Got alot on my mind lately. A few weeks ago i read my fiancees phone and seen a message to one of his old friends. Not sure if they ever dated or not. Bothers me though because he told her that he would come pick her up after work sometime to got to breakfast. They both work 3rd. He was talking her to regularly while on his breaks at work. But when i confronted him about it, of course he tried to say it was nothing and that im overreacting. I am aware he is a gaslighter. Also found tons of dating sites that he was on. When i confronted him about it he said he didnt do it, its all bots etc…well im not stupid. I hacked his account during a moment of craziness. Deleted him from most sites. NOW…he has never acted on these. He swears he only wants me. I truly do love him but there is this nagging feeling in me that doesnt trust him at all. I constantly want to know who he is talking to where he is. Im just not sure what to do anymore…
Akash Dalal @skybroker
what else do you think he is hiding?
It will be a really tough thing for you to do but you have to maintain some distance from himfor a few days and even weeks. If he gets worried and tried to make things better then confront him and tell him that this is bothering you and you suspect cheating. At this point just note his reaction. If he tries to emotionally manipulate you by saying that you dont trust him and saying that YOURE at fault then you have to save your ass and leave him asap. If he genuinely tries to improve for the next few days then he is worth another shot. I think that he is cheating and that the sooner you leave the better but there might be a side to his story also. Keep and open mind and to understand where this is coming from.
Thank you all for the input. Definitely will be doing some deep thinking.
