Hey
I donβt know what to do help meπ
So actually what happened is, my bf and I were talking and he asked me who am I gonna date after him, I said I wouldnβt be able to date if anything happens to our relationship (Iβm just so damn attached to him) so then I asked him the same question and obviously did not expect another name in the answer. There is this girl he finds cute so he told me he would date her after me. This just broke me like wtf you thinking about stuff like that? π. Then I got extremely upset and he asked me if I got hurt and that I could tell him whatβs it thatβs bothering me. So I told him that I was hut because of that other girl thing. He told me that I was acting typical. I didnβt know what to say so I said sorry for acting typical but I was deeply hurt insideπ. And then I told him that Iβll talk to him later and he was like yeah go.
Someone please tell me did i really act typical? Iβm confused and sad.
You acted normally, itβs just that you should never rule out any possibility and the possibility here is that the relationship might end but there was this amazing quote I came around one day, βnever focus on problems you donβt have right nowβ, do you get it?
Sure I get it π. Itβs just the fact that him talking about someone like that really hurt. I thought maybe I was overreacting
Thatβs the thing, you werenβt π
Glad about that. π
No you didnβt act typical. You where like a person in loveβ¦and he is acting like all cool and toughβ¦and you overreacting.
This is not the caseβ¦just finish the topic as you are already hurt and more you think or speak about it more it will hurt . Watch him closelyβ¦and see whether he is really attracted to you in the same way you areβ¦and in the end make sure you love and keep your self above every damn thing on earth
Nah. You reacted right.
Sis, he ainβt serious about you.
He finds another girl cute, Nd thats okay. But he clearly said he would date her after you.
AFTER YOU. Donβt you get it?
Why would someone who is actually serious about you say like this? Someone who is actually serious about you wouldnβt think of dating another girl.
And the way he said you are acting typical instead of comforting you when you are hurt isnβt right. And DO NOT APOLOGISE FOR HOW YOU FEEL.
you feel hurt, you feel hurt.
be proud and accept how you feel. Period.
Sis, Iβve been there.
And i let things like this happen and in the end, i got so fucked up that My emotions were of no value. Please be careful.
He is toxic. Cut him down if he ainβt serious about you.
You deserve better.
Exactly the thing about feelings comes up and in the end its me who has to say sorry even though its me whoβs hurt like most times it happens. But ykw actually our relationship is complicated, Iβm Muslim and heβs hindu so thereβs this future issues typa thing that comes between yk, so itβs in that context that he said after you but whatever the reason was he shouldnβt have said her name. Ugghh its just so complicated and tiring
Girl, caste and future will never be an issue if a person loves you and is serious about you.
He should rather be willing to fight anything with you, for you but now add cute girls to his list whom he could have if you donβt work out.
Note that he thinks that you both wonβt work out.
You are wasting your time over some petty guy who canβt even own up his mistakes but makes you apologise.
But not add**
Idts you acted typicallyβ¦ Its just that you are so attached to him that you couldnβt think of any guy except him when you are with himβ¦ But ifβ¦ he is love for you doesnβt match your love for hisβ¦ Idkβ¦ Sorryyy if that hurt youuu
Itβs ok i get it, no need to say sorryβΊοΈ
Cheer up budππ Talk to peopleβ¦ not about thisβ¦ try to not include him in your talksβ¦ And I am really sorryβ¦ But I prolly should say itβ¦ He doesnβt deserve youβ¦ I am really very sorry if I am overstepping