 Hello 
So I like a boy we have a great bond but I'm afraid to date him. Whenever I think something like this my past comes in front of me and I think things will be the same and I just leave those things but that boy makes me happy I feel so good when I'm around him. I am really confused about this. 
Should I date him or give some time to myself 

In last year Nov, but then after 6 months my x returned but now I have cut all connection with him

So 3-4 months after you cut all connection with your ex. I think its enough time . Tell this guy how you feel

Crush


It's half past midnight and I'm at work (nightshift). I just had a little heavy moment. I'm going through the phases of healing from a break up I guess. it's been almost 3 months since my ex blindsided me and ended our 2 Yr relationship. So yea my mind is in constant over drive and I don't know how to be in the present. I'm constantly thinking why?what if?I wonder if he feels the way I do?is he with someone else?etc etc..and I even wonder was I the problem? All not good I know but how to make my mind stop?! 


Breakup

So I am extremely confused. I have this date with a guy. But I feel like I am betraying my parents by going out with him. They have made sure I stay at home and be a good girl. They have restricted me all life but ik they did it to protect me. But idk. What should I do. I feel this guilt. 

Confusion

I KNOW  ITS  LONG  BUT  I  NEED HELP  TO UNDERSTAND  IT !!!!!
Few Years back  I  backstabbed my best friend.... I used to like him ... but he was in a relationship  with  my classmate  I was jealous  of  her ...  He used to share everything  with  me  For some reasons  he was  going  to end his relationship  with  her and she was depressed  and  sad. We all have common  friends  ....My friend  with whom  I  used to share everything  about  him spilled each and every  detail  I gave her about  him to everyone(Even the screenshots).... She made up such stories  as if we were dating..... His Girlfriend  got to know  all this stuff.... and she got furious .... My  friend she is such a bitch  told me that he is only using you ...after breakup he we date you , use you and dump u.... he never gave you proper recognition... he used to hide that you used to hangout  with you from his girlfriend.... she told me that he wants  me to be his dirty secret .....
Even  I got  instigated  and spilled  everything  to his girlfriend..... (They asked  me  to speak  in such  a  way that he was cheating  on  her and I was so frustrated and dumb that I spoke  everything  that  my friends  made me to speak....)
After  2 or 3 days  he decided  to  confront  me and ask me what was wrong  with  me  .... we were not alone  we were accompanied  by those 2 girl who brainwashed  me and his girlfriend...... Irony  was both the girls backed out and said they weren't  aware  of  anything  that  I spoke and made everyone believed that  I  spoke everything  on my own....... One of the girl supported  him iin front of him (day before  fight she was the one who spoke against  him  and wanted  to  drag his family  to this ) ...... N at the day of fight she made me a villan .... 
I was devastated  I wasn't  able  to  speak  anything  his girlfriend  yellled at me infact she asked  me to speak  the truth  otherwise  she would  slap me ... I wasn't in my sense  wtf i was speaking......
I potrayed my best friend  as characterless .....
After that I left with one friend with whom I used to share everything  even she was shocked to see that the bitch who instigated  me  was the one who was trying  to  make everything  alright  between  him and his  girlfriend  .... N now he and his  girlfriend  are friends  everyone  and everything  is  same  That bitch  is still thier friend...N only I am the one who is villan  for him.....
I have never  cried  in front  of anyone  but that day on my way to home I was crying sitting  on  a footpath  with my friend.........
I STILL CAN'T  GET OVER IT!!!!!
I WANT  TO APOLOGIES BUT HE HATES ME !!!!
N I HAVE NO GUTS LEFT  TO  CONFRONT  HIM ...
LIKE IT HAS BEEN 2 YEARS NOW BUT STILL I WANT TO APOLOGIES....BUT WHENEVER  I SEE 

HIM AND TALK  ABOUT  HIM I FEEL  VULNERABLE LIKE THAT DAY WHEN WE HAD FIGHT!!!!!!
Please Help  me  what should  I  do  now....
PLEASE  HELP ME HOW TO MOVE ON  FROM THIS 

He has been home for 5 days and we barely talked. Just few texts. Should I call him? 🥺 he never picked up my call when he is at home. But I so wanna talk, idk what to do. 

