(Broke up today . My first relationship, not able to control my feelings. Can’t talk with friends and family don’t know how to handle and move on)
I had been in a relationship for 3years. My first ever relationship. Met him at University, started as enemies but ended as lovers. I was very happy, he was fun to be with. Never flirted with other University girls. But after 2months his best friend called me. Our relationship started with a lie, he was already involved with his best friend. I was shattered because within this little time I emotionally bonded . He promised that his best friend was lying I didn’t want to trust him but my emotional bond made me stay with him. Then for 3 years everything went fine. All of a sudden today he asked" will keep talking with me after my marriage". His family saw a girl for him. And he has been in contact with her from last 3 months. I felt used. I felt disgusted. Crying whole day isn’t enough. My parents don’t know about this , so I have to cry hiding from them. This pain is Killing me from inside. I don’t know what to do. I said him " I breakup and will not be in contact". But every memory of us is tearing me from inside. I don’t want him back. I just want to recover. Please help. Words are not enough to describe what I am going through. And being an introvert this is the only thing I could do.
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