Convey this message to her now I don't have guts

God I love her 

Love

Lol... I need a boyfriend 💖

Crush

I don't have a girlfriend, someone will be my girlfriend 

Relationships

So there is a girl I have been loving since years. We were never in so called "relationship", but we were very close. We used to share everything. There was another boy who she used to call close friend,but she used to comfort me by saying that he is never gonna be taking my place(I was always insecure about).
Then one fine day I got busy for work for almost 3 months(which I already informed her that please if you need me please communicate properly). I used to work for almost 18 hrs a day at that time and at the same time my grand father was on his death bed. I tried my level best to be there for her. When I used to ask her if everything is fine...she used to say "yeah all good"(wanted me to understand by myself,  she told I was so busy that I did realize what she was going through). At this time the other guy, used this opportunity to get close to her and comfort her. She literally told me you were not there when she needed me the most, but at that time I was so much occupied(I would have been there if I would have been communicated).

Now there are in relationship,  and she wants me to be there as her friend.
She says that she misses me a lot and no body can ever understand her the way I understood her. But I can't see her with anyone else(especially not him). It just hurt a lot. I miss her a every day, I miss her like anything.... Just don't wanna loose her.


Please do let me know what should I do, it's been 7.5 years we being together. It's just so hard to let her go...







Thank you for giving me your attention if you are reading this.

I will be sharing something about my connection with someone in this post today, and I would appreciate your constructive feedback on whether I am thinking in the right direction or not.

2013 was when I and the girl met for the first time in a coaching center preparing for our entrance exams. 

We never really talked though. Our batch ended, we got admitted into different colleges in our own state in the same Engineering stream.

In 2016, her exam center was my college and we connected after 3 years via Facebook. 

After a few months of chatting, she confessed her feelings for me since 2013, for the first time. Though I liked her too at that time, I didn't really commit to her for an official relationship, and she was ok with it. 

I joined my job in 2017 in my own state, and she moved to a metro city for further preparations, and she got a job for her in 2018.

We kept in touch through WhatsApp Chats, Audio Calls, Video Calls, on a daily basis, and met only twice as now, when things were a little serious between us, she used to work in a different state and could meet only when she came back for holidays.

This is where the story turns now.

In 2019, I told her that I was not ready for marriage yet, due to multiple reasons and we had to break off. 

But as it happens after breakups, the missing and emotional pain, we still stayed in touch, not as much as before, but enough to know that how much we missed each other.

Anyhow, 2 years passed in this on and off situation, and now when in June 2021 I am ready to settle and get married, as I am financially confident to support my family, I reached out to her again, told her about my willingness to settle with her.

It was then that I got to know that now she isn't ready, as first, she is in a relationship with someone, and also that she isn't ready to get married even with him for at least a year and a half.

So the conversation ended again. 

Then in August 2021, I got to know that she and her bf broke up, so I told her, that I don't care about her past and am still willing to get married to her, if she still has feelings for me, and wants to give us a chance.

We talked for a week or so, and then I got to know that mentally she is still in her past, and is not ready to move on to the future. She is an overthinker and this has led her to a partial depression in the past which affected her work and heath too.

When I sensed that she isn't willing to forget the past, and that I am bothering her and confusing her about what she should be doing in her life right now, I told her to take time and reach out to me whenever she is ready.

But at the same time, she knows that my family is looking for suitable matches for an arranged marriage.

Now, I am stuck between the family, and the girl whom I don't know is even ready to get settled with me, or even if she loves me or not. I don't want her to get into Stockholm syndrome, and settle with me now, and then realize after marriage that she was just in a negative phase back then and that she doesn't really love me.

So, should I be talking to her again, or should I wait for her to approach me when she is ready?

Please share your opinions, respectfully, about what you understood and think about the situation. I would love to know your opinions about the story.

Thanks

It’s been some months now when I confessed my feeling ms for her. She said she dosent feel the same way. I got broke, I never let something so close to me shatter myself in pieces. And after that she told me we could be friends, I agreed. But as time went by , I couldn’t hold it in . The sense of someone knowing about the way I feel about them and them pretending everything’s okay is just messing with my head. She goes and keeps coming back. I tried moving on but nothing helps . She’s far away now, happy with her new friends and new city vibes, but I suffer night, the memories haunt me with each rising night. I cannot let her go, if I lose her I’ll lose myself, a part of me, and not can I keep her with me? I don’t know what to do, I’m lost, All this is affecting my studies and it’s clearly visible to her, but she doesn’t speak a word. I crave for her voice everyday. Somebody please tell me what to do. I dont wanna give myself to my darkness again !


One Sided Love

A girl said she likes me. We went on the trip and had a really good time. Just after coming back she says she is has a weird feeling and is not able to feel anything like that now. It has been more than a month. I feel low and lack confidence. What should I do? I dont want to talk to ger again. But this feeling always reminds me of her and what she did.

