Guys please help me out. I am a divorcee who has a six year old kid. I got to know this man of my age only 35 year old. And he proposed to me. He always said I need to be cherished and celebrated. And he was a commissioned officer in Indian Army. Who has bad shoulder injury and had to take a retirement and now into a good apparel business and belongs to a pretty well to do family in Delhi. He would not spend anytime without calling me or texting me. Then he suddenly told me he has got severe work pressure to deliver clothes till December. Then his calls n texts went down. He always tried to meet me earlier. And now he is not even trying. It doesn’t hurt me. But I felt bad. I asked him clearly about that. And he would be like u always scold me and get really terrified. Please don’t be angry on me. And then he started partying and drinking too. This is his old habit. If I object he would say come along. Mere saath chalo. Milo friends se. I just meet my friends nothing else. U ll also know them. I never party n booze and I have my child to take care of. I said no. He says u don’t want to come out and don’t tolerate me to enjoy too. I told him that I don’t want to continue. He said u are letting everyone go and that’s how all ll leave. I have done mistake and now let me fix this. He says good words but he is not doing anything to fix. And today I have told him that I am done with him. Is it right what have I done? Or I should have waited a little. Please guide me without any bias🙏
Given the condition i think you have done right. Let him live without you for several months and then I wish he gets on the right path and you two be together again. Even if he doesn’t transform in the given time let it be. Accept the situation and move on … You are a strong lady I believe in you. May you and your child find true happiness✌️
Thank you for your support. It really means a lot. At this juncture of my life. ❤️
Thank you dear. Thanks for the trust and support u have shown. I have become so numb to this World that now nothing really matters except my son’s health and education. I am sailing through this and I don’t want to settle down for something that lowers my self esteem.
He is retired as he had a bad shoulder injury. And lost his elder brother two years back. His life has not been easy I know. But then I am not an emotional baggage to him…I was caring and was available emotionally to him, despite my busy work and home schedule. Yes, I could never go out in the evenings when he got free and would not invite anyone to my place. My son’s mental peace is something I would never compromise with.
I won’t say you’ve done right or wrong. Since you are divorced (I don’t have any idea how long you’re) , but as human being everybody needs a partner to spend his/her life. Since after your past experience whatever it was good or bad. You came up strongly and you are still doing that. And in between the way you met him and you both clicked, it’s natural. But despite everything happened between you both if anyone either him or someone else hurts your feelings or goes against your principles of life, where you have to compromise .Then just leave that person cause you already have done alot of compromise before.
You are strong lady, so I would say just continue with your life, you will meet many people in near future, maybe someone better is waiting for you. So just stay calm nd move on.
Thank you ❤️❤️🙏…I will not just now down to bread crumbing even there is an emotional void in my life. If someone is going to honour me, I ll be with him. More than an emotional settlement I need an honourable settlement in my life.
I am glad it was helpful to you. Just try to keep yourself calm in any situation and yahhh don’t ever forget that you’re really very very strong and tough emotionally and physically both. So don’t let these small waves bother your voyage of life. 😇
Moreover just vent yourself out, and if you need to talk or want a company. Just feel free to hit the connect button anytime! Always there to help 😅
I think you have communicated your boundaries very clearly. Its right to do this. You can easily go in afternoon and go out with friends, not necessary in evening. I am a divorcee and I know how it works. Regarding your friendship, you decide whats best, there are no absolute rights or wrongs. Be with him as friend and let time take its course. Wish you and your child happiness.
Mitr un shaks ko chorkar aap ne sahi kiya ab ap bas apne bache aur apne upar focus kro kyu ki unhe agar kuch improve krna hota relationship mai to wo krte khali bolte nahi
I am so thankful to all of u. I can’t be more grateful. God bless u all, u are such a family! Yes I have come out of that. And I m not feeling bad about anything. Life goes on, but honour should not be lost.
anuj @anujvohra
Great. Best wishes.
