy
Thanks for reaching out β¦ Iβm still clueless but really thanks a lot !!!
Anytime! Donβt feel pressurized to do what strangers have to say. You know your friend and you know your relationship better. Iβm sure youβll only make the right decision.
Zippy @zippy
This really helped now β¦ Thanks budβ¦good wishes to you :)
Maybe he is in love maybe not, but not saying anything to him can never be a solutionβ¦it would rather keep giving you panic attacks until the day. Open up to him and see how he responds, if he is acknowledges and understands ur situation well and good, if not then tell someone whom you trust and believe who can help you out, support and stand by you.