Frustration

2020
Began my year by wishing someone at 12, someone really special . Everything was going smooth. I made sure to prioritise my health over everything else . Would wake up early, exercise, attend my classes ( they went online for the first month) I would try new healthy recepies everyday , studied and scored well and the best part I had someone to listen to me at the end of the day, so I would just hide under my blanket and tell him every bit of it , how this one exercise sucked and how much I dislike this one girl at my tuition . It was a mutual thing, we were both equally obsessed with each other but ofcourse that’s not how life works right ? Things began to fall apart , “ it’s not the same anymore “ that’s what he said , began to ignore my ilys, stopped asking for my pictures, got dry . It was hurtful , it really was and I couldn’t accept it . Soon came my birthday , it didn’t really go as planned but it was a good day . We hadn’t stopped talking and were trying to figure out where did it exactly go wrong . Now I’m a sensitive person and I cry like in seconds , he dislikes that ( I like that he dislikes that ) and clearly he got frustrated. And after 2 more months of trying, it just felt like “ nhi ho paega ab” 
It just wasn’t the only thing bothering me , since I just gave my boards, it was now time for me to decide which stream should choose and I believe that’s an important decision too . I wasn’t in my right state of mind, I couldn’t sleep at nights, I had no one to talk to , no one to clear my confusion. I took a sleeping pill in order to sleep early so that I could get back to my routine . I woke up with a heavy heart for a long long while , I hated waking up, I hated being productive, I hated every bit of it . But I knew I had to be strong so I joined a coaching with a hope to start fresh , to be distracted and to focus on something that’s actually important. We were still in contact , we just didn’t talk like we used to , it would be just like once twice a week . But seeing him online till late at nights, talking to somebody else while I scrolled through one year back memories , I was more hurt and so I decided to delete my socials, I had to . Felt pretty peaceful. I got alot of attention from alot of guys when I joined the institute . For the first few weeks I did respond but then I realised that that’s not what I am here for , so I made sure to keep my distance and focus on my studies . Soon came the result of my board exams and that was a happy day . I texted him , he didn’t have much to say just a boring “ congratulations “ and I mean wtf was I even expecting!? Kinda felt sad because I remember how he calmed me down my nervousness on the day of my term 1 result and was so happy for me . I scored the highest marks in my institute’s batch and that was a good part, came back home to a cake by my family , also got an iPad . The next two months came with new experiences, I gave a media interview, I got my first ever scholarship, my first ever award  and by God’s grace, I got one more too ! But during all these times, I did feel empty , I tried to restart my life so many times and I failed miserably every time , I couldn’t process and accept the fact that there’s nobody who is willing to listen to me, my happiness, my sadness, my worries, my thoughts. Soon came his birthday, wished him exactly at 12 with a cute paragraph and began to cry . It was the worst feeling I had ever experienced because things were so different an year ago and here we were in the present , unable to fix our bond . 
This year changed me alot, I felt exhausted, I began to hate dressing up or be excited for birthdays so this year was the first time I had not planned a surprise for my sister’s birthday but obv I didn’t want her to feel upset so instead I just took her to the market and instead of  secretly wrapping gifts for her, I just completely gave her the decision to  to pick up whatever she wants and as I had said , I felt like I had lost my excitement , my cheerfulness, this was also the first time I did not get ready for Diwali . Spent the day in pajamas studying . And then came November, the hardest month . I was so determined to focus on my health and studies and I finally gathered up the energy to but life happened again, my grandfather was in icu and my father got dengue, it was a difficult time and on 28th , dadu left us , left us forever . 15 days after that just went like that , people came and went and so many other things took place . 
So I met that special someone for the first time ever after basically knowing and talking to each other from like two years and that was a beautiful day , we tried again to sort things out , failed, tried again, failed, gave it one more shot and now here am I waiting for the clock to hit 12, uncertain about “ if he’ll wish me or not “ . I’m a mess believe me 🥹 
I’m certain that 2023 won’t be for “us” because I’m trying to focus on my studies rather than being involved in any sort of emotional attachment but maybe , someday later in life I might meet him and maybe things will work out then , cause I’m too young now and I have my whole life ahead of me. Maybe all this happened for the good !!


If you really did come this far, thankyou so much for listening 💕 , I really appreciate it and wishing you nothing but the best!

Teenagers

I don't think I can ever get over him. 

Exhausted

I really like my boyfriend. We've been together for almost 3 years now. I never told my parents about him because they are super strict and would definitely be pissed off at me for being in a relationship. Of course, I want to proceed with things on another level with him as in getting engaged and married. But, I don't see it happening. My mom has been finding guys whom I don't even know to get us married. I don't want to get married to some guy whom I do not know. They just do not understand me. I told them about my boyfriend recently. They were so mad, and they told me to forget him. My boyfriend has a stable job, a loving guy. I'm so heartbroken. My mum is forcing me to get myself married to some random guy. AAAAAAAAAAAA. I don't know what to do.  

Stress

So I have been in a relationship with a boy since the past 3 months. It was going smooth until I figured out that the guy is too clingy and immatured. I mean,it might sound sweet but he is always talking about things like marriage ,love and never tried to rationalize things. Whenever I try to make him understand that marriage is a big thing and we really need to be practical about such a big thing in life. He starts to doubt my loyalty. In short, he is always acting immatured and clingy . He always craves for attention all the time. I have a life outside this relationship and he fails to understand that I need to balance both. He is too needy and demanding to a point that I have started to feel annoyed about this whole thing . But at the same time,I don't want to hurt him. Please help.

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