Hey beautiful souls,
Just wanted to know what to do in a scenario where you know that something/someone is not what you want for yourself but still you constantly crave for it. I know it is toxic, but I still don’t know how to deal with it. How to deal with this feeling of hopelessness and constant fight between mind and heart.
hinata @brave_insect_3
Just take a break n give urself time everything will b fine
Thanks. But i don’t know how to take break from my own thoughts. It’s been almost a year and half now, someday I feel everything is fine and in control and suddenly I start crying. I know we all are the same when it comes to emotions. It is just getting tough day by day.
hinata @brave_insect_3
Start sharing w people it will make u feel lighter n u will fill great… make sure that person doesnot judge u or make fun of ur emotion…
Is the issue between u and other person?or ur thinking .pls give clarity
It’s like my ex has friendzoned me. I know we should never get into this kind of situation but since we were in the same company, I initially had no choice of avoiding him and gradually he was the only friend I had, thanks to the bitter truth of adulthood that everyone gets busy in their own life. Due to the fights we had during our relationship we both know that we can’t be happy together as couples but I think I have a habit of him.
Yes, it happens. Try to make new friends in office or if possible reconnect with school.or.college friends. You might feel lighter.
I have old friends, but now we are not that close, there is always this distant feeling. You know, we all need at least one friend with whom we feel comfort. Actually, he moved to a new company around 2 months back. Initially we were talking to each other almost daily, but 10 days ago we had an argument on small stuff and we have not talked since then.
Maybe because of no communication I am having this unconscious feeling of losing him, which is actually bothering me. Somewhere, I know till the time I will stay in touch with him i will never be able to develop any interest in someone else. But the idea of starting it all over again, making new friends or relationships is quite tiring and my soul is actually not ready for something of this sort
Okay, then reconnect with your old friend. Also, it’s always a decent idea to have 3-4 good friends. May be later you can think on those lines. Cheers!
Thanks!
Hey going through the same I also had just my ex to talk to but you know than I started finding my strength that even if there is nobody with me I will try to stay strong and manage things on my own … and honestly it gets really hard for me …but I manage it somehow by talking to certain Frnds whom I help and sometimes they talk in return and sometimes they don’t but I m trying my best that I should not need anyone …
And I too have this fight btw mind and heart but cultivate a space in your mind and motivate yourself in this difficult tym that you will get over this very soon there is always a ray of hope … and if you can’t move all of sudden msg b u could just take a littl steps … try building comfort with other people around and try new hobby where you are quite busy that it doesn’t come to ur mind to talk to anyone … or may be could join gym , dance class where u meet new people … learn some new skill and with tym u will get people in life or you can just go online … things will get good with time just take baby steps if you can’t move on all of sudden this hopelessness will end soon all the best
Actually, i really have a busy schedule. A big corporate life and so many personal responsibilities, and have enrolled for gym also. But the thing is, i really have to gather so much courage to do the basic cores in a day. And i don’t have this habit of depending on anyone. Somewhere i feel, I am mentally mature enough to leave this situation, but I am scared of hurting him because apparently he also has only me as his closest friend. But one more thing is that, he tries to hide things from me sometimes, which is gradually making me insecure. Like i am scrutinizing if there is anything I need to find out
Lot of people are in big setup. Making friends should be easy then as you will have more connects. Take care
Darshan @posh_rain
I was in a 4 year long relationship. In between 3rd year, she friendzoned me for almost a year. I was desperate at that point n kept going back to her.
Infact to realise she had become my habit. But we couldn’t break off from eachother. We tried dating again but we realised it wasn’t happening. Once the spark is lost its not easy to get it back. There’s always a scar.
I came out of it with real difficulty, but it took time. I mentally prepared myself.
Slowly prioritise yourself day by day. Focus on other aspects at work. I did a lot of circus to get myself back.
I can share a few things if it helps.
Yes, please tell me
Darshan @posh_rain
Sure …Let’s connect.
