Hello everyone,
I am an overthinker and I never had a problem with that. I used to be proud too because of my overthinking nature because I used to explore all the possibilities and opportunities. But as of now and for the past 2 years I have been overthinking negative things. I am 23 and I am in a relationship. we both are very good at our careers and we love each other very much. He gives respect to my job, my skills everything. He is not an overthinker. We together are planning to go to the other country for our higher studies and we will be living in our home country for only 44 days more. The only problem I have is he is an addict to porn. He has been watching it since his school days. But after entering into this relationship he understood that I have a problem with him watching porn and he tried and he is evening trying to reduce it. He also said as he habituated to it, it is just a habit nothing more than that. But he used to see every porn star before our relationship. I tried to understand him and even tried but my mind just can not accept him seeing another girl’s body. Whatever am trying to do whatever he is trying to make me understand it is not happening. I am trying to involve in different things to distract from this thought. It is not happening. I just don’t want to think abt this and I really love him soo much. I already asked him many and many questions and maybe he was fed up answering me too. I don’t want to ask him any other questions or doubts abt this and I don’t want to think about it. I am even getting anxiety attacks because of this. Please help me in what way I should be peaceful and have a good sleep. I really don’t want to waste my time in this way.
Kabir Rajput @hanh316
Try to busy ourself
I am trying to do that but it is not working
Kabir Rajput @hanh316
Then do one thing change yourself by doing some busy things and learning new things and talking to that person who makes you happy like your mom and dad and try to listen music which heal your pain…
But the question is …is it really okay to watch porn knowing that am suffering in this way? I am not able to come out of those looping thoughts
Mahi Choudhary @_feelz
Hey hey hey …cool …its normal…take it in a normal way… he is trying…to control his habits but u also have to control your thoughts… don’t divert yourself… change the way of thinking…may be it would help 😇😇
At some point I had doubt on him that is he really trying to reduce it…
But he said “I am really trying to reduce it”
Kabir Rajput @hanh316
No watching porn at this age is not ok over all first try to do something that’s make your life more beautiful and get a secure a future after that you can watch or do
Mahi Choudhary @_feelz
I don’t think making yourself busy would help you to get rid of all these thoughts… I’m a overthinker person too yr…and I think most of the girls suffer with this …bruh … frankly saying…you r thinking too kuch…take the porn stars as normal celebrities…try to convenience yourself that they r acting too …now a days its normal…to watch porns…ya i know most of the girls don’t watch them… but bruh …boys do!! Accept this…and if your bf is saying something please trust him…are you getting jealous of them…no… please don’t you r much much better than them… your boy trust you now it’s your turn to make him feel comfortable with his habits…try helping him to get rid of this…make his mind diverted…i had a relationship but…i said him to stop all this …i never had any problem with him for watching…coz i myself accepted that this is just a feeling… I can’t be with him everytime na!!!..same bruh!! U also need to convenience yourself 🤗🤗🤗🙂🙂let not this overthinking control you…you control your thoughts…try thinking about your good times…your future…u gonna stay together happily…if you try accepting this as a normal thing…and not make it toxic for you both…this may harm your relationship 🙂🙂 please work on your thoughts…god bless you 🤗
Heyy thank you soo much for the reply I really got tears when I am reading this… I am trying to understand this but I don’t know why am overthinking abt this soo soo much. It is affecting me, my boyfriend, my mom is thinking that I am being upset for some other thing cos she doesn’t know what gng on… I really don’t know when I will stop thinking this… can you plss plss plss tell me are there any ways that I can really reduce to think abt this… or did u follow any particular things to accept this.
Find a hobby … Cause that will help as a distraction … And as the other person said give him time and trust him, you’ll be only hurting yourself that way … And if he’s trying to reduce he’ll definitely stop … I can’t tell you anything to stop overthinking cause I also overthink everything
