Hello I'm in relationship with a guy since 4 years. He takes a great care of me but he's being over possesive he won't let me talk to other boys.And the saddest thing is we are in long distance relationship which hurts me even more.But i do want make good guy friends.

Aditya Sahu

Boys can be over possesive at times. But all time possessiveness is a red flag.

You can make friends , but choose the right once 😊 that's all ,
Take care 💞

Relationships

I was dating him since 1 year, gradually I realised that he's not the person I want. I'm ambitious & wanted him to support & guide me but as he's not ambitious he just wanted to talk all day round, I used to talk and manage my studies later but gradually I started unloving him because of his nature. As we had come a long way in our relationship all we had to talk was sext type stuffs and nothing good & he was not interested in sharing daily life chores he did with me. I tried to telling him that I'm not liking all this by giving him some hints but he never understood and after some days I left replying him and since then it has been a month, I have not talked to him. I was not willing to and also I was very busy with my collage. I wanted to balance him & my collage together but he didn't support.He tried calling & messaging for a week &  then he left trying too. After a month, now, his female best friend is calling me but I'm not answering her. I'm very confused, I don't know whether I should talk to her or not, should I tell her what I feel or not.I haven't talked to my bf since so many days, it's obvious that he must be angry so in this situation will he understand what I want from  from  from him 
What should I actually do?

Confusion

I really feel angry and frustrated when a close friend of mine, whom I consider my bestie, ignores me for months, neither calls nor messages and then suddenly messages one day... we talk once or twice and he disappears again... this act literally leaves me empty and alone... and I feel it burdensome to talk to him at that time, I feel like I am just an option and am being used... I feel hard to laugh and genuinely smile at his texts or calls because of this act of his... we have fought multiple times over this, he apologized but continue doing the same thing... I am like, I know you are busy, but u can ping a message once a week.. telling me if you are alive or not.... I don't know, maybe I think of him as my bff but he doesn't...maybe I am expecting too much... it is just that I don't have many friends, I consider him my closest but I find myself hiding things from him and not telling my issues to him due to this nature of this- he just mocks, cracks jokes and disappears again... every time I think that this is our last talk and I won't talk with him again but this cycle repeats... I am genuinely confused and angry

Frustration

My boyfriend has been near me for the past 2 years and now he has a job offer at a far away place..it's a really good company and it's a good option for him but I wish he never left..coz I don't know what to do without him here..I'm sad I meet him..I'm angry I wanna see him..I'm upset I wanna see him..I'm happy I wanna see him..it's all him..everyone here has boyfriends and everyone's roaming around so there is no purpose in saying spend time with friends..and my university exams are up..I have no clue how am I supposed to deal with all this and as a cherry on top my bestfriend and i are fighting 🤷‍♀️

3am Thoughts

Need some Suggestion... 
I met a guy on a dating app. It was the first time used a dating app or been on a date with someone. He was polite and harmless. When we started talking he was very interested initially but after our first meet his message frequency was less then after our second meet he gave me complements like "you are photogenic" he said he want to go on third date but he cancelled at last moment. After two days he replied to my message like he got a muscle pull and he is on bed rest. Then he ghosted me. I was left heart broken because I liked him. Is this a gentleman's way to end thing. If he didn't like me in person he should have said and ended it in first date itself right ?

Hey 
I am a 26 years old guy 
But i have a frnd who is my everything
Like he is just my life yaar
I like him so much 
He   is with me from my childhood
We went through so much together like assualt from families, coming out of the house and living our own life, studying with great hard work, sharing everything.
He is my side when i lost my sister because of my parents, he is my side when i was unconcious, he is my side when i was low after many things happened.
And from his side i am his side when he lost his twin, we are together when he was used by his parents and manymore. 
We just can't be seperated 
Just wanna be together always till the end. 
I saw him suffering and at his lowest times, he too saw me when i am the lowest. 
He is the best in this world
We have been great friends all these years 
But in recent days we are feeling something unusual
Like we are attracted to each other 
I know that i love him so much than anyone in this world 
He loves me like hell
But like what? 
Which relationship? 
I can tell that we are not friends anymore because we kissed, hugged each other
But we can't clarify our relation.
Whenever we talk about it forget about finding answer, we end up conversation as friends. 
We are very comfortable with each other but this thing we can't tell
We saw each other getting harrassed, assualted and molested by our parents but we still can talk about it freely. 
If we are close frnds why did we kiss Or hug? 
If we are more than frnds why can't we open up? 
I can't find answer and we are both boys
Even writing this i showed it to him, he is okay with what i am posting. 
We are too close.. What might have been the answer

I was best friends with him before we started to be in a relationship since last year Nov, we moved in together had a great time cooking and cleaning and being a part of each other’s life. Everything happened so quick maybe because we were best friends. 

