Hey guys, I wanted to say that Iโm unhappy in my relationship. There was been trouble since over two weeks, my boyfriend is being very different. He feels he doesnโt want to be consumed by this relationship and be bound to it and earlier used to feel that he doesnโt have the freedom of disagreeing with me. But of course he can disagree and say things but now things arenโt working out. He texts me less very less, he calls me less. He doesnโt say love you often. I donโt feel cared for or loved. I want him back. He doesnโt call me by the nickname he kept and I feel very distant with him. I have been crying a lot and very upset about this. He told me that he doesnโt want to talk that often but I want to. I told him that itโs no rule but we can talk a lil bit throughout the day. I donโt know when will things be alright. I love him and Iโm very hurt. I just wish for us to feel togetherness and loved. I donโt want to leave him but itโs so upsetting. I donโt know what to do.
Bani Singh @banisinghvasir
Hi Beautiful,
This is what I tell all of my closest friends, and If I knew you personally, Iโd say the same thing to you: The fact that you know youโre unhappy in this relationship means that you already have your solution. First up, since youโre saying that the change in his behaviour is recent, then maybe some events may occurred which mightโve caused him to think/act differently. Maybe you can ask him if everything is okay, or if somethingโs happened recently which is affecting his mood. But even after that if he isnโt treating you right, then itโs not okay and it is not acceptable to tolerate the way heโs behaving. Donโt chase him in the hopes that he will agree one day and that his behaviour might change. You shouldnโt have to convince people to stay. I know this is hard for you, but trust me, there are better men out there who will appreciate you for who you are and value everything you do for them. This is going to take some time to get over, but if you firmly make up your mind that you donโt want to feel hurt again, then youโll surely get over this. Just enjoy every bit of life and try to take him out of your mind. And throughout this journey, if you ever feel weak, if you ever feel like youโre falling back into the same pattern with him, donโt hesitate to come up here and share. I hope I can, along with our community here, give you the strength you need to go through with this. Think about all the people in this world who love you, who donโt want to see you getting upset or hurt. Think about your closest friend or sister in the same situation as this and think about what you wouldโve wanted her to do, and then apply that to your situation. Stay strong and donโt settle for a compromise. Sending you my love and the warmest hugs.
Drishti Gupta @drishtigupt...
Hey there! I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in this! There are times when each and every one us go through something like this in our lives. We all let someone, be it a friend, boyfriend, classmate etc treat us in a particular way, when we know that we deserve better. I would just advice you that try it out one last time, tell him how you feel and if he values you enough, he will change his behaviour patterns. If not, then thatโs your sign to move ahead and do better :) Promise yourself to not accept less than what you deserve :)
Maulika @maulika
I agree with Bani and Dhrishti
Kashika @kashika
Iโm so sad. The exact same thing happened with me and I thought it was just me. Never continue with a relationship that consumes your mental peace. Thatโs more important that being afraid of leaving.
No one 111 @jarul
Hey your boyfriend is a massive dick. Dump him