Hello I'm in relationship with a guy since 4 years. He takes a great care of me but he's being over possesive he won't let me talk to other boys.And the saddest thing is we are in long distance relationship which hurts me even more.But i do want make good guy friends.

Aditya Sahu

Boys can be over possesive at times. But all time possessiveness is a red flag.

You can make friends.. without any fear .. just keep faith on self .. do it ..
If likes you then he will understand your point as well

It may be because you in long distance relationship that's why he is thinking more about you that you may leave him if someone comes to your life that's why he is pretty serious in this.
may be it's not over possessive.
if he is good guy then he should atleast listen to you because it's your life you can be free to talk anyone, you can't be bound to only talking with him.

hazelnut

You can make friends , but choose the right once 😊 that's all ,
Take care 💞

Relationships

I honestly dont even know where to start… this year has hit me like a truck i left a three year relationship because i fell out of love and i feel i didnt give myself enough time to heal. Then i got into another relationship 2 months later and ive grown so attatched to him. Lately i feel like he hasnt been showing much effort but he makes me feel stupid for talking to him about it. I feel a change in vibe but its so hard to explain and i sound obsessive when i do explain it. Ive been feeling so insecure and lonely lately its not easy having no one to talk to at times 💔

I need an advice.
So there's this guy, he used to like me but i kinda friendzoned him. But then we went on to become best friends, talking about every shit going on in our lives for over 2 years. Then suddenly he started acting busy, I started noticing a pattern that how it was only I who used to initiate a chat, and when i used to confront him, he used to tell me how busy he is, and can only do a call. So I told him that alright, call me up whenever you get free. He called me 2days later, i couldnt pick it up, I called him and then he missed it. That day we decided that okay, we both missed the calls, lets have a call the very next day. It's been more than a month and we haven't talked, i really hoped for him to call, since I have always been the initiator for every chat/talk, but he didnt. I got to know from common friends that he is quite free now and his project is over. We were such close friends, he couldn't just forget me, and should have texted me atleast.
I am really confused what to do now.
Should i text him, call him, wait for him to text/call me, or wait to meet him once college reopens offline.
It's just that I really miss my best friend, and i don't really know why he's acting this way.

Maybe he still likes me, but since I have made it pretty clear that i just want us to be good friends and dont see him in that light, he feels that talking to me now is just a waste of time. But then what about those 2 years of goodhearted friendship.

I really dont know what to do, please help me out!

Friends

I'm a very private, very feeling person. I don't trust people easily, after a very traumatic incident with someone I trusted a lot. It's okay, scars heal. There was one thing that happened a while back that just filled me with this surge of happiness and reassured my faith in loving myself and being loved. 
A very nice friend of mine, whom I had just started getting acquainted with, told me, just out of the blue one day, that he wanted to listen to me play the violin. I'm an amateur violinist and have never felt comfortable about having anybody listen to it. But he insisted, very sweetly, making me feel at ease for sharing this part of myself with him. He said there was something very intimate about having someone play an instrument for you. Or sing. Or paint. Or write. Or just about share a piece of what they've poured into through their art. I had not met this person- yet intimacy to him, and surprisingly to me, meant having to share this moment with each other. 
He told me it meant a lot to him that I played for him, just as it meant a lot to me that I could do that, for him. If only trust came through in art, I'd never have to shut my heart out ever again. Here's hoping ❤️

Happy

My bf doesn’t express his love for me anymore at all. It’s the second year of our relationship, the first year I felt so loved and now it’s the opposite. We had a talk about it recently where he admitted he’s been inexpressive this week and that he’ll improve. He was really good for a day but then again he came back to the same inexpressive self. I mean it’s something as small as not calling me baby, otherwise we used to love calling each other baby. Now he hardly calls me anything like that. I’ve been doing as much as I can for him, I did a lot on our one year, on his birthday I had a countdown plus I arranged stuff. But I can’t bring him to show even a little amount of love and now it’s making me feel more and more distant from him. We spoke about it and it didn’t help now I don’t know what else to do.

Hi , i am 19F , I have been going through a very tough time and none of my friends know about this. I am in a relationship with this guy since 2 years now and he is already married and going through divorce , He kept his marriage a secret. Later when things came out everything was a mess and a huge disaster. should i be with him or not?? This is making my life very confusing and m not able to concentrate on anything else. What should I do? I had no one to talk to about this all

Depression

After being alone my whole life I found my first true friend that eventually became my boyfriend. He could literally read my eyes. He was the only person that had my back in this new city. My friend, my boyfriend, my family he played each role for me. He could never even think of hurting me. He did so much for me that I could barely do for him. He never told me No for anything, he was the person who used to take care of my little little things and remember each minute detail of what I told him. We started dating in August 2021 he literally was the perfect person I ever had and most importantly I could trust despite having serious trust issues and high emotional instability. He calmly handled my every mood. It is always said that trust the actions not the words so I did trusted the actions and thought I found my man.

But the things are changing on his part he says he has problems in his life so he is unable to give his 100%. But the fact is Even I suffer from my problems and tried not to mention them so I don't put my stress on him. One day I needed him in my lows I needed him just to be with me and he showed up for a certain time in which he ate his food without bothering that his girlfriend hasn't eaten since morning and he went back . When I told him that I needed him at that time and I already told him that he has to be with me I am feeling very low. When I confronted him he said that I should understand his problem and it's my fault . But I don't find him like this in front of others. He is the same with them that he used to be before. He said that he can't take care of me 24×7. And that I could leave him if I want. He come to meet me and then boasts like he has did such a great thing by meeting me. But I think he should meet me because he wanted me too.He is changed now and he doesn't accept this.  I don't know what to do? I explain him my feelings so he could know how much all this hurts me . He bothers for a second next time he is doing the same. He clearly says that he can't handle my moods my attention seeking attitude and can't give all this he can't be the way he earlier was and if I want to leave him for this then I should.

 



3am Thoughts

I like this friend of mine for almost 3 years now. I love how everything about him although he's quite insecure in everything about himself. His genuine smiles and cute gestures always really make my day. It's just so sad that the pandemic arrived and we were forced to do online class. Despite the difficulties, we always find ways to communicate with each other. No, it's not like he's only contacting me. He messages everyone in our circle of friends or maybe just send a message to our group chat. 
Though I like him very very much, of course I won't risk to tell him about what I feel. I know some of you will say that I might regret it in the future if someday he will be snatched away in front of me. But it's okay, I mean I know he won't ever look at me like the way I look at him and that I won't ever got a chance in case he knew about my admiration.
He's gay and of course, it's obvious he likes guys. He's not even bi. But I like that about him too. Oh my unrequited love. When will I let you go?


Love

Time and then, things get weird. People change, feelings change and so do we. But can you relate to something you felt that- you can never get 'that damn thing' out from your system. Something you felt when you met someone that they were meant to be the most prestigious ones in your life, those things that you could never change, the similar way you can't change how much you love your parents?
I had that in my life. I met that someone. For that person I am certain, the feelings can never go. I will love him forever. I will be with him forever. Even though we aren't together I've pledged that I won't leave his side. I love him. I am scared that someday he will go away but I know sooner or later I will find him, he will be back with him. I believe that. I know that feeling this way is really hard, going on with this is hard but I have to try, I have to try my best for him. I promise to be with him for better or for worse, in every thick and thin of life. 
 
I love him and I respect him. I hope that he realises this one day and be with me. That's all that I wish for. 

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