Hello everyone. I am searching for advice. I just got out of a long term relationship. It’s been months, but I still cannot think of anyone else. I have tried to go back to this person, but he does not seem to want to try again. What confuses me is I know he used to love me so much. I had no doubt that he did. His family would often even remind me that he loved me so much. He even proposed to me. After the break up, I am truly grieving. I am a mess, but he seems fine. I do not know how he’s alright when he used to love me so much. It’s only been two months. Maybe it’s because sometimes I still text him, so it does not feel like I am truly gone to him yet. It is just so heart breaking when I am crying my eyes out every night while he is fine. What do you think is going on here? I do not plan to wait on him any longer, but this still eats at my brain. If he loved me so much, why does he seem so unbothered? I know they say that they always come back, but I am worried he will never come around. I do not necessarily want to be with him right now, but just to know that he cares. As of right now, he acts like he hates me as a way to push me away. I just don’t know why because I truly did not do anything. I would appreciate any advice or help at all. Anything helps. I am just so confused
Hey, you have to believe this that he won’t be coming back again. Sorry if this is harsh, but please don’t make yourself suffer like this, thinking and expecting him to come. He is gone, forever. It’s a cold statement but it’s the truth. Start afresh, start self love, make new friends, talk to old ones. You have to move on.
I am sorry to hear this.
I truly feel sometimes people fall out of love with no reason just like how we fall in love. We sometimes forget that as we are growing up, we change. Thoughts change, likes dislikes! Whatever it is, you need to accept it and put in the efforts to move on. First thing is you need to stop texting him. For now, be a little selfish and think about yourself. Moving is not easy, but it does get better and easier everyday.
I am cheering you on.
Fighting!!!
If you simply read about people going through these stages, it’ll become more clear that the person going through these never does realize the reality of the situation. One method to rationalize the scenario is putting yourself in a 3rd person’s shoes. Imagine being a outsider seeing all of this in your life. Imagine what that person would recommend to the girl in this story. Generally the 3rd person sees things more clearly since we are invested deeply in the relationship & can’t see the outcomes properly. Help is available to you, always! Feel free to reach out.
I go through this every now nd then with the same person…she cares but then turn so cold after fights that I’m the one initiating to solve things and she turns harsh to everything that I do.I want to quit too. I’m unable to leave that person cz I think she cares on inside but hides it on the outside …but its not true though .Try to get away from him I’m also trying to go away from her .Cz the more we hang on to them then more hurt ,more sad nights ,more tears and feeling of loss of self respect …
Hope the best for you.Shared this ,thought it can help u.
I appreciate you sharing your story with me as well. It helps to know I am not the only one in this type of situation. We will both get through this! I am slowly starting to feel better, and I hope you do as well. It isn’t easy, but I know it is possible.
