Hello, this post might be long and all over the place but i just need to get somethings off my chest. I am a 25 year old male and me and my fiance broke up a few weeks ago. Yesterday i talked with her friend and apparetly she (my now ex) had been cheating on me several months before the breakup. I had a gut feeling that things were wrong but she manipulated me in to believeng that i was paranoid and had a toxic behaviour. So i backed down and ignored the red flags and my gutfeeling.
She has also messaged a few of my close friends asking if they would be into her if she was not together with me, (ca 1 year ago). This was my first relationship and it lasted 4 years… now i am broken… She mad me believe that i was the bad guy. :(
You will find like these people somewhere in your life…
Yes it would be hard to get over and be OK
Mentally emotionally but you need to put your pieces back together coz you may not be change things nor actually explain what’s the matter so …
U r sad be sad, wanna get things out from your mind get it out but be OK and once you yr pieces up and stand again then dont look back to things .
Just let it go…
Hope it helps
Thank you
Most welcome so just be OK and have fun in life apart from other serious thing which is there
All I can say you dodged a bullet. Imagine if she married you and kept continuing her gaslighting behavior. I feel sorry for you. Take time to grieve and stand up stronger. Never ignore red flags in relationship and try to run a background check on your partner in the future if you ever get married to someone. Good luck.
Thank you
Hey… You are not wrong clearly, so don’t blame yourself . But I think there is no point in blaming her constantly either as it will dominate your thoughts and only bring negativity. Take a break, go fir a trip, move away from the people who remind you of her
