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โš•๏ธDepression

๐Ÿง‘Anxiety

๐Ÿ˜ฐStress

๐Ÿ’—Relationships

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Anonymous

Hello,
An unknown fear grips me every night before I go to sleep. I have been dealing with a lot recently and the only person I could speak my heart out turns out to be a false place of hope.
She is so good at pretending and she acts like she loves me but deep down I know she does not. She always preferred infatuation over love. And despite my best efforts, I know she will never understand how I feel about her. Everyday I am fighting a losing battle. The wish that if only I had a true friend in my life. I want the truth and I am not getting it. That breaks my hurt.

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Anonymous
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Hi. We all have things running through our minds before bed. Usually, when Iโ€™m tossing and turning, I think of being back in my parents home, in my old bedroom. It wasnโ€™t the safest place to live but I felt comfortable there. I end up falling asleep so fast.

Itโ€™s tough when you find out that the person whom you confided in isnโ€™t truly interested in you and your wellbeing. Itโ€™s up to you to decide if you want to continue to have that in your life or not.

You will eventually find someone whom you can trust. Maybe they are in your life right now? Maybe not, but most definitely will be in the future.

Give yourself some time to heal. Write what youโ€™re feeling in a journal and at some stage, you will be able to stop fearing opening up to someone.

We all worry about being rejected or used, itโ€™s always in the back of my mind but giving people the chance to show that you can trust them means that they can trust you too.

Good luck.

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Anonymous
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Sorry to hear that. Itโ€™s going to be alright. How about starting with some self love and self care. ๐Ÿ˜‡
You already know that this person is fake. You wonโ€™t end happy if you keep chasing her. Letโ€™s say you convince her to love you but deep inside you know it wonโ€™t be as pure as you feel for her. So may be itโ€™s time to stop trying so hard you know. True love is out there. Some lady out there is waiting out there to give you the love you deserve.
This is your mind trying to scare you that you wonโ€™t be happy without her. Try to break it down logically. You can start writing down the things that she did that hurt you. On the flip side you can write what do you look for in your ideal partner. So your mind will finally see that she isnโ€™t good news. All the fighting for what? If you think she doesnโ€™t understand you there is no point in pursuing her. You will be dissatisfied your whole life because this is not what you are looking for man. Give it some time.
Take a break from this and try to discover yourself. Who are you, what are your likes and dislikes, what do you want from life, what would you like to do that you have never done before. Explore yourself and get comfortable with yourself.
A partner is a part of life, not the entire world. This person is supposed to share your oldage with you so it is very important whom you chose.
Hope this helps! Take care. Reply if you want to talk more on this. I am all ears.

@overthinkinggirl
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hello, I get that you feel betrayed and hurt but I really need to ask, have actually sat down and talked to her about how you feel. You canโ€™t know a personโ€™s exact true feelings without asking them maybe thereโ€™s a misunderstanding.
I have felt lonely too heck I feel so damn alone right at this moment and itโ€™s easy to think that thereโ€™s no one in this world who cares about you. but they are there, like your family.
so why donโ€™t you try talking with your mom or dad or siblings.

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