Got engaged to the love of my life few weeks back. I was supposed to be happy but my parents are ruining everything. I m from India and where dowry or certain give N take of money and gifts always happens. I cleared it with my fiance that nothin of this sort will be done and we all agreed.
On engagement day my mom kept repeating that guyβs family should give some jewellery to me to show in society. They agreed for that too. My mom also asked them if anything needs to be done from our side for the guy we will do it. To which guys family said nothing we just want a normal wedding according to culture.
Since my mom asked 100 times what happens in the wedding at there side the guys brother said that family N people who come to wedding you can give clothes. To which my mom dad got offended saying how can they ask such thing. Now itβs all mess if I see my mom dad started this whole give N take and showoff conversation now when they said something itβs a problem. I just donβt know what to do. I canβt talk to them too as they will say I m taking guys side and all the emotional torture that we invested in your education and let you work will start. I donβt want that. What do I doπππy
First of all congratulations on your engagement , I too belong from India and I understand in a love marriage it becomes quite frustrating to make our parents understand things, and frankly your journey from here till marriage would be frustrating , annoying , you have to listen to that complaning fufaji , and you know when you will look back all this would seem sweet memories π
As for your problem, they best way is obviously talking , I feel you should talk to your fiance and arrange a meeting of your parents. In love marriage they donβt get time to understand each other sides. If you guys can take them on some small get together and sort these things out amicably.
Thank you. They have met once yet things havenβt changed π
Itβs a reiterative process my friend, you have to talk to your parents, then their parents , then give them time to understand each other , and reach some middle ground. And I know talking with parents becomes frustrating yaar and specially when you have found the groomπ
