Hello friends, I was in a relationship from a month. After a month she started talking harshly to me. We broke up but I was not able to move on so after 5 months I’ve tried to contact her. Now she is with me and accepted her mistake. I am very happy to have her back in my life but I am not able to trust her again. I was living like a hell when she broke up with me, there was not a single day when I didn’t miss her and hadn’t cried. As she is back I’m feeling very good and I don’t want her to leave me again. Am I right to trust her? Should I forgive her? I love her but never told her. I think I am addicted to her. She is now very polite and humble, more than before. I want to trust her, should I? I am in very complicated situation where I don’t know what to do? I think I can only be happy with her as I have seen in those months. But if she again leaves me my situation will be worst than before. Please guys show me the right way.
Hi friend,I can understand your situation and why you feel difficult to trust her again. You are not wrong in feeling vulnerable. And you should be able to discuss that with your partner. Ask her, what was the reason she left you, and if she is sure now and will not leave you again. Be open with her about your insecurities, because somewhere she is responsible for them. In any case, she is your partner and you should be able to discuss your innermost feelings with her. That is the way relationships work…You have to give your heart completely to the other person when in a relationship. And that has two outcomes, either the other person loves you completely or your heart gets broken. But that is a risk you might have to take. Be practical, the way you are being practical right now. Assess and measure the repercussions of every action, but somewhere you will just have to let yourself go. You will have to measure whether the pros of being with her are more than the cons of being with her. But yes, be wise.
She loves me so much if I will deny she will be very upset and I can’t break her heart. But truly I don’t want any relationship I just want her friendship, but she everytimes talks about her past which has given her a lot of pain and she expects many things from me. I want her to be happy with my friendship but she doesn’t want friendship. I don’t know how to make her understand.
I get that. We don’t want to hurt the people we love. And therefore we agree to what they have to say. But sometimes we have to think about our own happiness. And if someone, even if that someone is a dear loved one, seems to be disturbing our peace of mind, then we don’t deserve it. You have to tell her how you feel otherwise the burden of this pressure will really break you down, it’ll all just get worse. Someone who loves you truly will understand your feelings and will try their best to think about you. It cannot always be about that other person. It has to be about you and your emotions too.
Deepanshi @deepanshigupta0
Hey! See i feel you either have a complete faith on her or if you feel that things will be repeated in future again then move on. Because i know this pain too, these things will make you more weak and the situation will be worse. But if you know that you can trust her then don’t think about all these. In a relationship all these things are so common, but its their look out how they deal with it. And if she is humble with you now… I feel you should give one more chance to your relation.
