Guys…when I get into relationship I give my 100%. But when I see no future I flip back. I had a breakup last month…I liked the guy but he had to go to abroad for further studies and he wouldn’t be coming back. So ldr was not the option. I initiated the breakup and we broke up mutually. Does this make me a strong woman or weak?
Prabhakar M N @mnpsatan13
It makes you a pragmatic woman
Really? Then why do I think that it makes me weak? I cried after that…but I knew that decision was right.
Prabhakar M N @mnpsatan13
Maybe you cried because of residual guilt or because you were earlier attached. And society norm that people who cry are weak. You will get over it eventually and focus on future. There are many years and many things to accomplish
Obviously I was attached…infact I still like him…I am still in moving on stage.
Prabhakar M N @mnpsatan13
It will definitely take time cause we are all humans. And maybe longer for people with beautiful hearts.
Feel free to connect with me. I also might have something of mine to discuss
Hope @anya_forger
It definitely makes you a strong! I love how you took that first step of initiation which is the hardest decision to make! So much love and strength to you!✨❤️
Thanks…but after that I get moments of weakness so many times…I break down.
Hope @anya_forger
It happens! But know why you chose that decision and keeping going in life!
Yeah…cheers!
Hansh @hansh
Its not about strong or weak…you guys could have mutually took that and would have gone for long distance. If it was strong enough 🤷🏻♂️ giving up soo Easily wasn’t a option
No ldr was out of option
Hansh @hansh
It was mutual soo great but be in touch with him as a great frnd that will be better ig
It make you who you are a women knows what right for her
Sometimes it takes more strength to end a situation than it does to endure it. And you did the right thing
Hey thanks…at times I need this assurance that I did right.
You’re entitled to your own happiness. You better put you first everyday girl
Yess
We took the decision very carefully…I don’t doubt it…because our future vision is completely different. And I don’t wanna suffer. I want a simple relationship. And he also deserve to be happy.
Feeling weak and Being strong look like very different things. However these two occurrences, especially in women, are almost always experienced hand in hand. It takes just one decision to be strong. But the mind can be so delicate at times, and we are taught to apologize! And to be emotional! And to be inferior. And that is the reason you may feel weak. You just have to tell yourself you will not be passive and you will trust your instinct. You have to reprogram your brain. The long history of patriarchal culture lingers in our thoughts, feelings, and habits. You can end it in yourself. You can act and feel strong.
Yesss exactly…thank you…you just spoke my mind.
Yes…I am apologetic for small inconveniences to others…ig that’s what we are taught. Guys just do anything and be ok with it.
From one fighting woman to another, you’re not alone, you’re loved, we have your back.
Thanks
This is the society we live in. Take the first step and stop apologizing<3
Ok
Sanket @sanket
Uh so is it logical to say that you should avoid relationships until and unless you guys are getting engaged in the near future and then marry?
A simple change in environment will always bring distance and hence breakups are inevitable based on what you said above.
No…as I said I give 100% …if the change was something that could have been comparable on I would have. Like being in same country but different states or he going to abroad for a certain amount of time. But no here the situation was completely out of my hands. Our paths were going in opposite directions. He Saif for next 4 years I won’t be coming and after that I will get a PR. So yeah…and my future decisions can’t be based on him. I have different plans. We are just 21.
Black widow @shreya0208
Compromisable*
Sanket @sanket
So what happens if a person who has a different path/plan compared to yours comes into your life?
Does your 100% include adapting? Am sorry to poke but massive changes occur in our lives when we complete our education when we start working or maybe when we pursue further education and these always bring challenges in a relationship.
Also, the pain that you must be going through is worst, hope you never see such things again in your life. It is devastating
My 100% includes possible things…obviously people come in your life and they don’t tune in and they leave…ig that’s what called life and exploring. That’s how you find the one. And imagine he won’t be coming for next 4 years and then after that he will live there forever…so yeah my future plans don’t coincide with him. Actually it goes in opposite direction. I don’t wanna suffer and make him suffer too.
Sanket @sanket
Yes, I got that already, and whatever you did was appropriate and beneficial in long term.
Anyways you are young enough and I believe many major changes would be coming your way.
I’m actually confused with my own thoughts here.
Hope you will always be kind and humble!
