Hey. I fell in love with my best friend. Confessed, got rejected. But still loved her for more than 2 yearsβ¦she told me to never bring up this cos it made her uncomfortable so i didnβt. 2 years i bottled up everything and as she was going abroad i did everything i could to get her what she needed. I was there for her when nobody was there. Before she left, we got drunk together and she said she knows how much i love her but she doesnβt feel the same way with me. And when she got sober, she called me and said i deserve better. She then left. Lost the communication we had. Now she keeps talkin bout this dude and their flings. I couldnβt handle that. Itβs eating me from the inside that some dudeβs making her feel things which i shouldβve. Worst part is the stupidest goddamn part of me is still loving her with all my heart.π
Stop contact with her
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Sheβs my best friend bro, how can i cut her off just like that? Sheβs the only one with whom i can talk anything without any second thought. π How do you unlove someone?
By cutting them off till i feel okay, after that i decide if i want that person back in my life or not.
Remember, you are responsible for your happiness and health, no one else.
Dropping a friendship sounds counterintuitive but if thats what it takes for you to eventually feel better do it. People will pull you back saying theyre hurt from you trying to make yourself feel less hurt they dont care.
She doesnβt love you, you do.
Talking to her doesnβt hurt her it hurts you if leaving the friendship is gonna hurt her but help you dont worry about it. If she understands sheβll let you leave.
Ask for some time off she already knows why you need the time off.
Good luck bro i wish you the best in life
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
π₯Ίbroβ¦ Thanks for those words bruv. Really appreciate thatβ€οΈ
No problem bro, ive been in your shoes and im doing much much better now.
For some reason we always worry about how hurt the other person will be even though its constantly hurting us a lot more than how much theyβll possibly be hurt. Gotta go against that feeling and get selfish for your own sake. Daydreaming sheβll be with you while staying hurt seeing her talk about other guys sucks youβre destroying yourself and your capability to be in a healthy loving relationship with someone who you deserve. Be selfish ignore what other people say and keep your head up king!
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
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Hotmess @goofyarora
Hey , i hope everything goes well for you . She was right, u deserve better . And love hurts , try to move on tho ik thatβs hard but trust me itβs even harder in the situation you are in right now. Spend time with your family and take care of yourself. Iβm here for you β€οΈ
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
I donβt have a lot of friends. I just have bout 2 or 3β¦sheβs one of them. I canβt loose her. Itβs not her fault. I thought i was enough. But i was wrong. Sheβs a gem. I love her more than anything. I canβt loose her too.π But the fact that Iβm loosing her slowly and not being able to do anything is pretty hard.π
Hotmess @goofyarora
Still talking about a dude when she knows you are into her is not cool . Sheβs deliberately doing stuff to make you feel like she can have anybody unlike you .
Maybe sheβs a gem , but just not meant for you. Tryna make new friends new connections, go on a few dates maybe. Then uβll eventually realise that there are people who actually love you care for you and are there to support you.
Life is too small to cry for girl who rejected your love for about 5 years back
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Yeah that one hurted like a mofo. I never thought she would say stuff like that. And the way she keeps on talkin about him. Before she left, she used to trash talk bout him with me. Now they actually met in person, she happy now.π I was like wait wut!?
Hotmess @goofyarora
Just let her be and start living for yourself, love yourself. And Yk you can try shutting the window down after busting a nut ππ
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
ok that made me a lot better now. Tysmππβ€οΈ
Hotmess @goofyarora
Pleasure π€
Bro move on !! Focus on yourself , donβt cut her off but donβt cross the line like tum apna comfort zone chhod ker kiski ke liye nahi karne ka though she is yourbest friend effort dono side se hota hai !! You really deserve much much better than her !!! And Trust me someone is going to love you ki tum imagine bhi nahi kar sakte ki koi mujhse itna pyaar kar sakta hai !!! Career and family pe Focus karo sending you lots of love and good vibes !!
I can totally understand your situation, Coz I myself am in love with my bestfriend and idk how he feels about me, Tbh I donβt wanna know, because Iβm afraid it would be a βI donβt feel the same way about youβ but he does know how I feel about him but I never asked him, we deserve someone who loves us back as well as much as we love them, But right now we canβt unlove the person we love right now, All we can do Is wait and see what future would bring to us, and till then donβt waste your life, Iβm trying to make myself better in shape and studies.
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Noo. I think you should confess. If it goes out well, you get to keep both your best friend and boyfriend. If you confessing mess up the friendship, that wasnβt even a good friendship in the first place. If the answer is no, things will be awkward for sometime but then eventually itβll be like before you confessed. I really hope things turn out good in the end for you. β€οΈ
He does know my feelings for him that I like him, but yk I canβt straight away ask him if he does too, I donβt wanna force him anyhow or make him feel uncomfortable
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
I feel you, and no honey you ainβt forcing nobody here. I know youβre playin it safe and you donβt want to jeopardize what you guys have now. Yeah I think thatβs better, but some day you have to just throw it at himβ¦ Who knows if youβll hit a homerunβ€οΈπ Donβt loose hope queen.
Alana @selenophile_013
Yeah youβre right but yk Iβm kinda introvert so I suck at these things and he could ask but I donβt that strength but thank you alot π€
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Hey I know the struggle. Itβs hard. I canβt even get a food order straight without repeating it 4 to 5 times in my mind, which is why i miss her more now cos she used to do the human interaction while we went out. ITβS HARD!! people wonβt get it. I hope this guy is an extrovert so that when the waiter brings the wrong order, he changes it instead of you eating it without any complaints.π
Alana @selenophile_013
Yeah lol heβs an extrovert and introvert both actually, from inside he is introvert only but from outside the opposite