Hey guys , so like, i had this dude whom had been my best friend for the last 4 years but 2 years ago, man got into a relationship and sidelined me , a lot and it hurt, once they broke up, i opened up to him and told him how i felt left out, a little too much. He promised me that he would never sideline me again and all kinds of bs as to how much he values our friendship, A year later he found another girl and honestly i liked her a lot as well (as a friend) and i was genuinely happy for him. Fastforward to this month’s beginning, he was all set to get transsfered to another state on the 4th of may, and due to exams and shit ,we couldn’t hang out properly till the 15th of this month. After exams were done , i called him so many times and asked him if he wanted to hang? But he kept giving excuses and i grew tired of calling him as well. Then when our friend group made a plan to meet up, he comes at the last moment and lies saying that he was studying for NDA, only to find out later that he was hanging out with his girlfriend. The following days he made no attempts to hangout with me but went cycling 40 mins away to meet his girl daily (i live 5 mins away). This time i got mad and blocked him on social media, i kept our discord open just in case he wanted to sort stuff out( he is active on discord 24x7) yet he made no efforts to contact me, he is madly in love with this girl who is dating him to just pass her time. I don’t regret my descion in disconnecting him out of my life but we have so many common friends , he is there in all of them and i kinda miss him.
thank you for reading, i’d like to know if you were me, had you done anything different?
Wanderer @wanderer_
See, you cannot force friendship
If he wants to spend time with her and not with you then you cannot make him
He doesn’t respect you enough then don’t be there.
Trust me, I have done this to my friend and yeah I was wrong to focus on the girlfriend and ignore the friend but that moment I didn’t care and right now he doesn’t care
So just move on
And if I was at your place I wouldn’t have gone back to him in the first place because if he doesn’t care enough to remember the friendship then it’s no point forcing it
It will fall apart
thank you, you just made me feel much better
Wanderer @wanderer_
Just take care of yourself and don’t do anything which can hurt you and don’t force anything
If you wanna talk or share or rant just let me know
I shall! you’re too kind, how do i contact you
Wanderer @wanderer_
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