Anxiety

So i did breakup with my ex as of now she's my
ex so it is ex haha, the reason to breakup with
her was I'm the guy who needs to get
understood no matter what, I've been through
like hell, which i was there by myself nd
sometimes my friends where there for me, my
ex she used to not understand me much, it had
been 2 months of dating we were like attached
to each other before dating nd after we started
to date we were totally attached to each other
but lately the fights started to happen over
small issues nd she used to get sad or emotional for it and didn't used to talk like 2 days nd again we used to talk, she didn't used to have anger for much time, so that was pretty good of her okay so idk lately I wasn't at all interested in her anymore because i always used to make efforts to
make her happy, but i never was happy she
never made anything to make smile this never
worked out so but still I kept on compromising nd all stuff forgot to mention it was clearly a casual dating life okay so the mama needs to be treated like a queen it seems okay but for that I need to know that she is special so that she can be treated she had demands to travel in car when I couldn’t take out car nd if I do with friends she used to compare bcz my friends are there from long but she was from now nd silly stuffs so I decided nd took forward the step of leaving her this was my first step towards myself like standing for myself which I never used to do it, nd lately so I thought to say our common friends we broke up bcz things weren’t working properly I said them this reason but she was like he changed he wasn’t the one like he used to be nd doesn’t give me time dude this is causal dating what does expect things dude a guy gets his own mood swings so I stay away from everyone where I need time for myself which she never understood but still she’s like after all the things u blamed me I’m a bad person to my friends nd all she said , she was the one who let me down at the first place nd why would she do like this this was totally unfair well after breaking up I was daymn happy nd exited she wasn’t ever ready for my lifestyle nd her thinking were like village thoughts mine were like city thoughts it’s a metaphor whatever just wanted to say it out hahah 

Frustration

here is my story plz help me, i could be long but i have said everything from my heart.,
I was 18 when I first met her, I was in school 11-12th standard, I totally loved her, she also loved me we both were in love and were ready to do anything for each other, we never touched each other, we just used to look at each other and that too 3 times in a day as I was in commerce department and she was in science, we were happy by this only when we go back to home from school we used to chat on mobile for hours and hours we were totally in love. and then something happens, when our school days were about to over I texted her that I need to talk to u she said ok, on the phone only we discussed our future she said whatever you want I am ready and we decided that ok we will do our college, get a job, talk to parents and get settled with each other, we both belong to a different society and that too from different state { in Indian society it matters} we both wanna marry each other. but after a month she came back from her one of her long-distant sisters love marriage and called me said u know I was in that marriage and it was hell for the parents of her sister they were crying that what she has done, family reputation has been thrashed, no one came from family,no one was happy etc etc. and she was sad thinking same will happen with us also, then I asked her what do u want she said no matter what she is going to marry me as she love me more than anything else and suddenly broke down by thinking about future, then we hang up, for days I was stuck in her words thinking again and again what she said bcz in my family it wasn’t going to be a big deal but for her family, it was a taboo, I started to think that bcz of me she will never going to be happy, her family will fell apart i cried for day that what to do i just cannot leave her, but with a heavy heart i called talked her that look this is truth that we love each other but i cannot see u unhappy bcz main purpose for marrying u is that i want every happiness on your feet and if i marry u like this u will never be happy she was just saying hmm hmm hmm, i cut the phone bcz i was about to broke down and eventually i did, i just cant say to her that let forget each other, then she texted me said r u ready to this ? i said how would i live without u, she said we will learn and that day we blocked each other from everywhere and i broked my sim card bcz i couldn’t control my self from calling her, then i moved to college, i was doomed I couldn’t sleep at night, my head always hurts, eventually i deleted every social media a/c insta,FB etc ,

And today its been 8yrs almost , i cannot change my self, i couldn’t sleep and my head still hurts, i don’t talk much, i hardly any frnds left, still i am not on any social media , man i am doomed , i cry once every month don’t know why, its not that i didn’t try to forget her I just cant whenever a girls approach me i just can’t look at that girl or in fact any girl. in my whole life i didn’t touch any girl, in fact i didn’t touch her bcz i didn’t love her for her body it was nothing for us.

frankly saying i tried to contact her in b/w { almost 3yrs ago }she seems different person now, last time when i texted her from one of my friends a/c she said i don’t know u, i have nothing to do with me, leave me alone, you are a liar and disrespected me very badly, she said doesn’t want to see me n ol, don’t know why she said that but from that day i didn’t contacted her, i respect her decision, she doesn’t want me its ok, but plz someone give me solution how to forget her, I don’t know what to do i am tired man, i dont know what to do i am 26 i am CS i don’t know where i am going, i just work, study ,work ,study and about 20-25 girls contacted me b/w till now but i broke their heart also and i m sorry for that i feel guilty for that , but what can i do … fuuuuccckkkkkkkkkkkkkk why cant i fucking change

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