Hello, everyone… this is my first time herr because i feel like i have nowhere to turn and nobody to speak to. I have been feeling pretty terrible for the past couple of days. Long storry short my girlfriend has bpd and had an episode during wich she acted super crazy, we had an argument , and she said all kinds of terrible things to me, and called me nasty names. And now i feel super hurt and tried texting her to say how i feel because i can’t sleep, these words just keep waking me up and giving me severe anxiety. I am feeling awful that she won’t try talking it out, that she doesnt show me that she cares because i have been hurt and she ignores it and me.
Sanket @sanket
BPD creates a disturbance, it is worthy to note it. Your partner would also be equally disturbed as you because of this, give her some time, she will talk to you once her mood is stable. Don’t lose hope, don’t stop caring for her, you both need each other, you also need to give her some space and time.
Yes i know its hard for her and im goving her time. But when i give space she days that I dont care about her and never did. Also, she ignores this terrible outburst and i tried telling her how hurt it made me feel in a non angry manner but she tells me she doesnt wanna hear it. This feels so heavy, because I always care about her and her feeling and try and be there for her. But using my weakest points and abusive language agains me , that is very painful.
Sanket @sanket
Our partner gives intense pleasure as well as hurt, that’s the beauty of them. Her BPD will test your patience, again and again, keep trying, soon you will find a stable relationship. Very painful but you have to