In feb, he decided to move to a different country ( Spain ) and he left. Long distance was hard. From being a part of his day to day life to him forgetting to talk to me for days, left me feeling hurt. I tried communicating and telling him how I feel but it always ended in a fight, he used to block me on every platform and after a week or two. 

And he would come back again, this happened for multiple times. In the month of March on my birthday he didn’t even call me to wish me ( we were on good terms then ) it hurt me a lot. 

After a week he said he wants to breakup and he can’t do this anymore. He stopped contacting me and replying to me. I was devastated and for a change I went to visit my family who live in a different country after 45 days I came out strong and more focussed on my life 

When I travelled back and resumed my work, he contacted me wanting to have dinner. So I cooked him fav meal and we had a good conversation. And he said I love you and I said it back. I didn’t realise I was still in love I thought I moved on and I was at a happy place but indeed. We started kissing and making out and he said he can’t be in a relationship anymore bc he wants to focus on his career and life right now. Me being a supportive gf I said I would wait for him until he wants a relationship until then we both can focus on our career but he denied he spoke about marrying someone else down the road and having kids and he said I’m being impractical and I’m living in my fantasy world. He said he came to tell a final goodbye to me. And that he was sorry. I was so confused if that’s the case, why would he say I love you and get close to me ? I mean him ghosting me was a clear sign of goodbye why should he meet me and tell that to me in person. He said he wants to be friends but I really can’t and I denied. 

What hurt the most, is eventho he knows that people from my past had called me emotional and sensitive, and he knows how much that crushed me yet, while leaving he said I’m sensitive. 

And now he moved to the UK ( which wasn’t the plan ) but I guess Spain didn’t work out. He is back to ghosting me again. 

Im breaking again and I can’t afford to. From a guys point of view, what just happened? 
And how do I move on from this. 
I work 730 to 1130pm and I have my thesis so I’m super busy but this thought keeps bothering me all day. Any inputs or support will help
 Thanks for reading this post. 

My ex recently hit me up he was writing stuff like. “I am overprotective of u as I don’t wanna hurt u” and “I can’t lose u again” and some random flirting every now and then my friend told me he now flirts with everyone it means nothing for him I didn’t care since I had no feelings other than friendship for him anyways so I continued talking to him it got really awkward once when I sent him a heart by accident I joked that it was meant for someone else and he got really possessive then we got into a argument and he mentioned the guy he was insecure about during our relationship and said that I should go talk to that dude instead of him. And now he’s suddenly ignoring me all again. It hurts cuz I thought we were friends and at a time I was emotionally vulnerable I ended up telling him a really big secret of my life and now it hurts. What does this dude actually wants I’m confused and sad thanks to him once again 

Friends

I Don't know what to do with my life
I want to tell what I feel right now I have feelings for 2 guys right now.
One I am in love with him from my 6th grade I don't know any one other than him now am 27 our bond was intense and strong at my 10th grade my family got to know about our relation and they are not at all happy with me and had a big fight at home and they beat me up for this(main reason is he a Muslim and am Hindu),But we continued our relation that time we don't have mobiles like now we are in different colleges for +1 and +2 and we are communicating to each other frequently so only we can see each other yearly twice and continued till our engineering and every year we got caught by my parents and I have to face humiliations , beating and emotional black mail of my parents suicide. He is very caring and loving but he has anger management issues from childhood. May be we are in relation from very young age we have lot of beautiful memories of our love as well sad. We had pressure from both families to stop this relationship. After long 12 years of Relation ship we had a breakup(I have said break up as the situation in both families is becoming worse and he loves his family a lot can't leave them to come along with me) and I have said him to move on with his life he didn't agreed but for his sake and make him to move on I was rude and bit harsh to him. I said him not to contact me. He cried and requested but I didn't agreed even I am broken and crying for him. He didn't contacted me for next 2 years and I got to know that he is moved on. I still love him from bottom of my heart.

Here comes the second one whom I met in my office and he know me from the first day of my office and he supported me through my break up and he knows everything about my firstlove. After one year of all this second guy proposed me for marriage but I said him I need time. I thought I should move on and accepted him and we are happy he is very calm and kind and takes care of me as my family is forcing for my marriage I have given the second guy details to them even now they are not happy as I have choose and I didn't gave chance to them. But I was frim and unhappliy they accepted.

Here comes the problem the first guy is waiting from me hoping that one day I will be back to him and his love is unconditional.

I have feelings for both I can't choose one and I can't cheat anyone by getting married and thinking about another one.

Mean while from last year am suffering with chronic migriane ,depression and anxeity. I am felling to commit suicide but a thought what happen to them if I commit sucide is stopping me.I feel to run away from every one.I know am the reason for all these things.Now I have no interest to work on anything no interest to talk to anyone.I don't know how to explain to my parents that i don't want to get married now.

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